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Robbo said:
That sounds a bit strange. Do you not get on with her or something?

Anyway, sorry to hear about your dad. Not a great time for all this to transpire right before Christmas. :(

Though I suppose Christmas is pretty insignificant compared to what your family is going through.

Stay strong.
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My sisters husband said to her a few years ago about why she doesnt show us any affection. she said its because her mum never did. my brother is the favourite so its a different story with him.
She never says I love you, only to my brothers kids, none of the others. The first time I heard her and my dad saying they loved each other was a few weeks ago in the hospital. My mum is very much a closed book when it comes to showing emotions
 
secretspy said:
My sisters husband said to her a few years ago about why she doesnt show us any affection. she said its because her mum never did. my brother is the favourite so its a different story with him.
She never says I love you, only to my brothers kids, none of the others. The first time I heard her and my dad saying they loved each other was a few weeks ago in the hospital. My mum is very much a closed book when it comes to showing emotions
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I imagine that is going to make all of this even harder for you if you think she's sort of 'ignoring' you. :(

At least you know what she's like I suppose.
 
Been through it myself so know how you must be feeling. Wish you and your family the best of luck. Chin up, try stay strong.
 
Sorry to hear your sad news secretspy, you will be in our thoughts and prayers.
My wife lost her mum at Christmas through similar circumstances; you have our deepest sympathies.
 
/hug

It's one of the most painful experiences of life losing someone close. Time is a healer though, take care of yourself and those you care about.
 
Sorry to hear about that secretspy.

Thoughts are with you, and I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say let us know if the forum community can help in anyway.
 
Thanks everyone. Just got back from hospital and antibiotics haven't worked so he's been taken off to make him more comfortable. My sister and I just stood by him and I held his hand to let him know we were there. Docs opinion is that he's very close but she said it could be another week.

Feel bad for only seeing him a couple of hours each day though we are all seeing him throughout the day.
 
Man i feel for you.. I have been through exactlly the same sort of thing over the last couple of years.. My dad was diagnosed with Bowel cancer this time 2 years ago and unfortunately we lost him on the 2nd of July this year. He did really well getting as far as he did and in the end he was in a lot of pain and in a way i am glad he went in his sleep rather than prolonging his pain. The hurt will never go away and i think about him every day and this will be the first ever xmas without him. Even just writing this is very hard but it sometimes helps knowing others have been or are in the same boat as yourself..

Take it easy and although he may be gone shortly he will not be in any pain or suffering..
 
My Mum Died from cancer in October so I have a fairly good idea what it's like for you, it's horrendously tough to deal with. It sounds a lot worse for you and what you're having to deal with though; unfortunately there's nothing anyone can say which will truly help even though everyone offers.

With Mum when she was slipping in/out of conciousness we could still talk to her by having her squeeze our hand - one squeeze for no, two for yes; it's worth a thought.

If you'd like someone to talk to feel free to email me.
 
Oh my, my thoughts are with you and your family at this time SS :(

Must be horrible... But wish for the best, he is a fighter and i'm sure he can pull through, best wishes.
 
So sorry for you. I wish you, your family and your father the best of luck; just try and stay optimistic. I myself couldn't imagine being in such a position, so I don't know how it feels, but I can imagine it being very hard indeed.
 
Pho said:
My Mum Died from cancer in October so I have a fairly good idea what it's like for you, it's horrendously tough to deal with. It sounds a lot worse for you and what you're having to deal with though; unfortunately there's nothing anyone can say which will truly help even though everyone offers.

With Mum when she was slipping in/out of conciousness we could still talk to her by having her squeeze our hand - one squeeze for no, two for yes; it's worth a thought.

If you'd like someone to talk to feel free to email me.
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so sorry to hear that :(

My dad kept shifting as if he was trying to roll onto his side but his throat is so dry that he can't speak. I did say to him to squeeze my hand if he wanted to lay on his side but I'm not sure if he fully understood :(
I notified my other sister who is two hours away and she is coming tomorrow and staying over so hopefully whilst I'm back and forth at work she can help support my mum in my absence.

Never thought it would come to this :'(

Of course we are all hoping for a miracle but even if he did pull through the pneumonia the cancer is in his bones now and looking today he has lost even more weight. Doctors believe he won't be with us much longer :(
 
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