We had one. We used it for maybe a month and then couldn’t be arsed anymore. If he made a noise we would hear him anyway.
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We had one. We used it for maybe a month and then couldn’t be arsed anymore. If he made a noise we would hear him anyway.
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we would have been lost without ours as there is no way we could hear our lad from the lounge.
Truth is we still have it now even tho he is way beyond the age of needing one..... we do not need it and is a crutch. i would get rid but the boss wants to keep it.
ours doesnt have video or anything it is just so we can hear him if he wakes up.
Truth is we still have it now even tho he is way beyond the age of needing one..... we do not need it and is a crutch. i would get rid but the boss wants to keep it.
ours doesnt have video or anything it is just so we can hear him if he wakes up.
You can get monitors that only come on if they move or make noise and there's different thresholds with each settings.
We had one when we moved our kid into her own room at 4 months, then got rid of it when she was probably 12-14 months or so as we realised we hadn't turned it on in ages and if she needed us, we'd hear her!
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We have one. Our daughter is coming up five months and we’ve had it for a few months now. It was a game changer for us. In the evenings, we were basically spending our time in the bedroom making sure she was alive / evenings vanished. Once we got the monitor, we could put her down for a nap and go downstairs and get part of our evenings back. I highly recommend it.
We got this one: https://www.argos.co.uk/product/952...AKodaz3gJ9bc56-EofUYfcVVDNYA34_gaAjp6EALw_wcB
We got this one: https://www.argos.co.uk/product/952...AKodaz3gJ9bc56-EofUYfcVVDNYA34_gaAjp6EALw_wcB
We had them for our 2, never used to take notice of the video to be fair, but it was handy for the sound. God, the sound of babies, I'm so glad that stage is a distant memory now, good luck!
Thanks, I've heard its better to get one with a dedicated screen rather than use an app, as it drains phone battery and you're obv not seeing it if you use your phone for other things.
It's a while ago now, but I would never have been without our monitor, even taking it on holiday with us.
We had one with a motion sensor pad which went under the mattress. If he stopped breathing the alarm went off.
I don't think I've ever moved as fast again, as when it sounded the first time. I'm not sure if he ever did actually did stop breathing, but I would always recommend one.
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There's also a security concern over wi-fi devices, although the stock you put in this is up to you
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We have a VTech one which has its own screen and an app - means I can check on him while he naps when I’m at work. Also allows you to talk through it!
Don't buy wifi ones. Babysense for example, works with a long range without any Internet connection.
Don't recommend the breathing pads.
Hopelessly unreliable,
Maybe they've improved in the 8 years my boy was born though.
I do know of someone that has one and it kept going off giving false alarms, they were so tired after weeks of it, one evening he just pulled the wire out, tiredness affected his thinking and he didn't remove the wire from the cot, during the night the baby had managed to wrap the wire around itself and unfortunately passed away. Absolutely devastating.
granted the above is a fringe case.
We had a baby monitor well worth it, as it helped us have normal evenings , also enabled us to go to our neighbours and enjoy their hot tub in the summer evenings, we pulled a fence panel out to make it super quick to get home.
We've had one since day one and its been brilliant. No we don't need it on most of the time now (boys are over 2 now) but we wouldn't hear them in our living room unless they were really going for it and its useful just to keep an eye on them when they are going to bed.
- Chief idiot likes to get out of his bag sometimes so its good to be able to check he hasn't done this because otherwise he will probably wake up in the night cold.
- Its still useful to know when they actually go to sleep because both of them like to have a sing before bed. Sometimes for an hour or more. Good to know they are so tired the next morning.
- I ride an indoor bike with headphones in so the monitor lets me know if there is anything happening while I can't hear them. It has a bunch of lights that turn on depending on how much noise they are making.
- I don't like the idea that my children are distressed and I don't know about it fundamentally. Its different for everyone. Obviously not saying people don't care about their children if they don't use them but its indispensable for us and always has been. What you get out of it depends on many factors.
- Chief idiot likes to get out of his bag sometimes so its good to be able to check he hasn't done this because otherwise he will probably wake up in the night cold.
- Its still useful to know when they actually go to sleep because both of them like to have a sing before bed. Sometimes for an hour or more. Good to know they are so tired the next morning.
- I ride an indoor bike with headphones in so the monitor lets me know if there is anything happening while I can't hear them. It has a bunch of lights that turn on depending on how much noise they are making.
- I don't like the idea that my children are distressed and I don't know about it fundamentally. Its different for everyone. Obviously not saying people don't care about their children if they don't use them but its indispensable for us and always has been. What you get out of it depends on many factors.
I mean, thats a low bar for me. I would like it to be like the sound of music every night but instead I have 2 children trying to dash their brains out by leaping out of my arms as I go up the stairs as they laugh like mad scientists. I do get nice cuddles at the cot side though still which is brilliant. Its amazing a childs ability to be bouncing off the walls one minute and passed out the next.
Good luck with the dummy removal!
We were lucky in this sense. We had removed the dummy in stages. So first, we removed it during the day and gave it to him at daycare because it helped him nap. We then gave it to him at night for bedtime.
One day, it was forgotten at daycare and we had no spare. So he had to go without during the night. He did without issue and that was the last time we used it. That was about 4 or 5 months ago and he just turned 3 last week.
It's like a switch. Last night I went to bed early and told our son he could come lay with me. He was rolling around for a bit and I just said "Go to sleep now" and he said okay and closed his eyes. 30s later he was snoring.
Didn't know whether to write as I don't tend to put loads of personal stuff online, but thought I would contribute.
I feel like over the years I've generally been able to deal with most things stress wise as a parent, but this last year has been testing. I feel like it's aged me frankly.
Our middle child, 14 year old son earlier this year broke his arm and needed surgery. Big deal for him as he's so sporty. He's a lovely lad, truly, and wouldn't harm a fly. During recovery he was attacked in school and ended up with a broken leg as well. We had to watch him go through a lot of pain, multiple physios and recovery. I devoted any spare time and energy to him. Months later, His football team waited for him to get back to full fitness and he progressed up to the point where he was getting in the starting 11 towards the final few games of the season. Things were looking happier...
Suddenly our world came tumbling down as we suffered a death in the family. This was very difficult to deal with for all involved and it affected the children quite badly.
After grieving and emotions running high our son was selected to play in the end of season cup final. I've always been the Dad to encourage my boys to get stuck in and be physical. Enjoy life etc. For the first time I felt myself sitting on the side lines among the crowd genuinely in fear of him getting snapped! Taken out. Or headbutted or something. Completely never felt like this but just wanted to wrap him in cotton wool and ensure he was protected as just don't want to see loved ones go through pain anymore. Anyway...the game progressed and deep into the second half after I'd started to relax a bit only to then feel the tension with everyone else as the match was still tied and we needed a winner. You might see where this is going...
Well with a large crowd gathered (mini stadium sort of pitch for a local mens team) and all his mates present, parents, family, friends... the ball got passed to our lad on the edge of the box. He's smashed it on his laces super clean straight into the corner. Everyone goes mental. He gets swarmed. They win the final. It wasn't just the goal... It was the journey. I'm not crying. You're crying.
I feel like over the years I've generally been able to deal with most things stress wise as a parent, but this last year has been testing. I feel like it's aged me frankly.
Our middle child, 14 year old son earlier this year broke his arm and needed surgery. Big deal for him as he's so sporty. He's a lovely lad, truly, and wouldn't harm a fly. During recovery he was attacked in school and ended up with a broken leg as well. We had to watch him go through a lot of pain, multiple physios and recovery. I devoted any spare time and energy to him. Months later, His football team waited for him to get back to full fitness and he progressed up to the point where he was getting in the starting 11 towards the final few games of the season. Things were looking happier...
Suddenly our world came tumbling down as we suffered a death in the family. This was very difficult to deal with for all involved and it affected the children quite badly.
After grieving and emotions running high our son was selected to play in the end of season cup final. I've always been the Dad to encourage my boys to get stuck in and be physical. Enjoy life etc. For the first time I felt myself sitting on the side lines among the crowd genuinely in fear of him getting snapped! Taken out. Or headbutted or something. Completely never felt like this but just wanted to wrap him in cotton wool and ensure he was protected as just don't want to see loved ones go through pain anymore. Anyway...the game progressed and deep into the second half after I'd started to relax a bit only to then feel the tension with everyone else as the match was still tied and we needed a winner. You might see where this is going...
Well with a large crowd gathered (mini stadium sort of pitch for a local mens team) and all his mates present, parents, family, friends... the ball got passed to our lad on the edge of the box. He's smashed it on his laces super clean straight into the corner. Everyone goes mental. He gets swarmed. They win the final. It wasn't just the goal... It was the journey. I'm not crying. You're crying.
It's rather annoying. We managed to go dummy free for a few weeks but then she got ill and only the dummy would comfort her. Then we moved house and didn't want to rock the cart too much then when she settled in the new house... she broke her elbow. Classique.
Fortunately, she doesn't use a dummy during the day or when out and about. She doesn't use one in nursery either and she naps there with ease. So we figured now would be a good time. Gave her plenty of warning the dummy fairy would switch all of her dummies for presents and give the dummies to the babies. She was excited for it all when the moment came she just couldn't stop kicking off. My personal favourite scream was "I want my dummies back from the babies NOW!
"She was 3 a few months ago so it's well overdue, really. A few of her nursery friends have also had the dummy fairy visit recently so at least she can share the trauma with friends
Sounds like your boy has been through the ringer but he's come out of the other side on top! Sorry for the loss of a family member, never nice dealing with the passing of loved ones.
It's these sort of things that make a family stronger. Well done to your lad for getting through it.
That is truly terrible, and I cannot even imagine how to get through that, it must be a parent's worst nightmare come true.
As you say, I do think that is an unusual occurrence, and we did go through a stage where the alarm was going off and we didn't know if there was really a problem, but we persisted and as he got older, and bigger, we could adjust the sensitivity and this reduced the (maybe) false alarms. The cable was under the mattress, and fastened, so that it would never have been a threat to him.
I would, and do, recommend them. Ours had a visual display indicating breathing and heartbeat, even when he was completely silent, so if I woke up in the night I could reassure myself. I wouldn't have been without it, and I feel genuinely sad at the outcome your friend had. My heart goes out to them.