Money gone missing from my wallet, what does one do

Tell them the police are calling at the house tommorow:) they also told you they may take finger prints.

Only do this if you have somewhere to live tho .

Something very wrong if your suspicions are right, and your better off gone tbh.
 
I'm not going to kick up a big fuss, i've made my thoughts very clear and i've locked all my stuff up. I am disgusted and i've even been accused of buying drugs and 'forgetting' it.
 
Got any coal dust and a **** by any chance..? If so, do like John Napier did.

to catch one of his servants who had been pilfering tools from the supply shed, Napier, the "Marvelous Merchiston”, simply put lamp soot on his black rooster, and put it in the dark shed, and lined up his servants, telling them his black **** had the mysterious power of divination, and could single out the culprit. Each man was sent in and asked to simply touch the bird, knowing full well that the thief would sneak by without touching the cockerel, when all the servants emerged with black hands except for one, Napier nabbed the thief.
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source: http://www.johnnapier.com/john_napier_and_the_devil.htm
 
I think you would be best keeping any temptation away from them in future as you seem to be doing and leave it at that. The money may become less important to you over time but your relationship with your parents won't.

It's a horrible situation, but not something you can't recover from, given time.
 
Maz said:
I wouldn't start an arguement with my parents over £40.
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I blooming would! It's not about the money in the end. There your parents, it's ridiculous and even unthinkable for them to do it to their children.

Be it £5 that got nicked, it's the principle.
 
He'd best hope he doesn't need a kidney a few years down the line, that's what I would say.
 
Janesy - in my experience the human psyche is a master of the art of putting 2 and 2 together and coming up with 3. Something disappears, gets nicked, gets lost and bingo - before you know it you've convinced yourself you know the culprit.

Imagine, for instance that although you've convinced yourself your father took 40 quid other possibilities exist. What if you left your coat somewhere and someone chavved part of the money?

How about your father had some money taken and suspects you took it?

You can assume and may be correct but it's hardly worth the effort mate.

Here's an example: A friend asked me to figure out why she was always short on money. I spent an hour going through her bank statements and outgoings and then began cross-checking machine withdrawals. A pattern soon emerged - strange withdrawals from cash points that she couldn't recollect. Quantities of money thieved from her handbag in crowded nightclubs on more than one occasion. Next up, cheques cashed to miscellaneous payees that made no sense. A pattern that went back a year or so.

Couldn't pin down anything in particular until I struck gold. Cheque books with counterfoils carefully cut out and only detectable because the remaining counterfoils weren't concurrent. Just here and there so as not to be obvious.

I went to her bank discretely and they reluctantly disclosed that the missing cheques were cashed but had bogus sigs. Which left me with a quandry. Was Mr Marvellous, her fiancee, taking her for a ride and after her house? Chewed it over for a couple of hours and then went to her parents using a social visit as the pretext. During which I learned all about how great the geezer in her life was. Fantabulous I figured. Then I had a quiet word with her father and said he should call her bank.

The upshot of it all - only her fiancee had unrestricted access to her handbag and had systematically accessed cashpoints while she was at work or asleep, stolen from her purse in the very nightclubs he took her, and forged cheques in her name, removing the counterfoils to conceal his tracks.

Last I heard his parents gave her some of the money back to keep the fuzz outa the matter, the wedding got cancelled, she got reality back, kept the house and he, presumably, went on to mug more gullible women.


In your case though mate I'd stop suspecting your parents, stop leaving wodges of money lying around and think of any way you can to cheer up your parents' circumstances which in return could make your situation more tenable. Every problem's got a solution - get thinkin'...
 
Stupid question maybe, but are you sure you definitely took £100 out of your cash box? Maybe you took out 5 notes but it was 4x£10 1x£20 not 5x£20.
 
Janesy B said:
After speaking to both of my parents they are blaming each other, my mum has had money go missing and so says my dad, i'm so annoyed. It's not even about the money (which was given to me for my birthday btw) it's the whole principle that someone in my house thinks its okay to take money from me. I am 100% sure it's my dad, i gave him £180 this month to cover bills and stuff and he still does this to me. it's bang out of order and i'm out of here.
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If everyone's had money go missing, there's only one explanation.......it's the MONEY GNOMES!!!


Work, work, work all night. Search for money notes yayyyy. We won't stop until we have all your notes, tum tum tummy tum taaayyyyyy.
 
i have been in a simular situation before, 90 quid went missing and the only person that had been in the house with me was my best m8.. in the end after a lot of thinking, i confronted him. turns out it was him. i got my money back after telling his dad about it. cant trust anyone these days:mad:

since then (close to 8 month ago) we have spoken about 5 times as he obviously feels to guilty to approach me and rightly so.

if i was you i would ask if anyone had "borrowed" some money of you, and if he feels guilty about it he will say "yes i needed it to buy the dinner" for example... if he doesnt own up it shows hes a complete waste of space and i would move out anyway.;)
 
jaydee said:
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I went to her bank discretely and they reluctantly disclosed that the missing cheques were cashed but had bogus sigs.
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You're this person's "friend" - what you're suggesting is so illegal on the part of the bank I don't know where to start. No bank here will give out details of a 3rd-party's account.

Unless you mean that by going to "her bank discretely" she actually accompanied you!!! And you stood there as an observer.

Sounds unlikely on your part. I'm not suggesting your "friend" wasn't shafted by her boyfriend, but the likelihood that your Sherlockness cracked the unknowable is a bridge too far pal. Striking gold or not :(.

Unless of course, you can name the bank that was willing to give out account details to random individuals.
 
HangTime said:
Stupid question maybe, but are you sure you definitely took £100 out of your cash box? Maybe you took out 5 notes but it was 4x£10 1x£20 not 5x£20.
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No because i've counted all the money up and there's £400 in my box and £60 in my wallet, that doesn't make £500. I counted the money as i put it in and there was definately £100 there.

jaydee said:
Janesy - in my experience the human psyche is a master of the art of putting 2 and 2 together and coming up with 3. Something disappears, gets nicked, gets lost and bingo - before you know it you've convinced yourself you know the culprit.

Imagine, for instance that although you've convinced yourself your father took 40 quid other possibilities exist. What if you left your coat somewhere and someone chavved part of the money?

How about your father had some money taken and suspects you took it?

You can assume and may be correct but it's hardly worth the effort mate.
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In your case though mate I'd stop suspecting your parents, stop leaving wodges of money lying around and think of any way you can to cheer up your parents' circumstances which in return could make your situation more tenable. Every problem's got a solution - get thinkin'...
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If you looked through the thread you would have seen that my wallet never left my coat outside of the house and i wore my coat the whole time if i got out of the car. If someone 'chaved' it i doubt they would take a bit and leave the rest. The only person that saw me put the money in was my dad, he then mentioned the matter to my mum and then questioned me on the money and why i took it out with me/how much i spent. The only logical explaination is that someone in my house took it, as thats the only time my wallet was left unattended.

Maz said:
I wouldn't start an arguement with my parents over £40.
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I was given that money for my birthday, i don't care about the money any more. I care about the fact that i can't even trust my parents anymore.
 
Didn't you say in one of your posts that your dad kinda mentioned £100 in a wallet was too much and risky?
Sounds like the old duffer is trying to teach you a lesson which has kinda backfired on him after you knew for a fact it couldn't have possibly gone anywhere else.
 
On face value from what you've said it does sounds like your dad has done it. You're in a difficult situation and not one I envy.

I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this, just keep any money you have on or near your person in the meantime and move out as soon as you have the ability.
 
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