The dreaded ex......
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You don't wanna be the guy that picks her up when they don't work out again.. then she runs back to her ex when they decide to give it another go and so the cycle continues.
I agree whole heartedly with Chris. Find out what the hell is going on OR move on and see where it goes from there
Well, she's not being very fair with you...its obvious shes keeping her options open with the 'i need to sort my head out' thing going on. You're giving her control of your relationship and being a bit of a wuss.
The 'really likes you' comment is warning enough without her having space. You need to jump ship before she sinks it mate.
This guy is even more wussy than you though with his suicide threats, so dont worry...she wont stick with him through pity.
Dump her and she'll come crawling back (if she loves you as she says)
Get dumped (which is where it seems this is heading) and theres no coming back.
Your choice bud. j
im 24 shes 22
I didnt think I was wussy at all!
But thanks anyway, think it was more of a shock to the system than anything else, **** it ill treat this one as dead
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Phone him up and belittle him, rob him of enough confidence and perhaps he will kill himself.
After that it's all good.
After that it's all good.
Bingo. Nowt much more to be said on the matter.
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give her the space and time she needs, it will be hard but its the best thing.
If it were me, I'd give her the space and get on with my life and date other people, she wants to put you on the back burner thats her choice, just make sure you play fair and do the same.
Don't wait about letting yourself be an option.
Don't wait about letting yourself be an option.
She was with the guy for five years, and although they are no longer together she probably still cares about him...
This guy is just screaming attention and has realised that he can only get a bit with stupid threats like this... it will all blow over. This guy obviously still cares/loves your ex and so is hurting pritty damn badly..
Your ex probably doesnt know whether shes coming or going.. Sounds like she needs time to be alone and to figure things out. I would just probably give her a txt or something, tell her that you dont want to pressurize her and that your there if she needs you.
You never know you may be seen as the knight in shining armour at the end of all this ...
This guy is just screaming attention and has realised that he can only get a bit with stupid threats like this... it will all blow over. This guy obviously still cares/loves your ex and so is hurting pritty damn badly..
Your ex probably doesnt know whether shes coming or going.. Sounds like she needs time to be alone and to figure things out. I would just probably give her a txt or something, tell her that you dont want to pressurize her and that your there if she needs you.
You never know you may be seen as the knight in shining armour at the end of all this ...
The friend that sent me the message is male.......doesnt bode well!
Ended up speaking to my mate over lunch who went for the **** her approach, kinda jarred me back to my senses! Dont think im going to bother finishing things with her, she didnt after all! Time to find my 'Im going to **** you shirt' which has not to date failed and go out for some revenge rumpy!
Ended up speaking to my mate over lunch who went for the **** her approach, kinda jarred me back to my senses! Dont think im going to bother finishing things with her, she didnt after all! Time to find my 'Im going to **** you shirt' which has not to date failed and go out for some revenge rumpy!
Your ex probably doesnt know whether shes coming or going.. Sounds like she needs time to be alone and to figure things out. I would just probably give her a txt or something, tell her that you dont want to pressurize her and that your there if she needs you.
You never know you may be seen as the knight in shining armour at the end of all this ...
I'm sorry but i think that sends out totally the wrong messaage.
'im there if you need me' is just asking to be walked on and will leave the guy wondering whether she's gonna get back on to him or not.
if I was to ring/text her id be inclined to say something along the lines of.. Hi, you've obviously got a lot to deal with at the moment, lets cool it for a bit and when youve things back on track give me a call.
He's acknowledging she has some stuff to deal with, hes choosing to take control and end it and yet giving her the option in the future of pursuing him.
j
Hey thanks all for the advice, Jamie in particular - everything youve said just makes sense!
Im not sure I can be arsed with texting/calling her at all - considering I aint heard a peep out of her for 10 days then I think its safe to assume she couldnt be bothered with being square with me!
Tis a shame really as we got on really well! I think thats the big ego hurter aint it - would love to know why!
Oh well!
Im not sure I can be arsed with texting/calling her at all - considering I aint heard a peep out of her for 10 days then I think its safe to assume she couldnt be bothered with being square with me!
Tis a shame really as we got on really well! I think thats the big ego hurter aint it - would love to know why!
Oh well!
Give her a day or two, if you still havent heard anything then do what she has done to you, blank her out and get yourself out on the pull, she how she likes being chucked to the bottom of importances, if she cares at all.