I know, deep down she ‘really’ doesn’t like being 18. It was not nice for her to have to go out and buy all new clothes in a matter of months, upsetting as it must have been she’s shown no emotion towards it, but I do know deep down its not what she really wants.
I know this, as whilst we were walking the dogs, she mentioned that she can handle the weight and how everyone perceives her, but would like to lose it naturally so as to avoid excess skin – so its on her mind, for sure…!!
I am trying to be supportive. I don’t want to leave her as it will be low. She told me when we were about to split, and trust this, this is a hard as nails girl. She has never, and I mean never cried in front of me, but she did that day. She broke down, and tears were down her face. She was devastated.
She started to question that she was now ugly and fat, and its not that… I wasn’t leaving her for her weight. I was leaving as she was not taking charge and doing something, and this hurts me more…. I can take being out with a girl sized 18. She might actually loose some if it, and drop to 16, and that’s not far from 14 but it matters not… What hurt me was the selfish attdute of ‘I’m not changing, for NO ONE..!!’ even though I voiced health concerns as my main reasons for doing something about it…
I think this’ll be hard on both of us, I myself need to watch what I eat as I’ve got a medical condition – we are a right pair…. But see how it goes…. Glad I’m not the only one who thought she was a little out of order.
I was really starting to doubt myself… Its troubled me for months, and I’ve now broken down and needed to talk.,.
Thanks all..