Platonic relationship weirdness?

[krooton]

I don't believe this for a moment, and nor do you. There is no such thing as a 100% platonic relationship: sex is always there - sometimes highly obscured, sometimes right in front of you.

From a fundamental, genetic point of view you are right, but there are exceptions.

My absolute best friend in the whole world is female, and very attractive. We have been best friends for 10 years. We see eachother fully as siblings, no sexual aspect in our relationship.

The tickling and messing about is just another precursor to sex. Fore-foreplay, if you will. I had exactly this situation with a girl in halls. We were good friends and behaved identically to you - we messed about, 'slept' together wrapped up in each other etc etc. It was clear, after a while, that there was a sexual tension and we'd just been denying it. We ended up dating for several months after that.

Well, I have always found the playful, flirting thing to progress to something more, but never this sort of physical intimacy straight off the bat.

We haven't spoken in literally 6 years. Then we randomly sent a view messages on Facebook during the week, and I ended up getting invited to a day in the park with some of her mates.

If it does work into something more, that's cool, but now would be wrong, as it would be rebound, and I really am not looking for anything. I haven't been single in 3.5 years, let me at least savour it, lol

 

["andy"]

sound like your just really good friends ? you will either eventually end up together (probably when drunk...) or one of you will end up feeling hurt and jealous when the other of you decides to go try a proper relationship again.

 

[Knubje]

It's obvious you need to screw her. Get on with it.

First time I've seen a thread ended by the second post. Good job that man!

but everything with absolutely no sexual/physical connotation.

That is the EXACT point where you failed (No, not with the spelling )

 

[CaptainComedy]

I got a friend who is totally platonic with me even though we kiss on lips (not proper kiss), hug, tickle, etc etc etc. Im cool with it, its just fun.

I'd still bone her though fool.

 

[krooton]

sound like your just really good friends ? you will either eventually end up together (probably when drunk...) or one of you will end up feeling hurt and jealous when the other of you decides to go try a proper relationship again.

That's the thing, we are only just getting to know eachother again.

When I first moved to the UK, I was still chatting on IRC to people back in SA.

I started chatting to her randomly one day, and we both kinda felt something there.

When she moved over, we made a go of it, but quickly both realised we weren't right for eachother, and went our separate ways. So it's not like we have known eachother for ages or anything. It was 3 months online chat when we were 19, then a weeks attempt at being together, and then a split, not seeing eachother again until this weekend just passed.

It's all rather strange, but it's a nice enough situation regardless

 

[Kreeeee]

We see eachother fully as siblings, no sexual aspect in our relationship.

There's an error in your logic, siblings never get on and always fight.

 

[V4NT0M]

One of you has feelings for the other... Even if neither of you admit it...

 

[Combat squirrel]

It's obvious you need to screw her. Get on with it.

 

[krooton]

Yep, definitely.

lol!

Not out of choice, it is just perfect background telly for Sunday morning hangovers

Plus seeing all the munters on Eastenders is always good for a laugh

 

[krooton]

There's an error in your logic, siblings never get on and always fight.

We fight all the time, we keep eachother on our toes, which might be why we have such a strong bond.

Plus she is psycho, and I am really grounded and rational, so we ying yang eachother or something

 

[Mr Jack]

Platonic relationships are great; I feel sorry for men who seem unable to grasp the concept.

 

[gillywibble]

It's obvious you need to screw her. Get on with it.

 

[Pookie Bear]

There's an error in your logic, siblings never get on and always fight.

And in some places it seems that sexual contact is also perfectly acceptable between siblings

edit: But not where I'm from. That's disgusting!

 

[Knubje]

There is some advice that I am trying to think of that I read long ago....

Something starting with "H" and ending with "it it".

Ah well, I'm sure I'll remember at some point.

 

[Kreeeee]

Platonic relationships are great; I feel sorry for men who seem unable to grasp the concept.

It's unnatural, the human instinct for males is to reproduce as much as possible.

 

[Anewbe4u]

It's obvious you need to screw her. Get on with it.

Haha, the first reply and the right answer. Nice

 

[krooton]

It's unnatural, the human instinct for males is to reproduce as much as possible.

Most of modern life and society is unnatural, doesn't mean we cannot adapt or embrace it.

Well, we're going to the movies on Wednesday, then the weekend after this one we are have a movie weekend at mine (buying a new 32" TV soon). Dvds, good food and lots of wine.

Yay for wine!

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

You'll be a couple before the month is through

 

[Lysander]

It's unnatural, the human instinct for males is to reproduce as much as possible.

Exactly, it's all in-built into our programming.

There's a book called 'Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps' which covers this kind of stuff. It's one of those simply-written slightly nonsensical books but it does list all the physical and psychological differences between the sexes, and shows how each is engineered to specific tasks and responsibilities.

 

[David91]

It's obvious you need to screw her. Get on with it.

that!