"The Crazy" Part II: Another non-relationship thread

lowrider007 said:
but that sounds like you are tbh, no offense like, and not desperate as in, 'can't find someone to be with', I'm sure you can just pull any number of guys of your 'special list' for a date if needs be but you sound like your desperate to be in a loving relationship and are letting that dictate how happy you are now.
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Interesting...
Myeah, possibly. Thing is, if there's either nothing or there's a few vaguely interesting people around, I'm fine. Stable. Pretty contented and often smug. And once in a while I get thrown for six.

I hates it. Stabby stab-stab.
 
Also don't beat yourself up for having irrational thoughts, you can guarantee we all get them. I find myself doing it often recently as GF just left for 6 months of travelling, you just need to reassure yourself you are being stupid and irrational, it helps chatting it out over a drink with a mate who will no doubt tell you you're being stupid!
 
Eriedor said:
Also don't beat yourself up for having irrational thoughts, you can guarantee we all get them. I find myself doing it often recently as GF just left for 6 months of travelling, you just need to reassure yourself you are being stupid and irrational, it helps chatting it out over a drink with a mate who will no doubt tell you you're being stupid!
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Cheers - yes and indeed they will - and do - but currently I'm not at home or around mates and just felt the need to let this out :)

As said, Logical-Sara is fine with everything. The other me is just bouncing off the walls! They're pretty equally weighted, which is probably one reason why it's so annoying.
 
sara said:
So there was a guy I spent a lot of last year drooling over. A big Scot hailing from near Edinburgh way (but who now lives an hour away from me). Eventually I got the guts to make it clear I liked him, and it came to pass that he wasn't interested - so FINALLY I was able to go "Oh, OK", scrub him from the 'potentials' list and carry on. Actually quite easy to do once you know for sure.

So last week I was back with the gang that includes him (mates from old workplace), had a brilliant week skiing in the Alps, playing cards and being merry, and suddenly he was much more friendly that he'd ever been before. Prolonged eye-contact, asking interested questions about the things I get up to and enjoy doing, discussing future plans and frustrations with life, laughing at all my awful jokes and quips, talking about visiting Bristol, leaving 'x's at the end of his text messages, taking an unusually high number of pictures of me (+ scenery), choosing to sit next to me almost every time (group of 11)...
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Blimey, you sound like you're in school with a crush on the guy in the football team :p.

If he can't treat you properly now you're back off holiday, just get over him and find someone that deserves you.

Stinky said:
how hot are you? (Sara)
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She's pretty nice.
 
Yeeeaahh. I guess it's just a big crush, all told, isn't it.

I'm not here to try and justify all this though, I'm just as annoyed about it as some of the responders in this thread are. Cheers for reading...

...and very kind, Platypus :)
 
Hate said:
Did you get far with plentyoffish.com? :)
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Haha! Well, lots of messages to and fro. Lots of really worrying types on there and HORRENDOUS spelling. Is it bad that I tend to ignore those who refuse to capitalise, punctuate and who use text speak (i no *** u want, im ya avrg guy, i lyk...)?

One or two fairly OK people but no tasty catches yet...
 
sara said:
..."The Crazy"...
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Mmmhhmm...
...So there was a guy I spent a lot of last year drooling over...
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Uh-huh...
and he's not replied to the email (that he asked me to send!)
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Ahhh.

The good old "They haven't replied to my text/email/answering machine message! They're not interested in me! They hate me! I'm so unlovable! Woe is me! My life is over! :("

That happens to everyone at some point I think (I know I've had it, and I'm a bloke), not just women. The only solution is to do your very best to ignore it, as obvious as it sounds. If he doesn't reply any time soon, then oh well, sod him, he must not have been as interested as he seemed. Bury yourself in work or something.
 
TBH, and I get like this, if someone is dribbling all over you it's not very appealing, but when it disappears you kinda realise that it was actually quite nice and you want it back. That's probably all it is. Move on, find someone else.
 
sara said:
Haha! Well, lots of messages to and fro. Lots of really worrying types on there and HORRENDOUS spelling. Is it bad that I tend to ignore those who refuse to capitalise, punctuate and who use text speak (i no *** u want, im ya avrg guy, i lyk...)?

One or two fairly OK people but no tasty catches yet...
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Must admit, i've had a more interest on there, but from girls that I wouldn't touch with a barge pole!
 
You should look closer to home, i.e. OcUK, for a date. There's plenty of 'enthusiastic' single men on here. Perfect!
 
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