In the long run though what does it matter where you are in the short term? Have you even asked her what she thinks yet?
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In the long run though what does it matter where you are in the short term? Have you even asked her what she thinks yet?
a. Negotiate a few days in the office and some working from home.
b. Commute
c. Get a flat, cheap B&B, caravan hire, lodgings, house share etc et etc and work Leeds Mon-Fri and come home at weekends.
A job miles away does not always mean you have to move your whole family.
Just make sure the reloaction package and salary increase you negotiate is worth it.
b. Commute
c. Get a flat, cheap B&B, caravan hire, lodgings, house share etc et etc and work Leeds Mon-Fri and come home at weekends.
A job miles away does not always mean you have to move your whole family.
Just make sure the reloaction package and salary increase you negotiate is worth it.
This is very true. A guy that has now relocated to my Wakefield office spent his weekends in Northumberland and the week in Worthing! So it's perfectly possible, even if it is a bind.
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Of course I have. She won't move.
I would never move for a job, sounds like it's time for pastures new.
You have to remember to a company you're just a number, they might say how great and indispensable you are but when the nitty comes to the gritty you're just a "worker".
Having been made redundant twice I now ensure I keep a good work/life balance as I'm aware that the whole "commitment/loyality" things is a fallacy and only works one way
You have to remember to a company you're just a number, they might say how great and indispensable you are but when the nitty comes to the gritty you're just a "worker".
Having been made redundant twice I now ensure I keep a good work/life balance as I'm aware that the whole "commitment/loyality" things is a fallacy and only works one way
This is the thanks you get for helping build a company, NONE.
Find another job and take great pleasure in telling them to go and **** them selves.
End of the day look out for no1 and your family, everything else comes second.
Don't even consider the commute and weekend thing, it will drive you insane.
Find another job and take great pleasure in telling them to go and **** them selves.
End of the day look out for no1 and your family, everything else comes second.
Don't even consider the commute and weekend thing, it will drive you insane.
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This exactly.
Plus advance purchase Bristol to Leeds is £100 per round trip. That would be £400 on rail tickets each month alone.
I'm very good at my job, so I'm finding another job and taking the redundancy . I'm just not happy about it.
It's just another option, personally I'd sack it, take the redundancy package and find a new job.
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i live in stoke in the week, and come back home at weekends, i used to drive everyday, but couldnt be arsed when the snow hit, now im used to staying in 2 places, it aint that bad!!
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I think you just have to look at this logically and ignore the things that don't impact on the equation. Your Canada move is in the future so don't let that influence the decision. Things aren't going to stay the way they are so you are going to have some sort of huge upheaval regardless so the best thing to do is decide which "major upheaval" is the lesser of two evils.
1- Quit the job and have the huge uncertainty of being out of work at a time where finding jobs isn't easy and being limited to jobs in your area.
2- Accept the move and work round it, having the upheaval of you moving during the week or your wife moving when she doesn't want to but at least having the security of having the job and money coming in.
To be honest i think number two is the no-brainer in this case even if it means you are taking the move short-term with every intention of looking for another job.
1- Quit the job and have the huge uncertainty of being out of work at a time where finding jobs isn't easy and being limited to jobs in your area.
2- Accept the move and work round it, having the upheaval of you moving during the week or your wife moving when she doesn't want to but at least having the security of having the job and money coming in.
To be honest i think number two is the no-brainer in this case even if it means you are taking the move short-term with every intention of looking for another job.
Where is home?
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Put your foot down! Leeds is a lovely city. Would she rather you have no income? Besides its not that far away in the Canadian scale of things.
Exactly, it's their loss, don't move on their account as they've shown their true colours.
An opportunity to lend you talents to another role, it's their loss.
Yeah cause a argument and rift with his wife just before Xmas, EPIC idea
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Put my foot down? ha. Our relationship is not a dictatorship.
On top of that, she works in a law firm and makes just as much as I do. She's also had her job longer than I've had mine. She's not just going to up and leave it on my account.
If your wife earns the same as you, it could be tough but you can afford to take the redundancy and look for work.
I too worked for a startup and learnt the hard way that companies will screw you over if they can. They will not have loyalty towards you regardless of what you've done for them if it means they can save some money. In priorities, family, yourself and your work life balance come way above loyalty to any company.
I too worked for a startup and learnt the hard way that companies will screw you over if they can. They will not have loyalty towards you regardless of what you've done for them if it means they can save some money. In priorities, family, yourself and your work life balance come way above loyalty to any company.