I'm considering selling one of them at the moment. I think that could work. Problem halved and all that
I just feel like I don't know how to deal with one of them and I'm always aware that I really don't want him to resent me. How can you explain to a three year old that they are being treated differently to their brother because they are different and their behaviour is different. All they see is the simplistic version of "i'm being told off.", "i'm not getting pudding", "they're always telling me off".
You can see it in his face sometimes and it breaks my heart. Hes full of emotions that he doesn't quite know how to deal with but we also need him to do certain things. The world cannot revolve around him when we have his brother to worry about as well. We don't have the time or capacity to deal with just him and indulge his behaviour or address it in the best way always.
