The key to finding what makes you happy?

I used to be a bit like that, always wanting a better job, always wishing I had more money. But after getting spectacularly dumped at the beginning of last year, I knew I didn't want to mope around and was fed up with feeling sorry for myself, so I changed my outlook on life, decided I'd be more positive about the things I do have, rather than the things I don't.

And to tell you the truth, I'm happier now than I've ever been! :)

So you forced yourself to be happy? Surely it can't be that easy, well not for everyone.
 
So you forced yourself to be happy? Surely it can't be that easy, well not for everyone.

It really is, most obstacles to it are only in your head. Anyone can be happy, there is no better cure than just DOING IT. I must say it has helped having a friend starting the same process as me at the same time. We bounce ideas off each other all the time.
 
So you forced yourself to be happy? Surely it can't be that easy, well not for everyone.

Being happy with what you've got is what happiness is all about. If you're always chasing the next thing, experience, whatever, you'll never be happy. This don't mean you shouldn't chase things; but you should not rely on something in your future to make you happy. Happiness is a state of mind. Comes from inside. Inside your brain.
 
Being happy with what you've got is what happiness is all about. If you're always chasing the next thing, experience, whatever, you'll never be happy. This don't mean you shouldn't chase things; but you should not rely on something in your future to make you happy. Happiness is a state of mind. Comes from inside. Inside your brain.

It's not the chasing things that's the issue (for me anyway) or lack of money or job or anything. Infact I don't know what the issue is, if I did know then i'd do something to change it.

It really is, most obstacles to it are only in your head. Anyone can be happy, there is no better cure than just DOING IT. I must say it has helped having a friend starting the same process as me at the same time. We bounce ideas off each other all the time.

Doing what though? Walking around thinking, I must be happy I must be happy?
 
It's not the chasing things that's the issue (for me anyway) or lack of money or job or anything. Infact I don't know what the issue is, if I did know then i'd do something to change it.

In what way are you unhappy?

If you want a quick burst of happiness, a good tip is to just sit there and smile to yourself. It sounds a bit daft, but physically having a smile on your face really does give you a lift - they have groups for it and everything! :D
 
I never said it was easy, not like flicking a switch anyway. But it all comes from yourself.

Also, it's not as easy as "just" reading a book, you have to actually do what it says! It is a process, not a miracle cure.
 
Also, it's not as easy as "just" reading a book, you have to actually do what it says! It is a process, not a miracle cure.

For sure. It's a lot easier said than done, and different people need different things to make them happy, it's just finding out what. Difficult subject to talk about on a forum too.
 
I think asking here is the wrong thing to do, the quickest way to make yourself unhappy is to try and 'comply' to what is the believed norm. You have to find your own little place in life where you are happy and accept that its not all going to be good. Just work to make the good bits good enough that they negate the bad.

I've spent too long in my life trying to fit in but I generally dont. So, i've given up with that whole "being part of the gang" malarky and am now content with a few very good close friends. I've got a decent job that stretches and challenges me constantly and i've a reasonable life outside of work (money is a bit too tight for comfort, but I have what i have and i'll not get caught up in wishing for more).
 
Do exactly the opposite of the things that make you sad. Anything and everything you can. That's what worked for me.
 
For me it's having my own space, working as short hours as a full time job goes, being financially secure, seeing my family often, and having a partner that's away most of the time. The word loner has a lot of negatives around it, but it's probably what I am. I enjoy company, but I do like not having to answer to anyone often.

It's different for everybody, but don't just go with what society tells you. I was in (different) relationships from when I was 16 until I was 21 before I realised I hated it. Now I have a much more casual relationship.

Self discipline is a key thing too, actually doing what you want to do rather than vegetating in front of the TV from apathy.
 
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