Practically everyone, including myself will advise you to join Laurelin [EN-RP] server as it's the most mature and helpful.. but you'll probably end up on Snowbourn [WoW-Emulator] server.
Healers are covered in many ways with the Minstrel the main one followed by the Runekeeper and maybe a Captain as backup. I have no knowledge of classes in that 'other' game you mentioned and would advise you not to compare it to Lotro as they are worlds apart.
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Damn you!
Your persuasive post has made me give the game another go, see if I can get into it again
