Relationship help...again

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M0T

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Women suck.

I met a girl last week, spent loads of time with her and tonight she tells me she likes me a lot and asks if I like her. I say yes.

She has a boyfriend.

She can't make up her mind what shes going to do because she is 'confused'.

Now I'm sure she didnt mean to hurt me because shes a really nice person, but why did she have to tell me, what do i say to her now?

Its times like this I wish I were gay.
 
At least she has been honest with you.

What do you do, let her decide, but i know i wouldnt hang around for long, If she is just gonna have the best of both worlds, get out asap
 
Theres another problem. One of my close mates used to really fancy her before she got with her boyfriend. She has told me she never liked him and thought he was a bit odd, but this will hurt him.

I feel so bad about this now.
 
dont commit yourself to her. your'll be waiting a long time as she'll be getting her rare little flirts with "danger" (ie you) and then a bf to fall back on. thats a nice position to be in.
 
sounds messy.

i hate it when there is a best friend involved like :p ive been there, but if they dont make a move and just pine over is everyone else supposed to not live their life.

:p
 
lemonkettaz said:
sounds messy.

i hate it when there is a best friend involved like :p ive been there, but if they dont make a move and just pine over is everyone else supposed to not live their life.

:p
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He made a move but she rejected him a lot.

:(
 
ahh :( oh, well...i agree with that other guy,

just dont get committed, you have a chance of getting hurt in this, but if she chooses you then great, but its not clear cut.

Give her time to think, but not ages and dont get too involved... or more involved.
 
other guy has a name :(


why are men so heartless this time of year?





seriously just dont get all wound up in it, if the girl wants you she'll leave him. DONT let her do anything to you until she does. there is a high chance she will pull the "omg *panic look* what have i done, ill ring you back" scenario as shes got whatever she wanted and can go on enjoying BF.

if this sounds heartless or cynical or sexist. lets face it guy's do it as well
 
yeh, thats why you only react to the girl dont pressure her, react nicely but be firm that she knows if she wants one she cant have the other. its not judging her its simply a safeguard into getting tangled into the whole thing with a mate a lass and your own feelings getting messed up.
 
M0T said:
but why did she have to tell me, what do i say to her now?
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Would you have preferred that she lied to you? You should be grateful for her being honest...That means she definitely respects you a lot! Do you think that she's told her boyfriend about you? I doubt that very much - so you're getting the truth, he's getting the lies, you should feel good about that.
What you say to her is easy, that you respect her for being honest & you understand she is confused, it cant be easy on her as she has mixed feelings for the 2 of you - but remember that girls who can have feelings for more than one person at the same time is never a good investment.
 
Anyone who plays the field with another person, while with another - is likely to do it again..... to YOU.

We're only human and we cant all live like saints, but given the absolute billions of people out there, and hundreds of millions of girls with no boyfriend, is this the one you want to be with?

Also - think of her poor boyfriend who is sitting thinking life is peachy, when in actual fact his hussie of a girlfriend is playing around with YOU.

Move on.
 
There's a girl I like who is with someone and we both agreed that nothing will happen while she is with him and seeing as I refuse to wait around for them to finish I'm just carrying on with my life as per normal and not chasing her as such, just letting her know every now and again that I'm here.
 
Just bear in mind that that she will probably "dispose" of you in a similar way if it comes to it. She's messing you around whilst also messing him around. She just wants to know that someone else fancies her: Something else to have a bit of control and inflated ego over.

Steer clear and go for someone who isn't a complete tool.
 
Hellsmk2 said:
Just bear in mind that that she will probably "dispose" of you in a similar way if it comes to it. She's messing you around whilst also messing him around. She just wants to know that someone else fancies her: Something else to have a bit of control and inflated ego over.

Steer clear and go for someone who isn't a complete tool.
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:)
 
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