Please tell me im being stupid

I hope it works out for you, I just went through hell for other reasons in fact im not out the other side yet but trying to work on it, I hope it works out for you though best of luck.
 
swinnie said:
Did you read that she is pregnant?
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of course, and as stated it can heighten a womans sex drive, yet on the other hand it can also put a lot of men off.

cant believe youre that naive to think that having kids already or expecting means that a regular sex life is taking place
 
Glad to hear you went to the job centre Meatloaf, good on you. :) Have you been to the GP yet tho? I hope she sees that your making an effort and comes to her senses for yours and the kids sake.

Keep us posted.

Aero
 
Nah shes not really up for it at all when shes pregnant really she says its uncomfortable and i cant blame her really :)

Got an appointment with the doctor tomorrow, ive been fine since but i guess it cant hurt to make sure

Shes decided now for certain what shes doing now, shes going. So ive not been nasty about it ive just been firm and said if she goes then theres no return for you and me, however i will still be here to be a father for the kids.

Plans for tomorrow are shopping!! OMG, i should get some money in the bank! Going the jobcentre again, plus going to see my lawyer concerning the divorce and the possibilty of getting tempory / permenant custody of the kids. Im pleased that despite not being the mother i have the full support of the school and was pleased that my home got a thumbs up :)

So overall my worst fears seem to be coming true but i feel much more positive and seem to have some direction for a change :)

Then im out tomorrow night, Queen Vic here i come!!

EDIT : just a quickie, last time we had the divorce going through i had to take my marriage certificate, however when i stopped the divorce before i never had the certificate back. Will they still have it or will i have to obtain a copy?
 
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Hey guys another update :)

Looks like kez may be taking what im saying in now and thinking on it as shes asked for one of the spare beds for the kids. Of course i said yes :)

In a final attempt to minimise disruption to the kids lives ive offered to sign the tenancy over to kerry if she should return, which is good for the kids as they will be staying put here. I can always get a flat if we cant resolve our differences within a few weeks, or theres always my parents, but whatever option im only a few moments from the kids :)

Obviously she may not choose to do this but just in case i have an appointment with my solicitor on tuesday ;)

And ive been the doctors, everything seems ok so i feel better about that as well :)
 
MeatLoaf said:
Hey guys another update :)

And ive been the doctors, everything seems ok so i feel better about that as well :)
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Good im really pleased about that, and good on you for staying positive and putting your children first.
 
Really feel for you meatloaf - money troubles have probably caused more relationships to suffer than any other single issue I reckon.

The problems of being a single mum with four kids will make what she is going through just now seem like a walk in the park and I believe that she is running to her mother for help because she realises that she won't get by without her assistance.

Focus on the kids and you'll feel better within yourself long term thats for sure.

I also aghree with others in here who think this might be the kickstart you need - start respecting yourself enough and everything in your life will improve. Your posting style and the things you have sacrificed for kez suggest low self esteem to me and I bet an evening spent in a decent support group once in a while meeting new faces will make all the difference!!

Good luck for the future and I hope things turn out as well as you wish for.
 
Well that its been a day full of emotions.

Kerry has been and collected her things. So im now officially seperated :(

I didnt let one drop of upset come out tho as she was getting her stuff together, mainly as i didnt want to let emma ( my daughter that came as well ) see me upset. In fact i was laughing and joking with her as if nothing was wrong

It was very hard and im sure it confused the hell out of her. There were floods of tears when she was gone but i stayed strong long enough for her to get her stuff together

So now on to the future, back to work on monday, new job hopefully soon and im sure there may be the odd lady along the way ;)
 
by any chance was the ** first partner, because i just came across this.

Originally Posted by MeatLoaf View Post
My first partner cheated on me

I got revenge by sleeping with the guys sister
 
asianlexi said:
by any chance was the ** first partner, because i just came across this.

Originally Posted by MeatLoaf View Post
My first partner cheated on me

I got revenge by sleeping with the guys sister
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Nah she wasnt my first by any means, but i still smile when i think of that :D

Anita happened about 9 years back, fun days :)
 
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Well i had what resembes a lie in today. Been up 45 mins and already im feeling the sadness creep in but im determined not to dwell on things. The biggest thing at the moment is having to resist the urge to ring kerry just to hear the sound of her voice :(

Its not until you loose somebody that you realise how much you depend on them emotionally :(
 
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