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tom_e said:
Chicken pox going around the nursery room... Just on the countdown for her to get it now
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My 5 year old has just come down with it, faint spots Sunday morning and then you could see them forming throughout the day until he was covered.

After explaining to him about chicken pox he said there's been a lot of kids off school with it. So probably doing the rounds there.

He's coping okay for now, spent the day with him building Lego city cars for distraction. It was for him, honest... :D
 
Had an interesting conversation at work yesterday about why allergies are on the rise and especially peanut.
Large part of it seems to be advise years ago to avoid giving children nuts, and this has had an over detrimental effect.
Advice now is introduce them early on. Other allergies similar behaviour, being too clean and avoiding exposure.
I can see shingles being a big issue in the future as the advice is to not purposely catch chicken pox.
We choose to ignore that when over of them had it.
 
I read some thing where this dairy intolerant girl just force fed herself dairy for several weeks, and it eventually cured her intolerance.
Not sure how true it was.
 
We fed our kids everything as soon as they were interested in food. But neither of us have allergies so maybe that's had an impact. They've done studies of countries (like the middle east and east Asian countries) that introduce nuts to infants and compare the USA and UK for example where it's less common.

I grew up in the ME in my formative years before moving to France and then the UK and I remember being absolutely blown away by UK diets that my peers were eating.

I think it's so important to introduce children to varied diets ASAP. But I appreciate not everyone has had that cultural advantage or knowledge.

I'm not surprised allergies are on the up.
 
Freefaller said:
We fed our kids everything as soon as they were interested in food. But neither of us have allergies so maybe that's had an impact. They've done studies of countries (like the middle east and east Asian countries) that introduce nuts to infants and compare the USA and UK for example where it's less common.

I grew up in the ME in my formative years before moving to France and then the UK and I remember being absolutely blown away by UK diets that my peers were eating.

I think it's so important to introduce children to varied diets ASAP. But I appreciate not everyone has had that cultural advantage or knowledge.

I'm not surprised allergies are on the up.
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Totally agree, both ours ate anything and everything as soon as possible.
People are amazed what our children eat, daughters favourite at the minute is black pudding, she especially likes the fatty bits.
 
robj20 said:
Totally agree, both ours ate anything and everything as soon as possible.
People are amazed what our children eat, daughters favourite at the minute is black pudding, she especially likes the fatty bits.
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Yeah the fatty bits are great. Just like bacon fat. If you haven't tried it, Doreen's black pudding is the bomb.
Daughter is coming to that age soon, so trying to get more iron in her diet. She's very picky though. It's weird, my other son who's much older is similarly picky, so it makes me think it's a genetic thing. Both hate the idea of gravy. But she'll pour extra virgin olive oil over her roast instead.. :D
 
This is a slightly different post to my normal style of dad jokes and one-liners.

I’m 44 this year, and my son is coming up to 2 years old (took a while to come along, and I’ve no idea how I would’ve coped at any point when I was younger to be honest…) and the OH and I wanted to give him a sibling to grow up with. Given how long he took to arrive, and our similar (advancing) ages, we were pretty much at the end of when we thought it would be realistic.

At the start of February she had a positive test and we started planning everything, working out timings and what we’d need to get down from the loft.

Start of March and we go for a private scan to see if everything is progressing - we did this with our first and it showed him as a jellybean and a heartbeat. This time, they couldn’t find a heartbeat and recommended we come back in 14 days.

A call to the midwife had an NHS appointment at the local EPC a few days later where they confirmed the finding and asked us to come back in ten days or so if nature hadn’t taken its course.

This is what is known as a missed-miscarriage, where the embryo stops developing but the body doesn’t recognise this and carries on as if you’re pregnant. It also means that it doesn’t remove the pregnancy tissue from the uterus immediately, and can require intervention in the form of drugs or surgery.

Before the ten days were up, she started feeling cramps in her stomach, and as these got worse and worse it eventually resulted in her throwing up from the pain, and we went the A+E where they tried various painkillers, including morphine, with no effect. At that point a cynical gist arrived and, for want of a better phrase, removed the pregnancy tissue manually. This stopped the pain almost immediately.

Essentially, the uterus was now trying to expel its contents, but the cervix wasn’t open, so the result was agonising pain and vomiting. From her reading on the subject, people have crawled into hospital trying to get help when suffering from this.

She stayed in overnight and were now in the recovery phase at home while we both process it all and decide where we go from here. Typically, the next day was Mother’s Day…

In summary - at the first sign of pain in a pregnancy just get to hospital ASAP. Don’t let it get any worse to the stage they can’t walk.
 
That’s terrible Penfold, we went through a missed miscarriage but nature did take its course. Hope you and your family are taking the time to process it all in whatever way works for you all, and that your other half is on the mend.
 
TommyV said:
That’s terrible Penfold, we went through a missed miscarriage but nature did take its course. Hope you and your family are taking the time to process it all in whatever way works for you all, and that your other half is on the mend.
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You'd be amazed how common it is, we lost our first as well.
 
TommyV said:
That’s terrible Penfold, we went through a missed miscarriage but nature did take its course. Hope you and your family are taking the time to process it all in whatever way works for you all, and that your other half is on the mend.
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Thanks mate - it’s definitely helped that we already have one. If this was our first it would be a whole different ball game I suspect.

robj20 said:
You'd be amazed how common it is, we lost our first as well.
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Indeed - 1 in 4 pregnancies I believe is the number, but it really doesn’t get talked about enough. Our first going so smoothly despite our age and all the other risk factors lulled us into a false sense of security I think.
 
Penfold101 said:
This is a slightly different post to my normal style of dad jokes and one-liners.

I’m 44 this year, and my son is coming up to 2 years old (took a while to come along, and I’ve no idea how I would’ve coped at any point when I was younger to be honest…) and the OH and I wanted to give him a sibling to grow up with. Given how long he took to arrive, and our similar (advancing) ages, we were pretty much at the end of when we thought it would be realistic.

At the start of February she had a positive test and we started planning everything, working out timings and what we’d need to get down from the loft.

Start of March and we go for a private scan to see if everything is progressing - we did this with our first and it showed him as a jellybean and a heartbeat. This time, they couldn’t find a heartbeat and recommended we come back in 14 days.

A call to the midwife had an NHS appointment at the local EPC a few days later where they confirmed the finding and asked us to come back in ten days or so if nature hadn’t taken its course.

This is what is known as a missed-miscarriage, where the embryo stops developing but the body doesn’t recognise this and carries on as if you’re pregnant. It also means that it doesn’t remove the pregnancy tissue from the uterus immediately, and can require intervention in the form of drugs or surgery.

Before the ten days were up, she started feeling cramps in her stomach, and as these got worse and worse it eventually resulted in her throwing up from the pain, and we went the A+E where they tried various painkillers, including morphine, with no effect. At that point a cynical gist arrived and, for want of a better phrase, removed the pregnancy tissue manually. This stopped the pain almost immediately.

Essentially, the uterus was now trying to expel its contents, but the cervix wasn’t open, so the result was agonising pain and vomiting. From her reading on the subject, people have crawled into hospital trying to get help when suffering from this.

She stayed in overnight and were now in the recovery phase at home while we both process it all and decide where we go from here. Typically, the next day was Mother’s Day…

In summary - at the first sign of pain in a pregnancy just get to hospital ASAP. Don’t let it get any worse to the stage they can’t walk.
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Heart breaking, all the strength to you and your family.
 
Any tips with potty training fellas?

eldest is 3y3mo, she’s been doing good with using toilet in morning/evening/weekends. This has been going on and off for almost a year. We took the plunge and lined her up to go to nursery in her pants for the first time but ****** herself twice.

Before nursery she walked into the corner and wet herself immediately after I muted the Alexa mic as she was screaming repeatedly into it (we’re still listening to jingle bells and it’s almost April :-D), it’s almost as if she did it in protest!!

She gets significant praise etc and stickers for her chart when doing her business, but it seems the slightest distraction and she’ll just happily wet herself as opposed to holding it and letting me and Mum know.

Any tips appreciated- any similar experiences would also make me feel better about it!! :-P Could it be she’s simply not ready? Learning as I go.
 
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We bribed ours with chocolate for successful potty/toilet use. Seemed to work for us in making her try to get more chocolate.
 
Ours is 3 tomorrow, we've been potty training for nearly a year I think and she's infuriating at points :o

At first she was great with wee always in the potty but poo was touch and go (don't think she liked seeing the fruits of her efforts :D) now she's generally great with poo but wee she'll have days where she absolutely nails it every time, days where she's half asleep on the sofa and doesn't quite make it and days where she knows she needs a wee because she telling us, she walks to the potty, makes no effort to actually use the potty and just wees in front of it :o
 
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