Since when was the dinner 'intimate'? Two people having a meal is more often than not just... two people eating some food.
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Since when was the dinner 'intimate'? Two people having a meal is more often than not just... two people eating some food.
You might want to look up the word intimate, the dinner meets many of the definitions.
1.
closely acquainted; familiar.
(yes)
2.
private
(yes, the OP wasn't invited).
The OP has no need to be worried, she had a catch up dinner with an old mate. Throwing words like private and intimate into the mix to try and make it sound like something more than that based on absolutely zero evidence is daft.
Do people on here seriously not have friends of the opposite sex that they see in isolation?
Do people on here seriously not have friends of the opposite sex that they see in isolation?
I would sit her down, have a heart to heart. Tell her you love her etc but if there is something you should know let her know she can tell you even if it is hurtful. Because it is best to know now instead of months or years down the road. I think you can sense something wrong because there IS something that has happened. Then ask if she still wants to be a part of the relationship...if she will be happier just as friends etc. You need really open communication. I mean if both sides are really on the same page supportive of each other and honest then openness shouldnt be a problem. The fact she possibly could be hiding something does not bode well.
OP you are most likely joining up the odd mood and the dinner and inventing something that isn't there.
She may even be testing you to gauge your reaction. The last thing you do is show your concern. Relationships are not easy and having other sex friends can be a problem. It's just how it is with some so I wouldn't beat yourself for feeling a little threatened. If anything, use it to teach yourself to be comfortable with partners meeting other sex friends. If it bothers you find something else to do to take your mind of it.
That she's been up front with it may show it's a non issue for her. As someone else says, if you get texts during or when she's on her way home, it's reassuring you. Even if you don't get anything then don't worry.
Stop worrying, enjoy the relationship and only react to what your GF does. Don't be reactive and cause damage to the relationship. If you comment on her seeing this guy you might even plant the idea that wasn't even there before.
She may even be testing you to gauge your reaction. The last thing you do is show your concern. Relationships are not easy and having other sex friends can be a problem. It's just how it is with some so I wouldn't beat yourself for feeling a little threatened. If anything, use it to teach yourself to be comfortable with partners meeting other sex friends. If it bothers you find something else to do to take your mind of it.
That she's been up front with it may show it's a non issue for her. As someone else says, if you get texts during or when she's on her way home, it's reassuring you. Even if you don't get anything then don't worry.
Stop worrying, enjoy the relationship and only react to what your GF does. Don't be reactive and cause damage to the relationship. If you comment on her seeing this guy you might even plant the idea that wasn't even there before.
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If she'd gone and had an intimate dinner with a good female friend this wouldn't even be a question would it? So obviously gender plays a role, but if it makes you feel better you can remove the word woman from my original statement and just leave relationships my point still stands.
Anyway it's sod all to do with white knighting. Have you never noticed in any other advice thread not involving a relationship the OP has their story ripped to bits and investigated to the nth degree normally ending in people saying there's obviously something the OP isn't telling us and it's their fault.
Yet in a relationship thread it's almost always 100% behind the OP and the other party is nuts.
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I am pretty sure my gf wouldn't have a problem with me going to dinner with one of my female friends!
I have gone with my work friend before, no issues. I don't understand how some would say this is definitely going to lead to cheating?
I have gone with my work friend before, no issues. I don't understand how some would say this is definitely going to lead to cheating?
WRONG
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/
the only way they are friends is if the bloke is as bent as a rainbow otherwise he's just biding his time to sample her pasty
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This is complete rubbish - I don't understand why this theory gains so much credence. Surely we've all got female friends we've got no interest in other than as a friend? There, theory debunked
How is it true? Are you telling me you don't have a single female friend who you've no romantic interest in? Really?
[TW]Fox;30183479 said:
I think the problem is a lot of girls have told you that they only want to be friends so you have a completely skewed dataset and have misunderstood their sentiment. I'm afraid to tell you that it's just them being polite.
Absolutely some will do that but many genuinely are not interested beyond friendship.
[TW]Fox;30183527 said:
If you have a good wife/girlfriend that you are happy with there is nothing extra a female 'friend' can bring to the table, unless you are after her pasty. The problem is many men 'settle' and then try to get something better by making friends with females.
[TW]Fox;30183500 said:
its not about romance, it's about sex. The human species is genetically coded no differently from any other animal i.e survival of their genese through procreation. So again unless this geeser is gay, while he may not be "romantically" making moves he 100% wants to bone her all the way to pasty town and at the first sign of her opening the door he'll be in there like a ferret down a rabbit hole
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