You need to be VERY careful, the crudest way I know, which you MUST NOT try is a lead from the generator single phase 230 V output socket to a 13 Amp plug, which will be live with the generator running. You FULLY ISOLATE all the house wiring from the input from the grid, usually using the master switch just after the supply company's 60 or 100 Amp fuse and meter, then plug the 13 Amp plug into any 13 Amp socket. Very dangerous, but very simple. What you must do for the sake of linesmen potentially working on a fault is NOT back feed the generator output into the grid. Simplest pretty safe method is wiring in a manual change over switch with break before make contacts between the household distribution panel and the main breaker switch, or even, if legal, using one INSTEAD of the main breaker switch. Whilst all the talk of back feeding the grid and a linesmen dropping off his perch like a dead parrot sounds possible and dramatic, I am sure they take precautions to fully ground both sides of a circuit break whilst they repair it, but you never know...
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I just made one up myself today, using branded switches as I decided to buy a power take off generator that will use my tractor as its rotational power source. I have been using a Honda frame generator of about 6 kVA, but I don't trust my wife not to turn big, probably inductive, loads on and do it some damage or at least keep tripping it, so bit the bullet for something that can run the house and workshop without being cautious as to what's turned on, in a totally normal manner. I can rework its 12 wire alternator into a state where it can run as a 3 phase generator instead of single phase, which will be of use to me for some future projects, too.
As we are nearly at the stage where we need a licence or qualifications to push a wheelbarrow, fiddling about with the mains house wiring is almost certainly not really allowed for an unqualified person, so caveat emptor....