Hi All,
I need to vent about an incident which occured yesterday and what better place than the OCUK forums.
Yesterday my wife was ill in bed. In the afternoon i received 2 prank phone calls. I recognised the voice of 1 of the kids straight away, he's a kid we've had problems with in the past. I got quite angry because the calls woke up my wife. Thanks to caller ID, i had the mobile number they used and called them back but obviously they wouldn't answer. About an hour later it happened again and once again, i recogised the kids voice. I also saw another kid outside our house who is quite good friends with my son. As soon as he saw me he said "oh, i just saw Eddie (the child who's voice i recognised), he was boasting about making prank calls to you". So I called the child's mother and basically told her that my wife was ill and her son was making prank phone calls to me, please could she ask him to stop. I was very polite and she simply said "yes i understand".
About 15 minutes later I had a call back from her husband. As soon as i answered the phone, he launched into me. I can't swear in here but he called me every name under the sun about 20 times and threatened to smash my face in etc etc. He kept asking me why i thought it was his son but every time i started speaking, he just interrupted and kept on with the verbal abuse and saying "i'll be round yours in 5 minutes to sort you out..". In the end i put the phone down because it was obviously I was getting nowhere and i was getting a bit tired of the way he spoke to me.
The verbal threats were so bad I really thought he was on his way. I contacted the police call centre and explained what happened. 1 hour later, 2 police officers showed up and asked me what happened. I explained what happened and basically they said "Nobody should be spoken to like that, you can't go around threatening people. Leave it with us". About another hour later the police called me back saying they had "checked up on him" and decided to speak to him. He admitted the threats & the abuse. The police basically informed him that it wasn't acceptable and that both families should stay away from each other. I wasn't expecting them to do much, the main reason for my calling was simply so that they have a record of it happening.
But ever since then I can't stop thinking about it. I keep wondering how i could have prevented it & how i can make him realise what an arse he is. I'm 33 years old and honestly never been spoken to like that. He was mental, completely out of control. And all because i asked for the calls to stop. I have kids myself and if somebody called me and said my son was making prank calls i'd simply have a word with my child. No big deal, all kids make prank calls. The only reason it bothered me yesterday was because of my ill wife.
I find it quite difficult to let go of things. I'm quite a vengeful person and am consumed by it.
Before anyone says "you should smash his face in" or anything of those sorts....he's a 6'3" ex army chap who is considerably larger than me and quite obviously has serious anger issues.
I need to vent about an incident which occured yesterday and what better place than the OCUK forums.
Yesterday my wife was ill in bed. In the afternoon i received 2 prank phone calls. I recognised the voice of 1 of the kids straight away, he's a kid we've had problems with in the past. I got quite angry because the calls woke up my wife. Thanks to caller ID, i had the mobile number they used and called them back but obviously they wouldn't answer. About an hour later it happened again and once again, i recogised the kids voice. I also saw another kid outside our house who is quite good friends with my son. As soon as he saw me he said "oh, i just saw Eddie (the child who's voice i recognised), he was boasting about making prank calls to you". So I called the child's mother and basically told her that my wife was ill and her son was making prank phone calls to me, please could she ask him to stop. I was very polite and she simply said "yes i understand".
About 15 minutes later I had a call back from her husband. As soon as i answered the phone, he launched into me. I can't swear in here but he called me every name under the sun about 20 times and threatened to smash my face in etc etc. He kept asking me why i thought it was his son but every time i started speaking, he just interrupted and kept on with the verbal abuse and saying "i'll be round yours in 5 minutes to sort you out..". In the end i put the phone down because it was obviously I was getting nowhere and i was getting a bit tired of the way he spoke to me.
The verbal threats were so bad I really thought he was on his way. I contacted the police call centre and explained what happened. 1 hour later, 2 police officers showed up and asked me what happened. I explained what happened and basically they said "Nobody should be spoken to like that, you can't go around threatening people. Leave it with us". About another hour later the police called me back saying they had "checked up on him" and decided to speak to him. He admitted the threats & the abuse. The police basically informed him that it wasn't acceptable and that both families should stay away from each other. I wasn't expecting them to do much, the main reason for my calling was simply so that they have a record of it happening.
But ever since then I can't stop thinking about it. I keep wondering how i could have prevented it & how i can make him realise what an arse he is. I'm 33 years old and honestly never been spoken to like that. He was mental, completely out of control. And all because i asked for the calls to stop. I have kids myself and if somebody called me and said my son was making prank calls i'd simply have a word with my child. No big deal, all kids make prank calls. The only reason it bothered me yesterday was because of my ill wife.
I find it quite difficult to let go of things. I'm quite a vengeful person and am consumed by it.
Before anyone says "you should smash his face in" or anything of those sorts....he's a 6'3" ex army chap who is considerably larger than me and quite obviously has serious anger issues.
