Money gone missing from my wallet, what does one do

Janesy B

Janesy B

Janesy B

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This weeked I took £100 from my cash box on Saturday afternoon to put in my wallet so I can fill up my car and buy some odds and ends. I have just checked my wallet only to find the £40 has gone missing. I know for a fact that I haven't spent a penny all weekend (for the first time in years) and the only place i went was to Ashford to pick up some wheels. My wallet is in my coat pocket which is hung up in the hallway, i always keep it zipped up so there's no risk of being pick-pocketed, i mean if i was pick pocketed surely the whole lot would have gone. This is the first time in a long while that i've had more than a tenner in my wallet due to the fact i use my visa debit all the time.

Here lays my dilemma, the only other people who live in my house are my parents and i don't know how to approach this, i don't trust the pair of them because quite frankly they are not great people. I remember my dad giving me a small grilling as to why i had the money and he saw me put it in my wallet. I've had money go missing in the past and i am so sure it is him but i have no proof, i know if i confront him he will kick off and it will only end up with one outcome, me having to move out, which i don't want to do because the money i earn isn't great. From now on my wallet is going to stay in my cash box but i need this money back because i am on a big ecomomy drive and every penny needs to be accounted for.

Do i confront my parents or do i just leave it, learn my lesson and keep my stuff to myself. Either way i am really annoyed that this money has gone missing because it now means i can't clear my overdraft for the 3rd month running and the interest is getting on one's nerves :mad:
 
If you don't want to end up confronting your parents due to the probable outcome then you have only one choice.

Its up to you - thankfully this would not arise with my parents but if I was in your position and I knew I would end up far worse off I would chalk it up to experience and wait until I was in a better position to move out.
 
I can't imagine living in a world where I can't trust my parents to not steal from me :(
 
That is a very tricky situation.

First off, do you think that your dad would ever admit to taking it? If the answer is no, is there any point in bringing it up? I understand your frustration but what will it do apart from strain things?

Setup a trap maybe and catch him in the act?

Maybe this should just be a case of lesson learned?
 
Well why don’t you ask they if they have seen any money lying about and that way it doesn’t sound like you are accusing them of any thing.
 
Gilly said:
I can't imagine living in a world where I can't trust my parents to not steal from me :(
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I agree.

I can imagine it happens fairly often though, if a parent has an addiction then its probably an easy way. Not saying this guys parents do, just a reason it might happen.
 
learn your lesson and hide your money or take greater care of it. Keep the peace and then move out when it is convenient. Simple really as causing a stink-up without hard evidencewill probably cause more than £40.00 worth of trouble. :)

Edit: yes it sucks but let's hope things will improve for the better :)
 
The thing is i don't get why my dad would do it, he has a lot of money in the bank, enough to consider buying a second house with cash. He's a very strange man, i'm sure if i ask him nicely he'll just try and convince me that i am going mad, which he does a lot. My mum works as well and earns enough and there's a good income in the house, i can't fathom why but it is the only possible way that this money has left my possesion. I dont go out drinking a lot so its not like i got hammered and spent the money without remembering, i literally spent nothing all weekend yet im £40 down, not only that i cant trust my parents any more.

Fishman said:
Steal £40 back ?
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I dont think this is an option, i'd rather confront than do this. The most i've stolen from my parents is a pound for the trolleys at asda when i go shopping, which i always pop back anyway, i do it because i cant be bothered to ask.
 
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Do you pay rent out of interest, maybe he feels like he's owed it?

Either that or he wants you to GTFO so he can walk around naked in the house all the time and do your mum whenever he wants :p
 
I would confront them or ask them if they know anything, if you dont then it could keep happening and the longer you stay quiet then the more they think they can get away with it (if they did take it that is).
 
The thing is you just don't know and so I would forget it as much as it may pain you-but take precautions.
 
Don't ask them if they took it - terrible move only likely to cause problems.

In the future lioncash all your notes.
 
You say you spent 'spent nothing'....But what did you buy? Petrol or anything? Cause that's basically £30 standard, not even for a full tank nowadays.

I'm not pointing fingers, just trying to see what you spent if anything. Did you get receipts etc?
 
Craig321 said:
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Just ask if they've seen £40 around as your money as gone missing.
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Just do that, ask if they've seen any money, as it's gone missing. Probably your best bet...Rather than go 'omgz you stole my money give it back!!11'.

Or, leave it alone, and just keep an eye on it I guess.
 
JBuk said:
i would be more concerned about not being able to trust my parents than the cash
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I've never liked both of my parents, my dad is a total control freak who flips out at me over anything. My mum has gone mental, she had meningitis from which she made a full recovery but it pains me to say that my mum died in some respect and she'll never be the loving person she was, the only personality traits she had left were the nasty ones. I will be moving out but my financial situation at the present wont allow this.

Rich_L said:
Do you pay rent out of interest, maybe he feels like he's owed it?

Either that or he wants you to GTFO so he can walk around naked in the house all the time and do your mum whenever he wants :p
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I gave him £180 this money which is a sizeable chunk of my wage, there's no mortgage to pay off so there's only bills and food, i dont eat a lot at home so its mostly bills which i think £180 would cover. Usually i give him £120 a month and i help out a bit with the bills. I don't owe him it at all, i do him so many favours and odd jobs as well, this will stop.
 
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