Relationship help...again
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Your mate's problem with you and this girl hooking up is his problem. She doesn't like him, and they were never together so he should really be a man and get over it. Like you said, step adside.
As for her leaving a guy for you, thats another story. I've seen relationships that starts like this work (even getting married !), and some don't, it really depends on the couple.
Either way, Good luck !
As for her leaving a guy for you, thats another story. I've seen relationships that starts like this work (even getting married !), and some don't, it really depends on the couple.
Either way, Good luck !
Raymond Lin said:
Thruth!
My current gf of 1 year was one of these.
She had a 'bf', but they had stopped being a real couple for a while with no physical contact etc, but as they had an apartment together, it wasn't quite as easy as just dumping and moving on.
We fell for eachother, but didn't do anything until after she had broken it off with the other guy.
I couldn't be happier, and she loves trance!
MookJong said:
Both my current and previous girlfriends were in relationships when we got involved (the shortest of the two relationships was 3 years...).
I would just tell her to make a decision. She is going to have to at some point whether she likes it or not. Lay your cards down, tell her how you feel and then just leave the ball in her court and step back for a bit.
Right update:
We are together, we are very happy at the moment so all is well in the world...except:
My friend who used to like her last year won't talk to me, so she tried talking to him. His response was to tell her I was just doing it because apparently I like breaking up relationships and don't really like her, I want to show I'm better than him (wtf?), and that I controlled her into it. He then made out she was some kind of ****. She is obviously now very upset that hes turned into a mental, and I want to smack him one for upsetting her.
What can I do to fix this situation? At the end of the day, if the situation were reversed I'd be happy that two of my friends were happy regardless of how I felt, especially considering the amount of time he had to try and get her (though she was completely disinterested).
We are together, we are very happy at the moment so all is well in the world...except:
My friend who used to like her last year won't talk to me, so she tried talking to him. His response was to tell her I was just doing it because apparently I like breaking up relationships and don't really like her, I want to show I'm better than him (wtf?), and that I controlled her into it. He then made out she was some kind of ****. She is obviously now very upset that hes turned into a mental, and I want to smack him one for upsetting her.
What can I do to fix this situation? At the end of the day, if the situation were reversed I'd be happy that two of my friends were happy regardless of how I felt, especially considering the amount of time he had to try and get her (though she was completely disinterested).
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hey M0T,
Good to see you and the girl are together
About your friend, what's his problem??? Yes, he has the right to be upset or angry, but these feelings of his need to be restrained... no malice against others should come out of his feelings.
You need to consider whether someone who has upset the girl you are with is worth keeping as a friend???
Good to see you and the girl are together
About your friend, what's his problem??? Yes, he has the right to be upset or angry, but these feelings of his need to be restrained... no malice against others should come out of his feelings.
You need to consider whether someone who has upset the girl you are with is worth keeping as a friend???
Dont do anything to him, im sorry but its always mates before.........., but yes you should feel like giving him a slap, talk to her tell her he's just jealous and that she should ignore him like you have. He will get over it.
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This whole thing just seems like the start of a car crash relationship.
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Speak to your mate. Tell him to grow up, or bugger off. If he's a proper friend, he'll take it like a man ( 
) and if he's an overgrown child, he'll sulk for six months and then bad mouth you the rest of his life. Saying that, my best mate would sulk for 24 hours and then we'd go for a pint and it would be like nothing happened 
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) and if he's an overgrown child, he'll sulk for six months and then bad mouth you the rest of his life. Saying that, my best mate would sulk for 24 hours and then we'd go for a pint and it would be like nothing happened .
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KaHn said:
Not so much that, she just sounds like an attention-seeking psycho who needs to be in the middle of a drama constantly, and when the relationship gets settled, she doesn't see settled she sees boring so she stirs up some **** to keep herself entertained/wanted/needed
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KaHn said:
That's only what it looks like from he said, I don't know the girl.
Mohinder said:
Man I would hate to see the girl that messed you up that badly so that you would think that about someone else.
Honestly she is completely not like that, she is extremely shy and very self conscious. She is the most unlike that I have ever encountered.
She said that she just realised that I was just better for her, as in a better fit if you like, and there were loads of issues in the relationship she already had and that meeting me made her realise just how unhappy she was.
Either way the issue here is not between us, its with my mate who is being a total div.