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unwashed potato! said:
My thought was to hold onto the stuff, but then I figured we got it so easily, I don't want to store even more rubbish in our loft on the thought we may have another. Just get more if another arrives.
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Can you please explain this to my gf so we can get a sliver of available storage back in our lives?
We have a whole kitchen cabinet full of old baby kit that I'd happily donate/bin but she's adamant that she's going to put it all on eBay.
Not to mention the piles of old baby clothes and toys in the corner of rooms which are allegedly destined fir eBay too!
 
mcwildcard said:
Can you please explain this to my gf so we can get a sliver of available storage back in our lives?
We have a whole kitchen cabinet full of old baby kit that I'd happily donate/bin but she's adamant that she's going to put it all on eBay.
Not to mention the piles of old baby clothes and toys in the corner of rooms which are allegedly destined fir eBay too!
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I feel your pain. Toys in particular which he clearly is too old for and not stimulating enough for him, she doesn't want to sell yet in case he plays with them again. But that I'm sure is just her struggling to let go and realise he's not a 6 month old any more.

Perhaps one evening you make a deal. Tell your partner you'll cook dinner, while she ebays the stuff with the time it takes you to cook.
 
Tough times at the moment with our 20mo - the terrible 2’s are brewing... She raises the roof with her wailing and raises the stress levels of everyone in the household. The wife has the patience of a saint and even she has had to walk away a couple of times.

Interestingly it’s only in the presence of Mum, I don’t get the same behaviour.
 
robj20 said:
Anyone else's children being sick yesterday with the heat, neither of mine enjoyed 35c.
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Nope, one of mines an idiot and despite it being literally like a sauna when I go into their room (like 28 degrees and sweaty) he is wrapped up like a little burrito in both a sheet and the duvet. The other one is there in his nappy chilling out max because, you know, its hot as hell.

You have to extract the duvet from him. He hair is usually all wet from sweating as well. Children are idiots!
 
We just paid the LAST NURSARY BILL!
The 3yr old (4 in the last week of July), starts school in Sept.

Been paying these infernal bills for 8 years... are my children really both going to be in school this year?
Oh god... where have my baby's gone... why are they so old? where has the time gone? I'm going through a rollercoaster of emotions.

Well... That lasted all of 30 mins anyway. Yay more money.
 
Diagro said:
We just paid the LAST NURSARY BILL!
The 3yr old (4 in the last week of July), starts school in Sept.

Been paying these infernal bills for 8 years... are my children really both going to be in school this year?
Oh god... where have my baby's gone... why are they so old? where has the time gone? I'm going through a rollercoaster of emotions.

Well... That lasted all of 30 mins anyway. Yay more money.
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Is that preschool?
 
Diagro said:
We just paid the LAST NURSARY BILL!
The 3yr old (4 in the last week of July), starts school in Sept.

Been paying these infernal bills for 8 years... are my children really both going to be in school this year?
Oh god... where have my baby's gone... why are they so old? where has the time gone? I'm going through a rollercoaster of emotions.

Well... That lasted all of 30 mins anyway. Yay more money.
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Yeah, they grow up so fast. Ours are just over 3 now and I can't believe its been that long. Won't be long until they are starting school. They still have their belly laugh at the moment and I know that one day soon they are going to lose that and I won't know when the last one happens. :(

I can see why some parents try to keep their youngest kid "young" as long as possible. They are lovely when they are little.
 
fez said:
Yeah, they grow up so fast. Ours are just over 3 now and I can't believe its been that long. Won't be long until they are starting school. They still have their belly laugh at the moment and I know that one day soon they are going to lose that and I won't know when the last one happens. :(

I can see why some parents try to keep their youngest kid "young" as long as possible. They are lovely when they are little.
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I can't tell you when the last "toddler" laugh happened from my near 8 year old.
I do very much miss his smaller self. I get very upset when i think about it. My wife thinks I'm silly.

I miss when they were small enough to simply sleep on my chest. Those nights where I had to rock them to sleep, whilst gently patting their backs whilst singing the song "Tee & Mo go to sleep". At the time, I got frustrated by it. Now... I'd give anything to go back and have more time with them at that age.

Do these feelings lessen? or grow?
My wife has refused to have more children. Kinda upsets me, but we're nearly 40. So yeah, i get it.

Sorry, rambling on
 
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Diagro said:
I can't tell you when the last "toddler" laugh happened from my near 8 year old.
I do very much miss his smaller self. I get very upset when i think about it. My wife thinks I'm silly.
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I don't miss the really small stage honestly. We've got twins and that was a hard slog with few breaks and you entire existence revolves around the kids, their naps, their ability to do activities and want to do activities and the chances one of them was ill or grumpy for whatever reason was high.

2 onwards has been great and its getting better all the time. They are now proper little people who can talk with you, have quirky little personalities and are much broader in their interests and capabilities.

Diagro said:
Do these feelings lessen? or grow?
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I imagine that you forget about them somewhat eventually but as your kids get older and have those, what I assume are harder years (teenager) you yearn for when they were cute and innocent and anything was possible. I don't know, its hard to say. I certainly overthink these things a little and when I see negative traits or my own reactions to their behaviour reflected in them I feel bad. Its so hard trying to raise kids that aren't little ***** but are also free and able to be happy and not worried about life too much. One of mine has little issue with this and the other takes things to heart a little more and I feel really bad.

Diagro said:
My wife has refused to have more children. Kinda upsets me, but we're nearly 40. So yeah, i get it.

Sorry, rambling on
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I've just turned 39 and my partner will be 38 in August and we really need to decide if we want to go again. Its really hard to know what the right decision is because children are wonderful but 2 is manageable, 3 feels considerably harder in various ways and we have only just got to the stage where a lot of the baby/toddler strain is over. Going back to those restrictions seem mad but we would quite like a third.
 
fez said:
I don't miss the really small stage honestly. We've got twins and that was a hard slog with few breaks and you entire existence revolves around the kids, their naps, their ability to do activities and want to do activities and the chances one of them was ill or grumpy for whatever reason was high.

2 onwards has been great and its getting better all the time. They are now proper little people who can talk with you, have quirky little personalities and are much broader in their interests and capabilities.



I imagine that you forget about them somewhat eventually but as your kids get older and have those, what I assume are harder years (teenager) you yearn for when they were cute and innocent and anything was possible. I don't know, its hard to say. I certainly overthink these things a little and when I see negative traits or my own reactions to their behaviour reflected in them I feel bad. Its so hard trying to raise kids that aren't little ***** but are also free and able to be happy and not worried about life too much. One of mine has little issue with this and the other takes things to heart a little more and I feel really bad.



I've just turned 39 and my partner will be 38 in August and we really need to decide if we want to go again. Its really hard to know what the right decision is because children are wonderful but 2 is manageable, 3 feels considerably harder in various ways and we have only just got to the stage where a lot of the baby/toddler strain is over. Going back to those restrictions seem mad but we would quite like a third.
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I'd love to try for a 3rd. I'd really like a Girl.
However, It would no doubt be a boy... two of those is enough hahaha

Whilst I do miss the early days. I do look forward to the later years somewhat.
I have plans to create a gaming room, us all having Gaming PC's. (need to move into a bigger house first)

I suppose, lots to look forward to, no matter how much I'll miss the younger versions.
 
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Diagro said:
I'd love to try for a 3rd. I'd really like a Girl.
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Yeah, unfortunately you can't put an order in. Having 2 boys myself we would want a girl (not that it would really matter, just a preference) but the fear is a second set of twins or god forbid, triplets. My brother has 4 kids, all singletons. My half brother has 5 kids from various women and all singletons. I have my first set and its twins!
 
Gents, do you have any advice for looking at nurseries for my 2 year old boy. All I am seeing is montessori this ofsted that, its a bloody minefield. This thread spans 367 pages, sadly I don't have the time with this wee scallywag to scan through the lot.
 
Phildebeest said:
Gents, do you have any advice for looking at nurseries for my 2 year old boy. All I am seeing is montessori this ofsted that, its a bloody minefield. This thread spans 367 pages, sadly I don't have the time with this wee scallywag to scan through the lot.
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hold the thought for now, i have found nursery advice. No doubt I'll be back with a bunch of questions.
 
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