Should I send a message to this girl

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Mr. Pickle

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This girl invited me out for a drink last night, I was scared it was a date when I first got there cos she was dressed quite nicely and I'm not really that interested. Shes started talking to me about relationships and always asks me if I am seeing any girls. I would say with my limited social skills that she kind of likes me a bit anyway even before that.

Shes 7 years older than me and very attractive

She bought me 2 drinks

So I had like 5 drinks but they were all strong drinks, 7% ale, usually I drink 3% stuff and only have 2 pints

So I got drunk and I probably started saying stuff that didnt make sense. I remember getting bored at her speaking about something and then 10mins later she said something about going down to the river for another drink and I cant really remember cos I was drunk but I just basically said no and Im going home and just left. Cant remember what her reaction was

I think maybe I was rude so should I text her to say thanks for the drink or something
 
Mr. Pickle said:
This girl invited me out for a drink last night, I was scared it was a date when I first got there cos she was dressed quite nicely and I'm not really that interested. Shes started talking to me about relationships and always asks me if I am seeing any girls. I would say with my limited social skills that she kind of likes me a bit anyway even before that.

Shes 7 years older than me and very attractive

She bought me 2 drinks

So I had like 5 drinks but they were all strong drinks, 7% ale, usually I drink 3% stuff and only have 2 pints

So I got drunk and I probably started saying stuff that didnt make sense. I remember getting bored at her speaking about something and then 10mins later she said something about going down to the river for another drink and I cant really remember cos I was drunk but I just basically said no and Im going home and just left. Cant remember what her reaction was

I think maybe I was rude so should I text her to say thanks for the drink or something
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Do you prefer men?
 
7yrs is a respectable age-gap for woman to man. Although this depends on your respective ages.

Sounds like you either weren't interested (in which case you shouldn't have gone to the 'date'), you were intimidated (by her age/openness, or just your fear) or you got drunk too easily.

I've been asked out by women about 7-9yrs older than me, but at my age, that is the wrong direction, and I politely refuse. I prefer 23-30, rather than older!
Also been asked out by a woman with kids (which is a huge NO! to me), so that was a polite refusal too.
 
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I was thinking I would just send a message saying thanks for the drinks, sorry I left abruptly, hope I wasnt rude etc, see you soon

We are adults its really not cool to be drunk anymore, its better that I left and went home

She said she would actually text me today but I kind of ignored it and just said goodbye
 
I wouldn't worry about it... she clearly likes you and you're probably overthinking the whole situation re: deciding to leave abruptly.

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Mr. Pickle said:
I was thinking I would just send a message saying thanks for the drinks, sorry I left abruptly, hope I wasnt rude etc, see you soon

We are adults its really not cool to be drunk anymore, its better that I left and went home

She said she would actually text me today but I kind of ignored it and just said goodbye
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If you are interested in her, say you felt unwell and the alcohol didn't help. Offer her a re-date at your expense...
 
Mr. Pickle said:
I was thinking I would just send a message saying thanks for the drinks, sorry I left abruptly, hope I wasnt rude etc, see you soon

We are adults its really not cool to be drunk anymore, its better that I left and went home

She said she would actually text me today but I kind of ignored it and just said goodbye
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Do you often have trouble reading subtle signals?

Sounds like she was DTF and you completely missed the bus.
 
dowie said:
I wouldn't worry about it... she clearly likes you and you're probably overthinking the whole situation re: deciding to leave abruptly.

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So do I send a message or not

I also deleted her number last night so that I wouldnt send her any messages but I was too drunk to do it properly
 
Mr. Pickle said:
So do I send a message or not

I also deleted her number last night so that I wouldnt send her any messages but I was too drunk to do it properly
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Face, meet palm.

If you want to pursue a relationship with this girl, send her a message.

If you're not interested, don't waste her time.
 
"I had a lovely time last night, I am sorry i left so abruptly and i hope i didnt offend you by doing so. I was really embarrassed i got so drunk so quickly and did not want to embarrass myself further so decided it best i left. I hope i didnt ruin our relationship as i really had a good time and you looked stunning"
 
Sounds like you need to apologise more than saying thanks - you've probably really hurt her feelings. Andy's message above is the sort of thing you should be sending.
 
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