we dont know if he deserves peace of mind... its called guilt for a reason and if he did something bad he should live with the consequences and the guilt
Yeah, I think my problem is I can't let the person go.
It was a girlfriend and I think what I did was actually not as bad as I've made it out in my mind. She probably doesn't even care.
Thanks for the advice.
(I have anxiety problems and I tend to think I've done things wrong all the time when I haven't)
I have wronged a person, but I am unsure whether I should send an apology because I have not been in their life for many years and I know they don't want to hear from me again.
What do you think I should do? I want to make up, but I want to respect their wish of not being in their life.
Thanks.
It was a girlfriend and I think what I did was actually not as bad as I've made it out in my mind. She probably doesn't even care.
You may have hit the nail on the head there.
If you have anxiety reopening old wounds will probably cause you more grief than just leaving it be.
If you do send her a letter you will be thinking...did she receive it...did it go down well...will she contact me...what happens if I upset her...what happens if I make it worse etc.
If it's not as bad as you are thinking and you think she's probably forgotten then probably best to leave well alone.
I think you should write down your thoughts in the style of an early-90s rock ballad and then get a mate to film you singing it infront of white curtains and a huge fan.
Put your head down and your fists up a lot.
Yeah, I think my problem is I can't let the person go.