I use dumb toolboards for the extruders on my iDEX and they use ribbon cable, no issues with the hotend. Take a look at Jon channel he did a couple of videos on custom connectors/quick connectors. Like this one
Cheers Bulb, that's interesting. I was more excited by the 36W4 connection....until I checked and it's £20 for the female version (with solder bucket pins) and they don't even do the male version. Might have a browse round and see if anyone else does them. Either that or I have to buy an MLSA printer!