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t2na said:
I was asked the other week by one of these goblins at work when my wife and I would be having another baby - a strange request anyway to know when my wife and I would be rawdogging it - but doesn't come from a place of care, it's just her being a nosey troll.
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I find the best way to deal with these people is to embrace the embarrassment and uncomfortableness, and go into as much personal detail as possible (it doesn't matter if it's true or not), e.g.

"we're actually trying at the moment, we're at it like rabbits - been trying all these new positions, she loves it when <XYZ>, have you tried that, you really should! I can recommend you some videos if you want, but no seriously, she could barely walk the other day afterwards!"

The more gory details the better, I guarantee you she won't ask again!
 
Haggisman said:
I find the best way to deal with these people is to embrace the embarrassment and uncomfortableness, and go into as much personal detail as possible (it doesn't matter if it's true or not), e.g.

"we're actually trying at the moment, we're at it like rabbits - been trying all these new positions, she loves it when <XYZ>, have you tried that, you really should! I can recommend you some videos if you want, but no seriously, she could barely walk the other day afterwards!"

The more gory details the better, I guarantee you she won't ask again!
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This is terrible advice for a workplace. Her comments were rude, these will get you fired!
 
Not gonna lie, rude people don't bother me. Just laugh it off. Who cares. People who are like this are miserable toads. To paraphrase Red Dwarf "being a miserable toad is her crime and being a miserable toad is her punishment".
 
TommyV said:
Anyone else with toddlers who have been absolutely ****ing miserable all day due to the heat? Mentally taxing :-D
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Fortunately not, our toddler was born in South Africa and spent the first two years of his life there - so he knows what hot is and is used to it.
 
tom_e said:
My daughter is fully into terrible twos, getting her in the car after nursery generally involves much screaming and crying (very nearly from both sides) in the end I just have to wrestle the straps on her then once she's strapped in the switch turns off and she's fine :confused:
She also enjoys a good competently random meltdown and then is fine a minute or two later once it's out of her system.

I'm definitely having to take a lot of deep breaths.
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My daughter has ASD, and she struggles with transitions, such as going from being in the car to going into school. I know this is probably a weird thing to ask going off the back of such little info, but have you considered that she could be on the spectrum?

My daughter’s 5 next month, and that, the sudden random meltdowns that seemingly come out of nowhere and then dissipate just as abruptly as they came was one of the 1st clues we had that there might be something like else going on, and it was around that age.
 
TommyV said:
Anyone else with toddlers who have been absolutely ****ing miserable all day due to the heat? Mentally taxing :-D
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My 4 year old was with my mrs (who was miserable) while I was with our daughter on cub/scout camp - water fights helped keep everyone cool!
 
Today has been no easier.

This post serves as nothing more than attempting to be a form of therapeutic outlet, after another miserable day. :-(
 
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robjf said:
We’re expecting our second little one mid may, after a 7 year hiatus. Super excited about it, and seem to be taking a much more relaxed/affordable approach to preparing this time which I only think is a good thing.
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Update: we’ve now got a mental 4 year old who doesn’t move around the house without some sort of scream, screech or otherwise unnecessary noise. While our first was relatively mild-mannered and calm, our little boy couldn’t be any more different.
Thankfully he is going to school in September so the childcare costs go down!
 
The Funktopus said:
My daughter has ASD, and she struggles with transitions, such as going from being in the car to going into school. I know this is probably a weird thing to ask going off the back of such little info, but have you considered that she could be on the spectrum?

My daughter’s 5 next month, and that, the sudden random meltdowns that seemingly come out of nowhere and then dissipate just as abruptly as they came was one of the 1st clues we had that there might be something like else going on, and it was around that age.
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It's certainly something I've considered although she generally doesn't seem to have any of the other traits, I suppose we'll find out when the terrible twos stage just never ends :o
 
Anyone got any advice on how to cut a 2/3 year olds toenails? She was always absolutely fine with it and never caused any problems but in the last 2 months has decided it's basically torture.

No issue with finger nails, happily lets me do them once a week. Toenails just seem to be off the cards for her... I've tried bribing with snacks/treats/TV, tends to work for one or two nails at a push. Mate of mine suggested doing it whilst she slept but she's the most ticklish little creature around, I know if I just brushed her feet she'd wake up in a fit of laughter.
 
robjf said:
Update: we’ve now got a mental 4 year old who doesn’t move around the house without some sort of scream, screech or otherwise unnecessary noise. While our first was relatively mild-mannered and calm, our little boy couldn’t be any more different.
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Now I don't want to gloat but I think we can all agree that when parents have lovely, chilled out and mild mannered kids and then get a little hellion it makes the rest of us very happy!

Joking aside, one of ours had horrible gas when they were very little and every ******* video on youtube which explained how to burp and fart your baby had a little slug that would sit there nicely while the parent manipulated them until *faaaart*. Oh magic, I'll just do that with my child that is losing their mind and straining every muscle of their body because they are in pain.

Also having twins makes you realise just how much of personality is nature. They like different foods, activities, have very different personalities, like different books, shows etc.

t2na said:
Anyone got any advice on how to cut a 2/3 year olds toenails? She was always absolutely fine with it and never caused any problems but in the last 2 months has decided it's basically torture.

No issue with finger nails, happily lets me do them once a week. Toenails just seem to be off the cards for her... I've tried bribing with snacks/treats/TV, tends to work for one or two nails at a push. Mate of mine suggested doing it whilst she slept but she's the most ticklish little creature around, I know if I just brushed her feet she'd wake up in a fit of laughter.
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My boys generally don't like their feet being played with but the only success I have had with doing nails is to make it into a game that they get involved with. Counting the nails as I clip them off and making the occasional intentional mistake usually does enough to get them laughing and tolerating it.
 
tom_e said:
My daughter is fully into terrible twos, getting her in the car after nursery generally involves much screaming and crying (very nearly from both sides) in the end I just have to wrestle the straps on her then once she's strapped in the switch turns off and she's fine :confused:
She also enjoys a good competently random meltdown and then is fine a minute or two later once it's out of her system.

I'm definitely having to take a lot of deep breaths.
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It's a stage.

My daughter was the same, often took me an hour to get her in the car after nursery


She's generally fine now, no screams but likes a run around the estate a bit before getting in.
 
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