The dreaded ex......

Aloreth

Aloreth

Aloreth

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Hmmmm see what you guys think…..

Been seeing a girl for a couple of months, all has been well and a couple of times when drunk shes told me that she loves me….a little early perhaps but all well and good! Her Ex has been bothering her for months (they were together for five years) and she just gives the phone to me now as he doesn’t seem to take ‘No’ for an answer.

Tuesday before last (before Christmas) he told her he has decided to start telling her that he is going to Kill himself! She has no intention of going back to him but all of a sudden doesn’t want to see me?!?! Sent me a text about a week ago saying that she really likes me but that her head is a little screwed up at the moment, haven’t heard from her since. Got a message on facebook from her best friend saying that she needs space and time and that she will come to me when ready……not sure what to do really! Previously was going to spend New Years with her but not now…….

Ideas suggestions? Sounds like **** to me but im a bit cynical :/
 
i dont really have any advice, but it seems her ex is obviously just trying to get attention and she doesnt know how to handle it.
 
Its her business you have been told to wait and she needs some space.

Give her the space she needs.

Besides why would you want to get involved with drama such as her past relationships? Friend or not thats just none of your business really.

Sorry I don't mean to be as harsh as this sounds but I feel so many people feel like they can have a say over an ex of a friend over someone who "might" fancy you but wants space.
 
hate to say it but she'll be doing the dirty with the ex

no doubt about it, dump her and get in about her mate/sister/mother
 
tbf some girls are gems... and some are not.... obviously I don't know the full story but she does not seem worth the stress.

The whole situation seems a bit coincidental to me. Deep down you must know you can't trust her other wise you would not be on here telling us about it.

Fell for ya bud... but IMO if you have any mates go out on new years eve with them and try hook up with some hottie.

Then start the new years a fresh... if she comes round and chooses you... start your relationship a fresh and get her to changed her number ect.

Komodo :)
 
Sounds like they have been watching to many soaps and live in a fantasy world. Grab ya mates and go down the boozer, you'll have a much better stressfree time.
 
Move on m8, the girl is emotionally tied to the ex. Shes carrying excess bagage and it sounds like your on the end of a rebound relationship. move on with your life, get with your mates and have couple of bevvies and freelance the tottie.

If she comes back to you walk away mate it~she is no good. Don't find yourself in position that your are a pawn ie you can be manipulated to her beckoning.

Have fun

Happy new year
 
Damonic said:
Its her business you have been told to wait and she needs some space.

Give her the space she needs.

Besides why would you want to get involved with drama such as her past relationships? Friend or not thats just none of your business really.

Sorry I don't mean to be as harsh as this sounds but I feel so many people feel like they can have a say over an ex of a friend over someone who "might" fancy you but wants space.
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Im not trying to get involved, just kinda feel like I have eben dropped like a sack of ****. I like her and I dont know whats going on!?! We were going out for a few monthes, seems a bit much to just drop it overnight?

Feeling a bit rubbish tbh :/
 
Space my arse. Sad fact of life IME, when girls want space, they don't want you knowing they have just been to see an ex. Sounds like she doesn't trust you enough not to go off the deep end so she is trying to hide it from you.

I'd put money on the fact she is seeing him, possibly even with nothing sordid in it, but doesn't want you knowing. It either shows she has a caring side and is trying to not hurt either of you or is back with the guy because he has emotionally trapped her into it.

Personally, I would leave it. Give her space as asked for and go out with mates and have a stressfree night.
 
Damonic said:
Its her business you have been told to wait and she needs some space.

Give her the space she needs.

Besides why would you want to get involved with drama such as her past relationships? Friend or not thats just none of your business really.

Sorry I don't mean to be as harsh as this sounds but I feel so many people feel like they can have a say over an ex of a friend over someone who "might" fancy you but wants space.
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Up there with worst advice ever.
If these two are together, the LEAST she could do is let him know what's going on, if it's their relationship he has every right as she does to know.

It's not acceptable to just vanish without a word, at most I would think she's a cheating little cow with all the ex stuff + dissapearing act.
Like others in this post, she's probably doing something she doesn't want you knowing.


She needs to grow up, tell you she needs time and tell you why, not exact, doesn't have to be a life story.

I hate games, stupid little games, I've had enough from one women to last me a lifetime, I won't stand for it anymore, next one has to be grown up and have her angst problems sorted out long ago.


But hey man, don't jump to conclusions, maybe she saw him to tell him kindly to **** off and that she's with you now.
Who knows.
 
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Aloreth said:
Im not trying to get involved, just kinda feel like I have eben dropped like a sack of ****. I like her and I dont know whats going on!?! We were going out for a few monthes, seems a bit much to just drop it overnight?

Feeling a bit rubbish tbh :/
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I thought you guys were pretty much going out? :confused:

If so take our advice or don't come crying here when it all goes wrong :D

Scratch that do come back and we can say told ya so ;)

No seriously ring your mates, meet up, go out :)
 
ChrisJSY said:
If these two are together, the LEAST she could do is let him know what's going on, if it's their relationship he has every right as she does to know.

It's not acceptable to just vanish without a word, at most I would think she's a cheating little cow with all the ex stuff + dissapearing act.

She needs to grow up, tell you she needs time and tell you why, not exact, doesn't have to be a life story.

I hate games, stupid little games, I've had enough from one women to last me a lifetime, I won't stand for it anymore, next one has to be grown up and have her angst problems sorted out long ago.
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EXACTLY. More blunt but effective :D
 
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