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One of the things I most enjoy about watching them develop is seeing the cogs turning in their brain while they figure stuff out.
I remember our eldest trying to figure out how to blow a raspberry when she was a baby. She could see it involved sticking your tongue out and a noise happening, but her interpretation was to do literally that and hum for the sound.
I was so proud when she finally figured it out, and she did it non stop all day!
I remember our eldest trying to figure out how to blow a raspberry when she was a baby. She could see it involved sticking your tongue out and a noise happening, but her interpretation was to do literally that and hum for the sound.
I was so proud when she finally figured it out, and she did it non stop all day!
That sounds like my daughter with whistling right now, she'll make the right mouth movement and then rather than actually whistling she'll just speak the whistle sound.
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Mine is doing this at the moment as well
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Our daughter used to whistle when she was a few months old, but she's forgotten now. Reading this reminds me that she's also forgotten about raspberries
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Currently sitting in the office listening to my partner try and argue with the twins that they don't need two coats to go outside. I think shes losing
There is no negotiating with two 2 year old terrorists.
Unfortunately, “it’s their own fault they both got hypothermia your honour” will more than likely not stand up in court…
I'm constantly reminded of the fact that I am or at least should be the bigger person but its so hard sometimes.
Knowing when your kid is just being a little **** vs when there is a genuine issue is so hard. We took them to a christmas lights thing just before New Year when it was baltic. He had plenty of clothes on but refused to wear gloves and refused to walk and he got very cold and very sad. There wasn't much we could do and I thought that perhaps he would learn a lesson from this. When we got home I realised that his feet were in converse shoes which are not warm at the best of times and his feet were ice blocks.
If he had worn his gloves and walked he would probably have been fine like his brother was....but he didn't and I should have insisted that he wore some warmer shoes. Makes you feel so bad sometimes when you make a mistake like this. As I said though, its hard to know when there is a genuine issue vs standard toddler behaviour.
Easiest way for them to learn quickly though...
Not encouraging anyone to give their kid hypothermia but after asking my kid for the 30th time to put her coat on after we left the swimming pool to cycle home, 5 minutes of cycling in the cold was enough for her to never query the coat in the cold again.
Question for people who have split with partners who’s kids are older 18+
How did you deal with them getting to that age and them being adults and not coming around as regular anymore.
My youngest is turning 18 soon and naturally I know he’s growing up and will be an adult and I don’t want to mandate he comes round once/twice a week as he’s got his own life and whatnot now but don’t want to seem like I’m just dropping him and will obviously tell him he can come round whenever etc but I don’t want him to feel he has to come if he’s busy or doesn’t want to. My eldest is 21 nearly and back from uni now so he just does whatever anyway because he works full time so we see each other whenever and I’d like my youngest to have the same freedom, my main issue comes from his mum will (naturally) want the child maintenance until it’s not due anymore but i don’t want her using it as excuse to say well pay me more.
I’d speak to her but since we split (3 years nearly) she’s not been open to communication and is very offish about, any questions just get one word responses via text.
Ultimately i don’t want to come across to him as treating him like a kid anymore.
How did you deal with them getting to that age and them being adults and not coming around as regular anymore.
My youngest is turning 18 soon and naturally I know he’s growing up and will be an adult and I don’t want to mandate he comes round once/twice a week as he’s got his own life and whatnot now but don’t want to seem like I’m just dropping him and will obviously tell him he can come round whenever etc but I don’t want him to feel he has to come if he’s busy or doesn’t want to. My eldest is 21 nearly and back from uni now so he just does whatever anyway because he works full time so we see each other whenever and I’d like my youngest to have the same freedom, my main issue comes from his mum will (naturally) want the child maintenance until it’s not due anymore but i don’t want her using it as excuse to say well pay me more.
I’d speak to her but since we split (3 years nearly) she’s not been open to communication and is very offish about, any questions just get one word responses via text.
Ultimately i don’t want to come across to him as treating him like a kid anymore.
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I would say so but it is difficult trying to raise a child against pop culture. My 6 year old son's favourite song is Money for Nothing by Dire Straights so for now he is okay. I really hope he does become a bit of a social outcast and a bit of geek as his generation is properly cooked. Lol! He plays football as well so that will keep him off the social media for now.
I try to keep him away from Minecraft and Roblox too as nothing ever comes good from that! He plays Pikmin, Super Mario, Super Metroid etc. Most of the kids in his school do not have a clue. Lots of them already have a tablet stuck to their face. It really isn't good.
I do think a lot of parents are waking up to how bad things like Tik-Tok, Instagram etc are for children's development and mental health which is a good thing.
They come around. I am going through this right now. Our daughter is 18 and cannot be bothered to talk to both of us. She is out with her mates most weekends and also working a part time job whilst at college. My niece was the same but she is 23 now and becoming normal. "Kevin the teenager syndrome" is a real thing.
What we do is make sure we have a date night around a table at least once a month to bring her back into reality!
I try to keep him away from Minecraft and Roblox too as nothing ever comes good from that! He plays Pikmin, Super Mario, Super Metroid etc. Most of the kids in his school do not have a clue. Lots of them already have a tablet stuck to their face. It really isn't good.
I do think a lot of parents are waking up to how bad things like Tik-Tok, Instagram etc are for children's development and mental health which is a good thing.
They come around. I am going through this right now. Our daughter is 18 and cannot be bothered to talk to both of us. She is out with her mates most weekends and also working a part time job whilst at college. My niece was the same but she is 23 now and becoming normal. "Kevin the teenager syndrome" is a real thing.
What we do is make sure we have a date night around a table at least once a month to bring her back into reality!
This is excellent, makes me feel very justified in having my daughter listen to an unhealthy amount of Mike and the Mechanics whilst we drive anywhere to the point where she now knows a few of the words.
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I've joined the Dadsnet club! Our boy Evan was born 9th December 2025, weighing in at 10lb 6oz - big lad just like I was!
What is sleep?
What is sleep?
Welcome to the club, its fun!
We had 7 hours of sleep on Sunday night and then 3 last night, love it
Congrats and welcome!
In fairness he's very much into everything from Linkin Park to Queen as well so it's not all bad. We bought him a little CD player to work his way through our mountain of CDs from the last few decades, which is going well.
And yeah, no Roblox, local-only Minecraft, and no youtube. We were burnt once with a VERY dodgy video on Kids Youtube so now we're twice shy. He's asking for a phone now but we have a bit of a pact with the other parents in his circle not to buy any phones for as long as we can. I'm tempted to get him a 5110 or something
