Hmmm not actually sure which dongle I'm using but it was a relatively cheap one from amazon supposedly 600mbs at 5ghz, Do you think its worth getting a better dongle? Not sure how good the wiring is in my house.
There is your problem with the hotspot. Your Wireless Dongle might say 600mbs on the package, but I would say it probably doesn't even reach half those speeds.
Not sure what to advise you to do

The best option is a dedicated router. But, you have problems if you go this way too. Ideally you really need to be hardwired back to the main router. Since you can't, you might consider buying two powerline adapters.
You could buy a router and try what you said above. But, YMMV if you set it up that way.