opinion on bf/gf cheating....

_Jimlad_ said:
no because i can't help but think it is a male :D

i'm quite honest with my wife about it, she knows the score, i do look away or avoid if i can, but men are men
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Honesty in these things is good. I don't cheat on my girlfriend (FWIW, I have cheated in the past, and been cheated on), but if a girl walks past in knee high socks then you can bet your life on me checking her out. She knows I do this, and it doesn't bother her. I appreciate she'll also look at attractive men. We're in a happy, trusting relationship so I see no reason to forbid her from looking at other men nor does she stop me from checking out attractive ladies.

If she strayed, then do I really care? If it's just sex, then I can live with that. I think, as I have suggested above, physical cheating isn't necessarily a bad thing. Emotional cheating however is different and I'd feel that I'd let her down if I hadn't given her the emotional support that she longs for. If it's a kiss? I really don't care.
 
Ahleckz said:
if a girl walks past in knee high socks then you can bet your life on me checking her out. She knows I do this, and it doesn't bother her. I appreciate she'll also look at attractive men. We're in a happy, trusting relationship so I see no reason to forbid her from looking at other men nor does she stop me from checking out attractive ladies.
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This sums it up for me.
 
Ahleckz said:
If she strayed, then do I really care? If it's just sex, then I can live with that. I think, as I have suggested above, physical cheating isn't necessarily a bad thing. Emotional cheating however is different and I'd feel that I'd let her down if I hadn't given her the emotional support that she longs for. If it's a kiss? I really don't care.
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Whilst I agree with it being ridiculous expecting people not to look, you certainly appear to be in a more open relationship than the norm.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21311647 said:
You're describing boys not gentlemen. Of course we like to be lusted after but we also want to be romanced, feel cherished and adored and respected. This is why I won't have sex on the first date - not even if you went to Oxford - and is why my relationships so far have been about trust, respect and maturity.



There is nothing in biology which says anything about this being a hardwired or genetic print which dictates the behaviour of boys. I mean men. I studied Biology and know this for a fact. It's a common misconception and used as an excuse for boys to be lewd. Ewww. I bet you watch 'those films' or, worse, have acted in them or watched them with a girl!
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Obvious troll is obvious.
 
Jono8 said:
We have all thought about it.
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i for one would never ever actually cheat though.

no matter how drunk i am my moral compass still guides me :D (whcih is why i cant understand people who claim they cant remember doing stuff when they are drunk, i can always remember and ive been well out of it more than a few times, it just seems to be a convenient excuse)
 
[FnG]magnolia;21311647 said:
There is nothing in biology which says anything about this being a hardwired or genetic print which dictates the behaviour of boys. I mean men. I studied Biology and know this for a fact. It's a common misconception and used as an excuse for boys to be lewd.
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The whole nature VS nurture argument.

From my studying it seems to indicate it's a mixture of both, males are born with a desire to pro-create, women are born with a desire to produce offspring.

Biologically speaking a women should try to produce with the best male they can find, if a better is found they should switch to them.

If women applied this today they would be with one person at a time but constantly trading up.

For men there is no reason for them to only be with one person, they have a better chance of producing more offspring (continuing the genetic line by sleeping with as many women as possible).

If this was applied today men would sleep with anything that walks.

The influence of society, combined with the understanding of the emotional pain of the issue has promoted a 1 on 1 relationship system - which does go against biology for both men & women.

Which if you look in wider society, women who cheat (Do tend to do the trade-up method) & men who cheat do tend to sleep with anything.

That's not saying our base biology should be followed, just that we should expect a certain percentage of the base population to be resistance to the social pressures of agreed conduct.
 
elmarko1234 said:
Which if you look in wider society, women who cheat (Do tend to do the trade-up method) & men who cheat do tend to sleep with anything.
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Rubbish. Almost everyone that I know who has cheated, or does cheat, do so because the person they are cheating with has something the other person doesn't offer them. Be it better looks, more fun, more adventurous or another quantifiable reason. Those who sleep with anything tend to be single.
 
I was wondering if the leering at woman was just something men grew out of with age....

I had to give my father a lift to collect his car and on the way down the road home there was a hot girl walking along the road, i of course had a good old look at her and looked in the rear view mirror to see my father do the same thing when he drove passed as well, he's 68!

Guess not then :)
 
Showboat said:
I was wondering if the leering at woman was just something men grew out of with age....

I had to give my father a lift to collect his car and on the way down the road home there was a hot girl walking along the road, i of course had a good old look at her and looked in the rear view mirror to see my father do the same thing when he drove passed as well, he's 68!

Guess not then :)
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can't be true? I had to hand my penis back in on my 35th birthday.
 
Ahleckz said:
if a girl walks past in knee high socks then you can bet your life on me checking her out. She knows I do this, and it doesn't bother her. I appreciate she'll also look at attractive men. We're in a happy, trusting relationship so I see no reason to forbid her from looking at other men nor does she stop me from checking out attractive ladies.
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Pretty much this!
 
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Ahleckz said:
Rubbish. Almost everyone that I know who has cheated, or does cheat, do so because the person they are cheating with has something the other person doesn't offer them. Be it better looks, more fun, more adventurous or another quantifiable reason. Those who sleep with anything tend to be single.
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Which is why I said "tend" & used the word "seems" - I don't recall stating anything as a 100% fact which applies to 100% of the population.

From the social groups I know, both men & women do follow the method I mentioned.
 
Ahleckz said:
Rubbish. Almost everyone that I know who has cheated, or does cheat, do so because the person they are cheating with has something the other person doesn't offer them. Be it better looks, more fun, more adventurous or another quantifiable reason. Those who sleep with anything tend to be single.
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I've known a few male cheaters who "trade down", and any female cheater I have known has indeed "traded up".
 
You kept your dignity and showed your respect towards your ex. You've done nothing wrong.

We all think about what we'd do to other women about umpteen times in a day, I know I do and have done multiple times already today, some of which are about the same woman. Doesn't mean I'd ever actually do it though.

Two completely different things.
 
Long and short of it (:eek:) you can window shop as long as you don't enquire about the price and keep your card in your wallet (or purse)

Guys are always going to see woman and say "Nah...her elbows are waaaay to pointy. I wouldn't..." and woman (if they are honest) will say "Fwwwa, he is hot"

But the difference here is: saying it, isn't doing it

Saying it, approaching and flirting with said pointy elbowed/ hot person, and then purchasing/ getting your card out/ doing the deed when you have a girlfriend or boyfriend IS CHEATING

Saying/Thinking it and doing nothing IS NOT CHEATING

I have cheated and I can make excuses about the situations, but at the end of the day I should have finished the relationship before I did something as i knew I was going to sleep with the other guys...but i was a wimp and didn't. The relationships were a pile of **** but I wouldn't face up to that at the time.

Never again
 
Pixel said:
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Where's that stat from? O.o
 
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