Pretty sure GF is cheating on me.
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Even though my girlfriend and I aren't together any more.. I did speak to her telling her to promise me not to even be friends with him.. she didn't trust me once before about him being dodgy yet she befriended him again.. and I want her to trust me this time. I just dont want her getting hurt (I wouldn't want anyone to get hurt tbh as it's not nice - I should know) and what genuine guy tries to break up someone's relationship before pouncing the minute after? She refused.. told me to **** off and try to control someone else.
So you dump her and still want to tell her who she can and can't see?
She was right to tell you to get stuffed.
GIT AAAAURA MAR PUB!
You tried "warning" her that the guy is no good. She got mad, told you to **** off and yet she is trying to make you feel bad for breaking up?
Again, don't fall for it
Mindgames! Just try to cut all contact with her now.
And you can't really tell her what to do. She's going to learn it the hard way when that guy goes sneaking off with some other girl.
Again, don't fall for it
Mindgames! Just try to cut all contact with her now.And you can't really tell her what to do. She's going to learn it the hard way when that guy goes sneaking off with some other girl.
NEVA PEGGAY
It is obvious that he still cares for her and he is only looking out for her... Its not a case of saying who she can and cant see... Your making him out to be something he is not!!!
No your seeing it for something its not
He is the type of person that will get walked all over unless he grows a pair. Ive seen many friend suffer the same peril. She is a nasty piece of work (from the information he has given us) and he is better off without her all together.
Let her get emotionally hurt, its the only way these people will learn thier lesson.
Nitrojan, as I've been reading this thread I swing one way then the other. Firstly: 'I love you with all my heart' - sickening. As many have said, I died a little. Secondly, completely clear she's been messing about and is worthy of dumping. Thirdly, you share the responsibility for the relationship ending by being a clingy woman, perhaps see your doctor for testosterone supplements. Breaking up with her, good call - trying to tell her who she can and can't see - even when it's obviously the guy she wants penetrating her after you've broken up - is desperate, clingy and pathetic.
Doesn't even seem to me like the other guy has done anything wrong, if he wants to screw a girl in a failing relationship fair enough, your relationship or lack thereof is between you and her, nothing to do with him. He even did you the honour of telling you that she was a skank, which was above the call of duty.
So basically, man up, stop being such a wuss, stop trying to think about "I don't want him to hurt her" etc etc. It should be more like "I hope that guy makes her feel worthless like she is".
I mean I'm really tempted to side with you, but with the car thread, and a few lines from this one I'm pretty sure I'd dump/cheat on you in her place.
Address your own problems, become your own man, and craft a slightly more powerful position in life for yourself. Enjoy being single!
Doesn't even seem to me like the other guy has done anything wrong, if he wants to screw a girl in a failing relationship fair enough, your relationship or lack thereof is between you and her, nothing to do with him. He even did you the honour of telling you that she was a skank, which was above the call of duty.
So basically, man up, stop being such a wuss, stop trying to think about "I don't want him to hurt her" etc etc. It should be more like "I hope that guy makes her feel worthless like she is".
I mean I'm really tempted to side with you, but with the car thread, and a few lines from this one I'm pretty sure I'd dump/cheat on you in her place.
Address your own problems, become your own man, and craft a slightly more powerful position in life for yourself. Enjoy being single!
Only read the first and last page admittedly, but splitting up with her was the right thing to do. I was in a very similar problem myself a couple of years a go with my ex and my only regret was not ending all contact with her when we split up. We still saw each other a little bit behind the other guys back and it was very confusing and not particularly enjoyable for either of us looking back. I've got a new girlfriend now who I love a lot more than I did ever to my ex and just generally get on a lot better with.
Seriously, just break all contact with this girl and that guy, in the future you will look back and realise it was the best thing to do
Seriously, just break all contact with this girl and that guy, in the future you will look back and realise it was the best thing to do
So true. She's simply trying to plant seeds of doubt in your mind. She has been dishonest with you, and that should be enough to end it with her. She didn't respect you one bit, but the fact that you've now broken up with her has made her respect you (ie. because she's coming back to you constantly in tears). Don't lose that respect by taking her back.
If you really wanted to take her down, when she left in tears, you should have sent her a text 5 mins later saying "Urgh! Finally got rid of the whiney bitch. So, when are you coming round? Can't wait to see you
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Best advice in the whole thread imo.
Clingy woman? Yes.. likely :/ Regardless of if we are together or not.. I still love this girl and that won't die for a very long time.. I have lived with this girl day in day out throughout our whole relationship because we loved each other so much. Yeah, we probably got too attached too soon.. which is why I am like this. I have forgotten what it's like not to be in a relationship as my life changed so suddenly. Infact, I don't want to be out of a relationship because I miss it already. Regardless, I was only trying to be caring - I don't want to see her get hurt. Surely you can't brand me as a bad person for that?
Clingy woman? Yes.. likely :/ Regardless of if we are together or not.. I still love this girl and that won't die for a very long time.. I have lived with this girl day in day out throughout our whole relationship because we loved each other so much. Yeah, we probably got too attached too soon.. which is why I am like this. I have forgotten what it's like not to be in a relationship as my life changed so suddenly. Infact, I don't want to be out of a relationship because I miss it already. Regardless, I was only trying to be caring - I don't want to see her get hurt. Surely you can't brand me as a bad person for that?
Couple of things:
No one branded you a bad person, just a complete door matt
you say you both loved each other very much? I doubt this is true on both accounts. Man the hell up fella seriously. You fell for her, she fell for someone else. The sooner you realise this the better off you will be
What does it take for you to realise this? Seeing her actually doing the deed with the guy before you realise she is playing games with you?
I hate to sound like an *******, but you have to see sense. She has you exactly where she wants you right now.
If the boot was on the other foot there is not a chance she would be as forgiving/understanding as you are being.
And before you gun off? Im not a relationship hater at all. I have been with my GF since 15-16 and im now 23 Young love can work. Just in your case it didnt.
I'm not branding you a bad person, I'm saying that you're a bit overemotional and kitty-whipped - by someone who obviously doesn't care as much for you as you do for them - there are few things more uncomfortable to see. I appreciate the first relationship can be a tough one to end, but the way that you behave in this first relationship will have a massive bearing on subsequent ones, if you make yourself a pushover, for women to abuse your kindness(read: weakness), then you are setting yourself up for a life of being the *****. You don't want that, I don't want to read that.
Also, you had the upper hand in the breakup - until - you started trying to get her not to see that guy... Then you become the grovelling worm again, and that is not something that women respect - hell, they respect/love someone more who slaps them in the face. You're only hurting yourself by being so 'caring'(read: pathetic).
Also, in terms of general comfort of a relationship, it's a pretty good feeling having a girl being your woman, holding the dominant manly position, rather than spending your time being wussy.
Also, it's going to be the routine that you miss, you've forgotten your friends and how to spend time on your own - this is something that women bypass by jumping onto the next rigid branch they can find, to their own detriment. If you can't spend time productively on your own, you're not really worthy of respect (which 80% of women cannot do it seems), just accept that it's something that women don't do, but something that will make you happier and more centred in yourself.
Also, you had the upper hand in the breakup - until - you started trying to get her not to see that guy... Then you become the grovelling worm again, and that is not something that women respect - hell, they respect/love someone more who slaps them in the face. You're only hurting yourself by being so 'caring'(read: pathetic).
Also, in terms of general comfort of a relationship, it's a pretty good feeling having a girl being your woman, holding the dominant manly position, rather than spending your time being wussy.
Also, it's going to be the routine that you miss, you've forgotten your friends and how to spend time on your own - this is something that women bypass by jumping onto the next rigid branch they can find, to their own detriment. If you can't spend time productively on your own, you're not really worthy of respect (which 80% of women cannot do it seems), just accept that it's something that women don't do, but something that will make you happier and more centred in yourself.
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Clingy woman? Yes.. likely :/ Regardless of if we are together or not.. I still love this girl and that won't die for a very long time.. I have lived with this girl day in day out throughout our whole relationship because we loved each other so much. Yeah, we probably got too attached too soon.. which is why I am like this. I have forgotten what it's like not to be in a relationship as my life changed so suddenly. Infact, I don't want to be out of a relationship because I miss it already. Regardless, I was only trying to be caring - I don't want to see her get hurt. Surely you can't brand me as a bad person for that?
May I ask how old you are and how long were you in a relationship for?
I've been through the same thing as you. I was a complete pussy when it came to my first love however I soon manned the **** up. I was 18 at the time and had been seeing her for only a year. She was very pretty but a complete ****. Thankfully the guy who she cheated with ended up pregnant and now he's stuck with her in that mother/father role forever due to this child. They were only together all of 5 minutes aswell but I feel sorry for the poor guy! (She/I also got revenge on him aswell as I nailed her a few weeks later from when she done the deed
)Anyway, I know it sucks now but just keep yourself busy instead of sitting on the internet all day wishing it could all be different, just go out and do stuff and keep busy.
Ohh and i'm in a great relationship now with two beautiful kids so it does get better.
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Quoted for truth. You are not with her anymore and have no right to tell her who she can see and who she can't. Giving that this guy has played a part in the breakup what did you expect her to say? She has feelings for him. Accept that and move on for god sake.
Since someone else quoted this and explained why it is wrong I will just quote it again and tell you that the OP REALLY has no say in her private life.