Yes, a bit of a Scrubs reference and also a reference to a thread from yesterday (now dearly-departed) but I just feel I have to offer an insight...
I have my first date tonight for some time where I've actually liked the person and have some nerves about it (joined a free dating site last Christmas and met a good few people for drinks and made some lasting friendships but never been too bothered either way).
So, we've not met in the flesh yet, but have had some really long phone calls etc - get on like a house on fire, very in tune, etc.
Last week he had a horrendous time; his car was stolen and later found gutted and burned out, his brother broke up with the missus and turned up on his doorstep requiring emotional support and somewhere to stay, a couple of projects went awry at work messing up several deadlines, and to top it all off his mother couldn't look after his dogs so he couldn't come over to see me last Friday.
So since then he's been rather busy and really hard to get hold of. Understandable, yes?
Yes. BUT.
I know he's going to probably be in town around 7:30pmish, depending on traffic. I know he was out at a show last night until pretty late which is why we didn't touch base then. We had a brief but loud-and-buzzy call from his car yesterday to just check things were okay (when he said we'd have a call last night... which we didn't).
I've left a couple of text messages (one last night, one today), and I've tried to ring once but it rang and rang and rang.
It's likely he was in a meeting, and is now running around like a headless chicken today to make sure he gets finished on time. I'm almost entirely sure.
But The Crazy is welling up...
I'm such a level-headed even-tempered woman most of the time, which makes this so annoying... It's trying to tell me that two texts and an attempted call are starting to look desperate (he doesn't play any games as far as I can tell... or does he?).
Maybe he's been put off by it. What if I come across as too young and clingy (mmm, the older man)? What if he's just suddenly become one of those people you can never get hold of? Is he playing hard to get? Does he like me any more (early indications have been yes - very much, but still)? What if what if what if argh argh argh.
All the logical signs say "chill, he's busy".
All the crazy circuits are going "Yes!" to paranoia!
Don't know whether to be annoyed or understanding. Argh!
I have my first date tonight for some time where I've actually liked the person and have some nerves about it (joined a free dating site last Christmas and met a good few people for drinks and made some lasting friendships but never been too bothered either way).
So, we've not met in the flesh yet, but have had some really long phone calls etc - get on like a house on fire, very in tune, etc.
Last week he had a horrendous time; his car was stolen and later found gutted and burned out, his brother broke up with the missus and turned up on his doorstep requiring emotional support and somewhere to stay, a couple of projects went awry at work messing up several deadlines, and to top it all off his mother couldn't look after his dogs so he couldn't come over to see me last Friday.
So since then he's been rather busy and really hard to get hold of. Understandable, yes?
Yes. BUT.
I know he's going to probably be in town around 7:30pmish, depending on traffic. I know he was out at a show last night until pretty late which is why we didn't touch base then. We had a brief but loud-and-buzzy call from his car yesterday to just check things were okay (when he said we'd have a call last night... which we didn't).
I've left a couple of text messages (one last night, one today), and I've tried to ring once but it rang and rang and rang.
It's likely he was in a meeting, and is now running around like a headless chicken today to make sure he gets finished on time. I'm almost entirely sure.
But The Crazy is welling up...
I'm such a level-headed even-tempered woman most of the time, which makes this so annoying... It's trying to tell me that two texts and an attempted call are starting to look desperate (he doesn't play any games as far as I can tell... or does he?).
Maybe he's been put off by it. What if I come across as too young and clingy (mmm, the older man)? What if he's just suddenly become one of those people you can never get hold of? Is he playing hard to get? Does he like me any more (early indications have been yes - very much, but still)? What if what if what if argh argh argh.
All the logical signs say "chill, he's busy".
All the crazy circuits are going "Yes!" to paranoia!
Don't know whether to be annoyed or understanding. Argh!
Zefan.
