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Mekrel said:
Anyway, I'm so pleased he arrived safe and sound. My other half is having issues with breast feeding, he doesn't latch often and when he does, he rarely sucks and then gets frustrated/angry. Obviously we have formula for backup and we're trying giving him a little to calm him before attempting again with the breast. Hopefully he'll get there.
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First of all congratulations!

I think its super common. My partner had the same thing. Ours liked to fall asleep while feeding and we had to make them uncomfortable so they didn't nod off while on the boob. What you have to realise is that babies are ******* useless. Embarrassingly so. Like horses have a baby and that thing is running about after 10 minutes and basically ready to go. Human babies struggle to even feed when they come out!

Talk to your health visitor and book appointments to go see the relevant people to help with breast feeding. Its not a you problem, its a technical issue that the specialists should be able to help with. Some babies are naturals at it, others aren't and need more help or a different approach. I am a big fan of breast feeding so I would try and stick with it and get the help you need but obviously the main thing is getting calories into the nipper so don't worry or feel like a failure if you have to do a mixture or even go full formula if it doesn't work out.


shroomz said:
Anyone spec me a baby potty for a 6-7month old?
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A what? You potty training your baby at 6 months?
 
fez said:
First of all congratulations!

I think its super common. My partner had the same thing. Ours liked to fall asleep while feeding and we had to make them uncomfortable so they didn't nod off while on the boob. What you have to realise is that babies are ******* useless. Embarrassingly so. Like horses have a baby and that thing is running about after 10 minutes and basically ready to go. Human babies struggle to even feed when they come out!

Talk to your health visitor and book appointments to go see the relevant people to help with breast feeding. Its not a you problem, its a technical issue that the specialists should be able to help with. Some babies are naturals at it, others aren't and need more help or a different approach. I am a big fan of breast feeding so I would try and stick with it and get the help you need but obviously the main thing is getting calories into the nipper so don't worry or feel like a failure if you have to do a mixture or even go full formula if it doesn't work out.




A what? You potty training your baby at 6 months?
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Not potty training as such just starting to catch one every now and again. The NHS advice has moved forward recently.

Jeez wasn't looking to start controversy here, I do have realistic expectations for what you can expect from a baby.
 
Mekrel said:
Our first child was born on Saturday 28th Feb. Firstly, it gives you a completely new appreciation of just how incredible mothers are. Sure, you understand that child birth is a taxing event on the body but once you go through it side by side with your partner, it's a complete eye opener.

There's the 9 months of pregnancy and the challenges with nausea, having to go without things you like and simple things being easy because you're just so much bigger. Then even before the active labour phase, my partner was in latent phase for 48 hours so didn't really sleep at all with the contractions so went into labour with no sleep for a couple of days. Once she got to 10cm dilated, it took two hours for the baby to be delivered. Even though the baby is here safe and sound, there's the recovery she has to go through.

Anyway, I'm so pleased he arrived safe and sound. My other half is having issues with breast feeding, he doesn't latch often and when he does, he rarely sucks and then gets frustrated/angry. Obviously we have formula for backup and we're trying giving him a little to calm him before attempting again with the breast. Hopefully he'll get there.
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Have you had a look at whether there is a lactation consultant nearby you could get some help from? First couple of weeks were really tough for us and getting ours to latch properly was really helpful to get help just to work out some ways to bring that instinct out.
 
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fez said:
Interesting. Have you got a link to that?



Look what you've done! :p
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Closest I can find, we haven't had it officially from our health visitor yet it's coming at the 8 month visit in a couple of months. To summarise it's basically 'keep expectations realistic but start sooner than later'. I think they now want it done by 18 months-3 so kids stop coming to nursery still in nappies.


I'll post back when I get the latest leaflets as I'm not 100% sure how it's supposed to work either. Maybe it's like "elimination communication" so you're just getting them to understand they are going, that then leads to learning when they feel the urge.
 
fez said:
First of all congratulations!

I think its super common. My partner had the same thing. Ours liked to fall asleep while feeding and we had to make them uncomfortable so they didn't nod off while on the boob. What you have to realise is that babies are ******* useless. Embarrassingly so. Like horses have a baby and that thing is running about after 10 minutes and basically ready to go. Human babies struggle to even feed when they come out!

Talk to your health visitor and book appointments to go see the relevant people to help with breast feeding. Its not a you problem, its a technical issue that the specialists should be able to help with. Some babies are naturals at it, others aren't and need more help or a different approach. I am a big fan of breast feeding so I would try and stick with it and get the help you need but obviously the main thing is getting calories into the nipper so don't worry or feel like a failure if you have to do a mixture or even go full formula if it doesn't work out.




A what? You potty training your baby at 6 months?
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Thanks, fez. The NHS has been fantastic so far, we had a checkup yesterday and mentioned the issues and they booked us in with a feeding expert for today. My partner's are a little flat which isn't helping the little guy with getting that connection with the back of the pallet. They had her try some nipple shields and he started to feed straight away - he's one hungry baby though, he was breast feeding for 40 mins and still wanted more afterwards.

Just now, he's was breast fed, had some pumped milk from a bottle and still wanted formula afterwards.

He always seems so stressed out no matter what we do in terms of not showing stress ourselves, lots of skin to skin etc. He goes from 0 to 100 when something is bothering him and his fists are clenched close to his body, and his legs are always tense and not relaxed.

Cranial osteopathy has been suggested which we've already booked in. He was in the birth canal for two hours so his birth was a little traumatic which could explain some of the behaviour.

Every day seems to be about little wins, my partner was quite emotional with him breastfeeding today.

shroomz said:
Have you had a look at whether there is a lactation consultant nearby you could get some help from? First couple of weeks were really tough for us and getting ours to latch properly was really helpful to get help just to work out some ways to bring that instinct out.
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Thanks for sharing your experience - it has helped to hear that breastfeeding really isn't simple, and it isn't anything we're doing wrong. Some of my partner's friends have quoted months as their time frame to be successful.
 
Daughter is getting up extremely early lately usually around 5am . She is 18 months old and we have tried putting her bed later but still the same . Anyone got any tips? . She goes bed around 7.15pm.
 
Mekrel said:
Thanks, fez. The NHS has been fantastic so far, we had a checkup yesterday and mentioned the issues and they booked us in with a feeding expert for today. My partner's are a little flat which isn't helping the little guy with getting that connection with the back of the pallet. They had her try some nipple shields and he started to feed straight away - he's one hungry baby though, he was breast feeding for 40 mins and still wanted more afterwards.
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Thats great news. Breast feeding issues can make people feel horrible and like a failure when its nothing like that. I blame the babies myself. Useless little critters! They have literally 1 job!

Mekrel said:
He always seems so stressed out no matter what we do in terms of not showing stress ourselves, lots of skin to skin etc. He goes from 0 to 100 when something is bothering him and his fists are clenched close to his body, and his legs are always tense and not relaxed.
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We have identical twins and one was comfortable and chilled out and the other one had a horrible time. Gassy, didn't settle easily and was in a lot of discomfort at times. Unfortunately you can't outwit these things sometimes. The worst thing was that we were almost certain it was trapped wind and all we could find to help was ****** videos online with parents smugly telling and showing you how to wind your baby by taking them and gently moving them and then they fart or burp. Their baby that was sitting there quite happily as they gently manipulated them to get the desired outcome. When your child is screaming their head off and tensed up because of the pain, someone telling you how simple it is to relieve that pain on what is essentially a child in no discomfort is annoying to say the least.

Again, its nothing you are doing wrong, some children are just not good at existing at that age and their only real outlet is crying/screaming.

Mekrel said:
Thanks for sharing your experience - it has helped to hear that breastfeeding really isn't simple, and it isn't anything we're doing wrong. Some of my partner's friends have quoted months as their time frame to be successful.
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Yeah, it can be simple or it can be difficult to impossible. Its like everything in life. Its easy for some, impossible for others and for most people its somewhere in the middle.
 
We were lucky with breastfeeding that she latched at ~30 mins old but then have had other issues like sleep, constipation amongst others. All swings and roundabouts but the challenge is fun - I successfully fed her a bottle for the first time yesterday which was great, only taken 18 weeks!
 
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tom_e said:
Chicken pox going around the nursery room... Just on the countdown for her to get it now
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The only saving grace with this is that it’s typically a ‘one and done’ unlike these poxy viruses constantly making the rounds!

Our 17mo these past 2 weekends is FINALLY trying to stand up on her own after months of pulling up and walking along the sofas/footrests, shouldn’t be long now.
 
Buffman said:
I just paid about 100 quid for mine to get the vaccine for that
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I thought about but unfortunately it was already doing the rounds before it came to mind so she'll almost certainly have it before she'd have gotten the two doses.
 
tom_e said:
I thought about but unfortunately it was already doing the rounds before it came to mind so she'll almost certainly have it before she'd have gotten the two doses.
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Hopefully she's alright with it anyways! Luckily it can't come back
 
To be fair she handled hand foot and mouth much better than I did and that rash looked incredibly irritating so fingers crossed she'll be relatively ok with the pox when it hits
 
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