making contact with family

Skiddley · 29 Aug 2006 at 13:12

I'm in a similar position, not seen him for 9 years and about to make contact as my brother is getting married next year and we want to form a relationship beforehand.

Hard, really hard. Worst bit is my mother and the effect it will have on her. Not to mention the fact that the last time I saw him was in court when I was a witness against him in a drink driving case :rolleyes:

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spike's · 29 Aug 2006 at 13:25

big_white_dog84 said:
Doesn't he have any relatives that might be easier to find in the first instance - his brothers / sisters / mother / father etc? They might know where he is.

the problem is i can only just about remember where they used to live. i was about 11 the last time i would have seen any of them. so i think its going to be hard to find them.
i know the pub he used to drink at when i saw him last, so mayb someone there would know how to contact him. the only problem with this is that its about 100miles from me.

spike's · 29 Aug 2006 at 13:26

Skiddley said:
I'm in a similar position, not seen him for 9 years and about to make contact as my brother is getting married next year and we want to form a relationship beforehand.

Hard, really hard. Worst bit is my mother and the effect it will have on her. Not to mention the fact that the last time I saw him was in court when I was a witness against him in a drink driving case .

did you allready know how to contact him? or did you manage to find it somehow?

spike's · 29 Aug 2006 at 13:27

thanks for the links and info everyone else. will try and have a good look when i get home from work.

i am still in 2 minds if i should do this or not.

Skiddley · 29 Aug 2006 at 13:28

He found my brother, heard on the grape vine 'one of us' was getting married and got my Bro's mobile number from someone and texted him..

I'm 220 miles away now. Gotta do what you gotta do, if it means taking a weekend and going on a road trip so be it. Pubs are good places to start, unless you can use electoral rolls or some such.

spike's · 29 Aug 2006 at 13:33

Skiddley said:
He found my brother, heard on the grape vine 'one of us' was getting married and got my Bro's mobile number from someone and texted him..

I'm 220 miles away now. Gotta do what you gotta do, if it means taking a weekend and going on a road trip so be it. Pubs are good places to start, unless you can use electoral rolls or some such.

yep. but as has been said, i really need to speak to my mum first. but then the thing that is on my mind is, what if i speak to my mum, and then nothing comes of it.
i will have hurt her for no reason.