Paying a compliment apparently a bad thing..?

dowie said:
noooo - don't do that IMO - if there was some awkwardness with what you said then that could potentially compound it by brining it up again
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Yeah, you may be right actually. Perhaps i'll just get back do doing what i was doing but I left it in her head that i would ask her out again some time (trying to be casual about it!!) - perhaps i need to nip that in the bud so she's not always on tenterhooks, expecting me to ask her out.

naffa said:
But if you do go and apologise, make sure you keep your cool. Be jokey and be cool, if you can make her laugh, then that is good as well.

But STAY cool. Good luck. :cool:
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Cheers. I'll stay cool, but I'm genuinely gutted that i may have messed up and lost a good friend. Sounds lame, but friends are very important to me.

Gaygle said:
So wait, she really likes you (as a friend), but you said something to make her think you like her as more than a friend and she's misread the situation?
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It seems that way. I misunderstood her going out for drinks with me as her seeing me as something other than a friend.
 
just ask her whats up, just say "hey whats up, you seem a little off, is everything alright ?" or something like that, if someones being off with me I'll just ask them straight out, not aggressively of course but in a friendly manner, if you ask her whats up and she ummms and r's then say "was I a little too forward the other night, if so then I apologize" then take it from there.
 
Heh I paid a compliment to a female in our Audit department at work the other week. She'd had a dramatic haircut (long to short) and I usually make a point of commenting on things like that, which 99% of the time goes down very well with big smiles all round. For the record i'm not even remotely attracted to her, and even if I was she's married to someone in the office. I said: "Have you had your haircut? Oh it really suits you, looks nice". It was almost as though i'd punched her in the ovaries and then weed on her back while she was doubled up in pain. She couldn't even respond with a coherent word. Made me chuckle all day. :D

Oh and OP I don't think she fancies you, hence why she reacted like that. You may just be one of her rare male friends, and by making a move you shattered her illusion that some males can be friends wihout wanting more. Silly girl. ;)
 
Richdog said:
Oh and OP I don't think she fancies you, hence why she reacted like that. You may just be one of her rare male friends, and by making a move you shattered her illusion that some males can be friends wihout wanting more. Silly girl. ;)
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She might not be so silly if the OP did show hints of "metro-sexual-ness" Girls home on them and make you their friends, +1 to their male friend that don't want a romp and a possible output place for her emotional needs.

A mate of mine had the luck to meet 2 of such girls, both he would happily romp with but he was used as an emotional vent instead. Poor kid.

Anyway, I digress.

From what you've explained, it sounds like you're unsure if she likes you or not and as it stands, always... ALWAYS assume a girl don't fancy you in anyway and work from there if you do. I'd give it a few days before actually making a move instead of compliments (as some have said, she might be shy...) A move (of asking her straight out, I like you, do you feel the same?) will prove conclusively if she does or not. If she doesn't, play it out to be not an issue, smile and maybe buy her a cuppa coffee as a friend and stay at that.

That's what I'd do anyway.
 
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