Platonic relationship weirdness?

Lysander said:
Exactly, it's all in-built into our programming.

There's a book called 'Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps' which covers this kind of stuff. It's one of those simply-written slightly nonsensical books but it does list all the physical and psychological differences between the sexes, and shows how each is engineered to specific tasks and responsibilities.
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And please tell us kind sir....what advice would the "good book" give our man in this situation? :)
 
krooton said:
But I don't want to, you see?

And she doesn't either.

It's like some of the nicer, more chilled aspects of being with someone, but without the hassle/drama/etc

And no, she doesn't ming, she's pretty hot actually.
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You've clearly thought about sexy time or you wouldn't have made a thread on here about it NOT being the case ;)
 
Kreeeee said:
It's unnatural, the human instinct for males is to reproduce as much as possible.
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Depends how you define natural, but regardless, what does it matter?

And clearly it's not human instinct to want to reproduce as much as possible, otherwise we'd be aroused 24/7. And it varies from person to person, how do you define what human instinct is?
 
KittensCake said:
Depends how you define natural, but regardless, what does it matter?

And clearly it's not human instinct to want to reproduce as much as possible, otherwise we'd be aroused 24/7. And it varies from person to person, how do you define what human instinct is?
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By the dictionary definition of instinct =/

What's up your arse today?
 
krooton said:
So this is bizarre!

I can't say I have heard of it happening, certainly not with anyone I know.

I met up with a friend who I haven't seen in 6 years over the weekend.

Stayed over at her's for the weekend, so on Friday we drank 2 bottles of wine and chatted for 2 hours, completely ignoring a movie we put on.

Now I am fresh out of a complicated scenario relationship-wise, and I am not looking for anything, even casual. She's been single for just under a year, after a 4 year relationship, and is also not wanting anything.

So we are kinda on the same page, and just chilled and chatted etc over the weekend.

Now the thing that is weird, is that ended doing a lot of couple type things even though neither of us wants anything.

Sort of like the comforting aspects of a relationship that you tend to miss after being single for a while. General physical contact, cuddles, sharing a bed, but everything with absolutely no sexual/physical connotation.

We spent most of Sunday intertwined on her couch under a blanket, watching Hollyoaks/Eastenders omnibuses, whilst randomly tickling or trying to scare eachother.

Just nice. Comfortable. Pleasant.

It's really weird, it's like we are doing one small aspect of a relationship, that never occurs in platonic friendships, but still keeping it platonic, lol!

I don't mind, in fact it's really nice considering the recent crap I've gone through, I was just wondering if anyone else has had something like this, or knows someone who did.
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Lysander said:
It's obvious you need to screw her. Get on with it.
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FHUTA .... this!!
 
Janesy B said:
Why bother, giving her one is easily by far the best outcome possible. Who needs cuddles when you can... ;)
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To be honest, if I had the choice between carrying on like this for 1 year, or us furiously shagging for 1-2 months before all the sizzle dies down, I'd pick the former.

Plus I would rather keep her as a friend than add her to the ex pile :p
 
You're mad. She's been out of your life for 6 years, why worry about it?

If you carry on this cuddling lark you'll get emotionally attached and when she decided to have a relationship and it's not with you, you'll be hurt i can guarantee it. Just bone her, make the best out of a good situation.
 
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Lysander said:
I can't believe you just asked that question.
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He said it's human instinct to want to reproduce as much as possible. Where is he getting that from? If it varies from person to person, some people barely feeling sexual desire at all...etc, it's like a spectrum, so how can you say any point on the spectrum IS human instinct? If he said it's human instinct to want to reproduce, then maybe that would be correct, but to say it's human instinct to want to reproduce as much as possible is just wrong.
 
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Just a point, may be blatantly obvious.

The fact that you are finding it weird is a sign itself that you subconciously looking for more. If it is truely platonic, then by definition it shouldn't be weird.
 
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