Struggling..
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Well how about this - the arguments and splits left her feeling unhappy and uncomfortable, and this meant that her mind was more likely to start fancying others.
It happens, it's not like it's cheating.
I once broke up with someone because I went to a wedding as a bridesmaid and found I really fancied one of the ushers. I figured if I was having feelings like that then the at-the-time-current (admittedly also short and reboundy) relationship was going nowhere. Sometimes it takes a trigger to work that one out.
It happens, it's not like it's cheating.
I once broke up with someone because I went to a wedding as a bridesmaid and found I really fancied one of the ushers. I figured if I was having feelings like that then the at-the-time-current (admittedly also short and reboundy) relationship was going nowhere. Sometimes it takes a trigger to work that one out.
I am not saying that their is anything wrong with it, as on the same sense women who do that after a long relationship will normally revert back to their grass routes if it all goes ***s up with a new person/fancy.
I was pointing it out that he shouldn't pine over this girl.
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I do value the opinions of you guys, afterall I made this thread for them but I just don't think there is somebody else.
As I said, a part of the reason I fell in love with her in the first place is the amount of trust I have in her. I'd hate to think that was all fake.
As I said, a part of the reason I fell in love with her in the first place is the amount of trust I have in her. I'd hate to think that was all fake.
I would genuinely hope you are right. It sucks when you put trust in someone and you find that there is someone else. Tears you apart.
Thats shrewd... made me look back over my relationship history and that of my friends and it seems to be absolutely true.
To the op - you have to be determined not to let it get on top of you - don't let a women get you down - take it on the chin, decide what you want from life and get on with it.
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I think you are missing my point, I said there will be someone else there I don't mean she's scuttling him already but it could be a friend or work mate who she likes more. Give it a couple of weeks and you will see if I'm right or not
KaHn
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I've spoken to a few of them, particularly those that have a bigger loyalty to me than her and they are all sure there isn't someone else.
I just think she genuinely can't see a future with me and has therefore cut her losses. Obviously if that is the case there is absolutely nothing I can do and it's just time to forget her. But as anyone who has been in this situation knows, a lot easier said than done.
Relationship stuff aside, I'd just like to saythat when my last serious relationship went bang, my ex was also part of the same circle of friends. It's not a problem though, so chin up.
I moved back in with my parents and miss out on 95% of the social stuff with those friends because we don't speak at all. One of my best mates lives in the same house as her. I haven't been round to that house since and I have to meet friends away from the place because I'm not welcome there
It's also stupidly awkward on nights out where mates forget to tell one of us that the other will be there!
YAY!
(On a serious note, I also travelled for two years and am only back with the folks whilst I get ready to bugger off again, so it actually hasn't been that bad at all and it won't be for you if you don't mope around - the above is sadly true though!)
It came out of the blue a little, although we have broken up 2-3 times before but managed to get back together Hasn't been the case.
how on earth can it be out of the blue if you have broken up before a few times but never resolved the underlying issues?
was never going to work until you dealt with the problems
I can see why she left you...
Honestly fella, you never worked at the issues that she had with the relationship, you cannot expect her to wait around while you don't do things to reassure her.
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It came out of the blue because the last time things had been much better, she even said that herself. We seemed a lot happier.
And I know, I messed up with the whole ex thing and badly. Lesson well and truly learnt.
And I know, I messed up with the whole ex thing and badly. Lesson well and truly learnt.
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There were a few issues which made us break up but the main one each time was the arguments.
Before the final break-up though, the arguments (at least from my side i.e me causing them) hadn't been so much of an issue. She's at Uni though and is having a stressful time so her bad moods and snappy attitude at times caused arguments. It was mainly that which lead to arguments the last time around.
As I said though, she told me that our last stint together had been much better but her feelings had just changed towards the relationship and that she doesn't believe it can work.
Before the final break-up though, the arguments (at least from my side i.e me causing them) hadn't been so much of an issue. She's at Uni though and is having a stressful time so her bad moods and snappy attitude at times caused arguments. It was mainly that which lead to arguments the last time around.
As I said though, she told me that our last stint together had been much better but her feelings had just changed towards the relationship and that she doesn't believe it can work.
Sometimes, right, people simply fall out of love.
Once it's happened, there isn't much you can do, they've just gone from fancying you, to not.
I've had it happen a couple of times and it was just as heartbreaking for me as it was the guy I was no longer in love/lust with.
I bet the arguments (whoever started them) didn't help, mind.
Once it's happened, there isn't much you can do, they've just gone from fancying you, to not.
I've had it happen a couple of times and it was just as heartbreaking for me as it was the guy I was no longer in love/lust with.
I bet the arguments (whoever started them) didn't help, mind.
It's a girl, what do you expect ?
******* will whine about everything to there friends constantly, who usually add fuel to the fire. In most cases you won't hear about problems till it's too late.