relationship troubles

andy2k · 29 May 2006 at 21:36

Well i think she's finally given up on me, after recent events at work.

Are relationships that are hard work worth it? if your happy most of the time, even if there are issues?

Any ideas on how to get over losing somone? Never really been in this situation before

Gilly · 29 May 2006 at 21:39

At work? Do you work with her? Those ones are notoriously difficult as soon as you start having issues.

Sometimes you have to work at a relationship. If you're asking whether that is the case for a relationship then you're probably already of a mindset that it is over, and thats usually a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Best way to get over somoene is to get some mates together and have a good night out. Some people find solace in the arms/bed of another. I've never really been big on that myself.

andy2k · 29 May 2006 at 21:42

Yep, its a work one.

Its just very difficult, because i said something to someone about her its been twisted around, now she doesnt trust me.

Shes just text me now saying, its over and don't contact me. Just dont know if i can fix it.

shifty_uk · 29 May 2006 at 21:42

Long term relationships are hard work, there are the good times, and the bad times. You just need to work hard, and communicate, find out whats best for you both.

If its really over, I'm sorry to hear that mate. I had a real issue a couple of weeks ago, that I posted on the forum. To cut a long story short, my girlfriend of 2 years, done some pretty horrible things behind my back and when I found out that was it truely over. People say that time is a healer, and well....I believe that now, because I feel a lot better, and its only been a couple of weeks, who knows how good I'll feel in another couple of weeks, or perhaps a couple of months.

You'll get your chance again, you'll find someone new

Goodluck mate, and cheer up, you've always got ocuk

Gilly · 29 May 2006 at 21:43

See her face to face and explain the situation. Don't let other people dictate what happens in your relationship.

And never include anyone at work in anything that happens between you unless it is absolutely necessary.

andy2k · 29 May 2006 at 21:44

Well im gonna try and see her in an hour or so when she gets back, then I'll know for sure.

Just she's so different to anyone ive ever met before, knew that from the minute i met her 2 years ago

Will let you know how i got on if i end up back at home

VeNT · 29 May 2006 at 21:44

andy2k said:
Yep, its a work one.

Its just very difficult, because i said something to someone about her its been twisted around, now she doesnt trust me.

Shes just text me now saying, its over and don't contact me. Just dont know if i can fix it.

give her time to cool down.
don't keep contacting her cos that will make her mad.
tbh it looks like you've done it tho,
what ever did you say?

andy2k · 29 May 2006 at 21:46

Gilly said:
See her face to face and explain the situation. Don't let other people dictate what happens in your relationship.

And never include anyone at work in anything that happens between you unless it is absolutely necessary.

I know, People have been putting on pressure for me to tell about whats going on, And ive said bits.

Just cant see it without her, even if were just close friends.

Gilly · 29 May 2006 at 21:47

VeNT said:
what ever did you say?

Don't think its a good idea giving details online when he's already said it to someone else and thats what caused the issue...

andy2k · 29 May 2006 at 21:47

VeNT said:
give her time to cool down.
don't keep contacting her cos that will make her mad.
tbh it looks like you've done it tho,
what ever did you say?

Told someone we were together last night, someone who she dislikes, and some things that we did, The big issue is shes 20 years older than me so people love to talk about it.

andy2k · 29 May 2006 at 21:47

She will never see this in 100 years, as she isn't into the internet.

VeNT · 29 May 2006 at 21:48

andy2k said:
Told someone we were together last night, someone who she dislikes, and some things that we did, The big issue is shes 20 years older than me so people love to talk about it.

dude thats REALY a baaaaad idea
but 20 years older?
how old are you?

rs125 · 29 May 2006 at 21:48

My advice = NEVER get involved with anyone that you work with !!..Had to quit my last job because of it...Never again!!!

agw_01 · 29 May 2006 at 21:48

andy2k said:
Told someone we were together last night, someone who she dislikes, and some things that we did, The big issue is shes 20 years older than me so people love to talk about it.

Sorry did I read that right?

You're 17/18 and she's nearing onto 40?

MILF!!

VeNT · 29 May 2006 at 21:49

Gilly said:
Don't think its a good idea giving details online when he's already said it to someone else and thats what caused the issue...

no I ment what he said (not details) ie if he had said that she had a bad habbit of waking him up with her gass then thats one thing
talking about what you got up to between the sheets is another.

andy2k · 29 May 2006 at 21:51

Yea im 17 until july, Shes 38.

Been getting on very well for ages now, and she really likes me. I will never go for a work relationship again as I'll be handing in my notice tomorrow unless it changes in 24 hours. She should be home in an hour, then I'll know for sure.

agw_01 · 29 May 2006 at 21:52

Well... hmmm...

Dude, you say you've been together 2 years?

I'm astonished that it has worked out for that length of time! Is she like, 5ft or something? (No offence piggy

)

zain · 29 May 2006 at 21:54

Meh, I seen a few of these relationships. Whether they work or not I dont know, as the Rover driving guy said....MILF, sometimes its nothing more than that even though you feel like it is. When a few younger chicks come flying your way you will probably forget about her, unless of course its true love *sings Celene Dion*

Every night in my dreams
I see you. I feel you.
That is how I know you go on.

Far across the distance
And spaces between us
You have come to show you go on.

Near, far, wherever you are
I believe that the heart does go on
Once more you open the door
And you're here in my heart
And my heart will go on and on

Love can touch us one time
And last for a lifetime
And never go till we're one

Love was when I loved you
One true time I hold to
In my life we'll always go on

Near, far, wherever you are
I believe that the heart does go on
Once more you open the door
And you're here in my heart
And my heart will go on and on

There is some love that will not
go away

You're here, there's nothing I fear,
And I know that my heart will go on
We'll stay forever this way
You are safe in my heart
And my heart will go on and on

Doesnt it make you wanna cry???

VIRII · 29 May 2006 at 21:58

Don't ditch your job over a woman for goodness sake.
You're so young that there will be loads more women before you find the right one. You've had a MILF - you'll be a legend amongst your peers. Now go find some girl your own age and enjoy it.

andy2k · 29 May 2006 at 21:59

agw_01 said:
Well... hmmm...

Dude, you say you've been together 2 years?

I'm astonished that it has worked out for that length of time! Is she like, 5ft or something? (No offence piggy )

Nah, I;ve know her and been friends for 2 years, Actually had something with her a couple of months.