"The Crazy" Part II: Another non-relationship thread

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Sigh.

OK, so the guy from "The Crazy" Part I has actually disappeared off the face of the Earth. This is probably a good thing, him being older than me and somewhat of a settled grown-up man, and he wasn't really all that attractive anyway...

So what is Sara now going to waffle about? Closure and all that stuff.

So there was a guy I spent a lot of last year drooling over. A big Scot hailing from near Edinburgh way (but who now lives an hour away from me). Eventually I got the guts to make it clear I liked him, and it came to pass that he wasn't interested - so FINALLY I was able to go "Oh, OK", scrub him from the 'potentials' list and carry on. Actually quite easy to do once you know for sure.

So last week I was back with the gang that includes him (mates from old workplace), had a brilliant week skiing in the Alps, playing cards and being merry, and suddenly he was much more friendly that he'd ever been before. Prolonged eye-contact, asking interested questions about the things I get up to and enjoy doing, discussing future plans and frustrations with life, laughing at all my awful jokes and quips, talking about visiting Bristol, leaving 'x's at the end of his text messages, taking an unusually high number of pictures of me (+ scenery), choosing to sit next to me almost every time (group of 11)...

All minor stuff really but rather a change from before. It should probably be noted that I've lost nearly two stone since I last saw him.

So now, he's clawed his way up to the top of the list, and thrown me for six, and now we're back in different towns again and instead of seeing him daily it's going to be not for a while now (no plans), and he's not replied to the email (that he asked me to send!), and so it's all gone quiet again and the rather nice experience of - well, not really flirting - but the almost-knowing looks we were giving each other and shy smiles and in-jokes and silly laughter.... has disappeared, and I'm back to that almost /fear/ that I'm going to muck it all up somehow.

And to be honest, with my track record, Sod's Law is strong with me.

Logical-Sara is very clear, and tells me that if he loses interest, then he won't be worth worrying about.

Illogical-Sara is just missing him like mad already and almost trembling with frustration and worry.

The Crazy is back :(
 
Haha! I think the post title is quite clear, if you don't give a jot about this sort of stuff, don't read it!

Stinky - I never had him in the first place, no ditching involved.

The 'potentials list' isn't real, it's not an entity or anything solid, just trying to explain that nebulous group of people we all have in our head who we kindof fancy and reckon we have a chance with. Make sense?

Anewbe4u - nah, no talk that specific, I'm too shy for that and he already knows my thoughts from before.

Guys, I /know/ I should just chill. And usually I do, I have a couple of drinks/dates sort of things lined up with a couple of nice chaps in the coming weeks so I'm not desperate, I just like this one and writing out all the above just helps me out a bit. And bizarrely yes, I gather there are people who read that sort of waffle with interest. Just not you!
 
If he'd just wanted some action, I bet he'd have been far more forward... but, 'tis true, this is one possibility I could easily imagine, the holiday fling, a bit of cabin-fever, I've fancied men on holidays away but been glad we never got up to anything
 
Scuzi said:
You need to stop looking.
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I know.

I had, for the most part. But have been thrown for six. Sadly I seem to be this super-stable person for most of the time then just go completely haywire once something like this rears its head.

It's LAME and I can't stand it, but I can't seem to help it, either.
 
lowrider007 said:
but that sounds like you are tbh, no offense like, and not desperate as in, 'can't find someone to be with', I'm sure you can just pull any number of guys of your 'special list' for a date if needs be but you sound like your desperate to be in a loving relationship and are letting that dictate how happy you are now.
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Interesting...
Myeah, possibly. Thing is, if there's either nothing or there's a few vaguely interesting people around, I'm fine. Stable. Pretty contented and often smug. And once in a while I get thrown for six.

I hates it. Stabby stab-stab.
 
Eriedor said:
Also don't beat yourself up for having irrational thoughts, you can guarantee we all get them. I find myself doing it often recently as GF just left for 6 months of travelling, you just need to reassure yourself you are being stupid and irrational, it helps chatting it out over a drink with a mate who will no doubt tell you you're being stupid!
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Cheers - yes and indeed they will - and do - but currently I'm not at home or around mates and just felt the need to let this out :)

As said, Logical-Sara is fine with everything. The other me is just bouncing off the walls! They're pretty equally weighted, which is probably one reason why it's so annoying.
 
Yeeeaahh. I guess it's just a big crush, all told, isn't it.

I'm not here to try and justify all this though, I'm just as annoyed about it as some of the responders in this thread are. Cheers for reading...

...and very kind, Platypus :)
 
Hate said:
Did you get far with plentyoffish.com? :)
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Haha! Well, lots of messages to and fro. Lots of really worrying types on there and HORRENDOUS spelling. Is it bad that I tend to ignore those who refuse to capitalise, punctuate and who use text speak (i no *** u want, im ya avrg guy, i lyk...)?

One or two fairly OK people but no tasty catches yet...
 
Oh sodd'im.

Cheers guys, in the main, you lot have cheered me up :)

Weebull - feels good to know most of us are the same, people are obviously too worried about being branded a nutter (some of us can't avoid the moniker and so have given up)!

Tell you what, it was nice to have a holiday with a bit of interest, adds another dimension to the days! Ball's firmly in his court now and if he decides to do anything about it then we'll see what comes of it.
 
That's the second 'Crazy' thread to end up like this!

Well whatever, apart from the odd disapprover, I definitely get cheered up by posting my woes on here :D
 
Scuzi said:
It's personality blindness. You get to see how they all look but you dont know how much of a winner or loser they are until you meet them. It's the same thing really.
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Damn. Sucks for me, so much pickier on character than I am looks...

...she says, going nuts over someone who appears to have turned incommunicado...
 
You're a strange one, Anewbe4u.

Not sure this blind date bit would go well, Sod's Law says I'll pick the ones who live in the Outer Hebrides or those already taken!

Oh, and I've deleted the Groups app from Facebook, it had got silly, was a member of all these groups that I never frequented...
 
Whaaaatttt, no one said my favourite, PnP or "Plug and Play"! Alternatively TWAIN is another one for the amusement factor of what the acronym stands for...

PTP is nearly there. Huuurrr, peer-to-peer, snort, giggle, titter!
 
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