I would love to live near the sea. I've always loved the sea. My idea of retirement is to move somewhere like that. Unfortunately my wife won't consider it. She prefers the urban life. Once the kids are grown up and have flown the nest it might become a big issue between us as I really want to move away from the London area (I'm in Surrey but it's stil inside the M25). Ultimately it might come down to a decision between wife and building the sort of retirement I really want.
Unless you’re really not that worried about your wife being around, I’d start working on a compromise if I were you.
Some ten years after we’d been together, and she’d been to France a few times and met my distant cousins up north around Lille, and down south in Haute-Garrone, I began to oh so gently lay the suggestion on my wife of us eventually retiring to France.
She said that she’d definitely give it serious thought, but eventually said that she couldn’t do it, she hated the thought of being in a shop, feeling helpless in being unable to speak to the shopkeeper, unless he/she could speak English.
She said, “Can you imagine me in Carrefour, (a supermarket), having to phone you to ask how to say goat’s cheese?”
She took an evening class to learn French, but gave up because everyone was streets ahead of her, she said that she was too old to learn, but I feel that it was because she is a dyed in the wool South Londoner, and felt mildly embarrassed about her Cockney accent.
I’d still love to go, but she means everything to me, and I didn’t need a gun to my head to decide to live out my days in London, it’s not Paris, but it’s not that bad.
@Jean-F - beach clubs are the answer. They charge entry so there are no families with chavvy kids making a noise, no fighting for a place, no extra charge for sundecks or parasols, you get lots of space and you get table service. Some even have a no kids policy.
I sincerely appreciate your advice Lysander, seriously I do, but it’s too late for me to fall in love with beaches, I’ll stick to sitting around the pool in the shade, ruining my liver!