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Middle aged life

mid_gen said:
Was at a festival at the weekend where most people are 40+. 50:50 men and women.

I can't think of anything more depressing than getting old and not getting out enjoying music and dancing.

Sure hangovers suck when you get old but there are other ways to have a good time.
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I still enjoying going out but not till stupid o clock in morning.

There is nothing good open past midnight apart from legs and hospitals.

So I am in bed by midnight :D
 
I think my only advice to a younger me is keep with the exercise and fitness. Forget the pretentious and boring gym and get into club sports such as bootcamp. At 33 I was doing the London-brighton bike ride, doing kickboxing etc. At 34 slacked off due to some toxic workplace PTSD but should have found a bootcamp to help recovery etc. I've had many false start getting back to being fit.. including a week at a health retreat (that really worked well). It was hard getting back into some form of fitness - it almost killed me starting in August, but at 53 I'm starting to get both fitness and body shape back from bootcamp 4 times a week - 45 minutes of almost continuous solid exercise each time. Tough work but I'm between roles so applying and looking for work allows a little 20 minute nap at 3pm :D. Body shape starting to appear already so by next year that should be back in trim with a 6 pack, feeling more positive and have more energy. Get more smiles and on holiday by the pool a mouthed phoar :D Not that it matters. So long may the fitness continue (and that people keep thinking I'm 43).

The main thing being older is more confidence so say - what works and what doesn't work for you.
 
malachi said:
I still enjoying going out but not till stupid o clock in morning.

There is nothing good open past midnight apart from legs and hospitals.

So I am in bed by midnight :D
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This depends if you're going to decent clubs where people are there for the music, or grotty dives full of cougars and coked up ****s :P
 
I hurt by lower back at weekend in elan Valley on my moutian bike. I was manoeuvring my bike over a boggy bit then went to jump over it and my feet slipped out and I landed on my bum.

Got a bit of back ache from it. Probably my first... "damn that would have been fine 10 years ago probably" moment.

Feeling better but better now. But still a bit stiff
 
AndrewNR said:
I always wonder what woman do for fun, especially 40+.
Do they really enjoy dancing that much, I can't think of anything worse.

Men struggle and we have far more options (sports, physical activities e.g. woodwork etc) and tend to have more time to do so.
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Playing instruments like the piano, violin, or the harp. Atercolor painting, sketching, drawing, and elocution. Reading classic literature, poetry, and gender-role publications, alongside heavy correspondence, journaling, and creative writing. Keeping scrapbooks for poetry, newspaper clippings, or seaweed. Needlework: Sewing, knitting, crochet, and intricate embroidery. Gardening: Tending to ornamental flowers, suburban garden patches, or fern collecting. Hosting dinner parties, tea parties, home theatricals, and charades.
 
Oddly I do woodwork in making two guitars, DIY, music, electronics (designed/built my tube amp and various bits and bobs like a super low noise ADC).
I like being social - BBQ etc but also doing a sport(s) where there’s a group people and you interact.
Also like pottery, painting etc - again all groups of people.
After 50 the body seems to react differently to alcohol and coffee so in moderation is a good thing.
I gave up computer gaming years ago. Saved me a bucket of money that went on all the hobbies :D
 
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Richard - London said:
Playing instruments like the piano, violin, or the harp. Atercolor painting, sketching, drawing, and elocution. Reading classic literature, poetry, and gender-role publications, alongside heavy correspondence, journaling, and creative writing. Keeping scrapbooks for poetry, newspaper clippings, or seaweed. Needlework: Sewing, knitting, crochet, and intricate embroidery. Gardening: Tending to ornamental flowers, suburban garden patches, or fern collecting. Hosting dinner parties, tea parties, home theatricals, and charades.
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Have you been spying on me… :eek:
 
Richard - London said:
Playing instruments like the piano, violin, or the harp. Atercolor painting, sketching, drawing, and elocution. Reading classic literature, poetry, and gender-role publications, alongside heavy correspondence, journaling, and creative writing. Keeping scrapbooks for poetry, newspaper clippings, or seaweed. Needlework: Sewing, knitting, crochet, and intricate embroidery. Gardening: Tending to ornamental flowers, suburban garden patches, or fern collecting. Hosting dinner parties, tea parties, home theatricals, and charades.
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Forgot one, doom scrolling on social media.
 
413x said:
I hurt by lower back at weekend in elan Valley on my moutian bike. I was manoeuvring my bike over a boggy bit then went to jump over it and my feet slipped out and I landed on my bum.

Got a bit of back ache from it. Probably my first... "damn that would have been fine 10 years ago probably" moment.

Feeling better but better now. But still a bit stiff
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Wait until a little scrape takes a month to heal.
 
Richard - London said:
Playing instruments like the piano, violin, or the harp. Atercolor painting, sketching, drawing, and elocution. Reading classic literature, poetry, and gender-role publications, alongside heavy correspondence, journaling, and creative writing. Keeping scrapbooks for poetry, newspaper clippings, or seaweed. Needlework: Sewing, knitting, crochet, and intricate embroidery. Gardening: Tending to ornamental flowers, suburban garden patches, or fern collecting. Hosting dinner parties, tea parties, home theatricals, and charades.
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As long as they are pretty and don't pass comment on leaving the gold standard then all is good.
 
I'd love to have the time to have a mid life crisis. ;)

In terms of mid life for me, I think strangely if anything I've actually got healthier and fitter the last year or so more than probably the last decade. I feel like I look better (apart from my receding hair line lol) as I've stuck with the gym for the longest stint ever approaching a year now, and really made an effort to gain a little bit of weight and muscle (naturally skinny). Got my teeth invisaligned and whitened and I'm naturally quite tanned. I feel more confident.

I've cut back on alcohol massively. Not due to any issue with it. Far from it in fact. I've always been able to take or leave it but I felt that there were times I was drinking just out of habit and not really gaining anything from it.

I've tried to socialise more if anything and am enjoying finally becoming a member of my local golf club. The cost was outrageous but I just took the YOLO approach. That's been my approach to more things generally in fact, that time is running out really and whilst able bodied, I really should enjoy life as much as possible. I take less time to make decisions these days as I just cba spending time on boring things.

I feel poorer than ever despite having a reasonably decent job though. This one hurts as I feel like it should get easier in your 40s and things feel tougher than ever having only got on the housing ladder in 2020, needing a large house with already grown up family.

I can't really complain though. I have amazing kids and an amazing wife that I still find hot AF every day. So long as I have them, AI can ruin the world for all I care.
 
Yeah I've posted before but my leg wound took many months to heal , ended up having a big c check on it and a Doppler on the leg , signed off but still looked angry a few weeks back around the healed wound , got some iodine mesh dressings ( fully breathable) from Amazon for my own peace of mind and all good now........, trouble is I bashed the same place a few times including falling down a thorny rabbit hole ......
 
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jaybee said:
I'd love to have the time to have a mid life crisis. ;)

In terms of mid life for me, I think strangely if anything I've actually got healthier and fitter the last year or so more than probably the last decade. I feel like I look better (apart from my receding hair line lol) as I've stuck with the gym for the longest stint ever approaching a year now, and really made an effort to gain a little bit of weight and muscle (naturally skinny). Got my teeth invisaligned and whitened and I'm naturally quite tanned. I feel more confident.

I've cut back on alcohol massively. Not due to any issue with it. Far from it in fact. I've always been able to take or leave it but I felt that there were times I was drinking just out of habit and not really gaining anything from it.

I've tried to socialise more if anything and am enjoying finally becoming a member of my local golf club. The cost was outrageous but I just took the YOLO approach. That's been my approach to more things generally in fact, that time is running out really and whilst able bodied, I really should enjoy life as much as possible. I take less time to make decisions these days as I just cba spending time on boring things.

I feel poorer than ever despite having a reasonably decent job though. This one hurts as I feel like it should get easier in your 40s and things feel tougher than ever having only got on the housing ladder in 2020, needing a large house with already grown up family.

I can't really complain though. I have amazing kids and an amazing wife that I still find hot AF every day. So long as I have them, AI can ruin the world for all I care.
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Yeah some degree of yolo is definitely good for me too.

My typical week now is hike/camp/kayak/mtb or something on weekend. One of those at least.
Badminton with friends on Tuesday (I've just started this) and then maybe a social thing on Friday (but some times I just can't be bothered with it). Thresh date night once a week. (to continue if relationship does!).

That's my regular minimum

Booking holidays and experiences. Because body stuff isn't really going to get better.


Time speeds by, the world moves fast. I can't do anything about this. But what I can do is use time.
 
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