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100% that’s a horrible position to be in and I know for a fact they will be full of regret as above.
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Yeah I'm sure thats the case. But I hated the job I was working in at the time, and based on the fact that my friend said I had got the job I wrote up my notice, and almost handed it in, but decided at the last minute that I'd better wait until I got the formal call from HR.
Whats worse is that the recruitment guy who called me at first didn't explain what had actually happened, he just said that unfortunately I didn't get the job and made up some rubbish about the interview. I didn't want to drop my friend in it by saying that he'd told me otherwise, but I said OK / etc, then called my friend, he was shocked, spoke to the guy who phoned me, who then phoned me again to give me the real story.
If I didn't have "someone in the inside" feeding me information it would have been fine, I would have just assumed I hadn't got the job, then received the phone call confirming it, oh well, such is life, etc.
But as it was I was searching for houses in the area, planning a house move, excited about my life finally taking a sizeable step.
It messed me up. Such was my mental state after that (I suffer from pretty bad anxiety and depression at the best of times) I was unable to work, and eventually lost my job.
Sorry, not the most concise thoughts!
Whats worse is that the recruitment guy who called me at first didn't explain what had actually happened, he just said that unfortunately I didn't get the job and made up some rubbish about the interview. I didn't want to drop my friend in it by saying that he'd told me otherwise, but I said OK / etc, then called my friend, he was shocked, spoke to the guy who phoned me, who then phoned me again to give me the real story.
If I didn't have "someone in the inside" feeding me information it would have been fine, I would have just assumed I hadn't got the job, then received the phone call confirming it, oh well, such is life, etc.
But as it was I was searching for houses in the area, planning a house move, excited about my life finally taking a sizeable step.
It messed me up. Such was my mental state after that (I suffer from pretty bad anxiety and depression at the best of times) I was unable to work, and eventually lost my job.
Sorry, not the most concise thoughts!
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That's really crap but you're not alone - I've seen similar things happen before.
Some time ago I worked (in the UK) for a big US blue chip IT company. A lad on my team was headhunted by another manager who was leading the early start-up of a brand new project, to be based in the 'States. In the meantime he continued to work with us.
As time went on he learned more and more about the new project, his role etc, and he and his wife (they'd only been married a couple of years) were understandably getting very excited about the move.
Eventually they got a firm date and began preparing to move. They sold most of their belongings and put the house on the market.
All was going smoothly until the very last minute when the new project was canned (or at least partly canned) and he was told that he wouldn't be going after all! He was told that his new manager jumped the gun and shouldn't have given such firm assurances which sounds a bit fishy to me but it's impossible to tell.
As a result, his marriage fell apart and he never trusted the company or the managers again. And I don't blame him.
Oh man, thats way worse!
It sucks that in situations like that they aren't liable in any way.
Oh man, thats way worse!
It sucks that in situations like that they aren't liable in any way.
Yes mate, exactly.
While ambition is undoubtedly a good thing, it always pays to count your blessings because although the grass may look greener on the other side of fence, you never know how much dog**** lies just below the surface until you jump over.
I dunno, I would have been willing to put up with a fair amount of dog **** going from £24K to £40K + a free car.
Now I'm on £0K.
I dunno, I would have been willing to put up with a fair amount of dog **** going from £24K to £40K + a free car.
Now I'm on £0K.
Yes, I can understand that.
How is your mental health now? Is there any way you can get back in with your old employer?
I don't want to get back in with my old employer.
My mental health is OK now, I'm ready to go back to work, and I will be a good and reliable employee as long as I'm not in a tech support type role where I have to answer inbound phone calls. That doesn't play well with anxiety.
I want a role where the only calls I take are internal or transferred to me from external with a little "Yeah its Bob from Bobs boats about that thing?" - "Oh OK cool pop him through" / "Can you ask if I can call him back in 20 minutes? I'm just wrapping something up"
Fair enough. One thing I've found is that contacts are more valuable than leads. it's easier to get in somewhere through someone who you know/that knows you. If you still have any of your old colleagues contact details then get in touch with them, no matter how long it's been. Some are bound to have moved-on and might now be in a position to help you out.
Anyway, keep on it regardless - you'll get there - and in the meantime make sure you enjoy yourself. We're only here once.
Fair enough. One thing I've found is that contacts are more valuable than leads. it's easier to get in somewhere through someone who you know/that knows you. If you still have any of your old colleagues contact details then get in touch with them, no matter how long it's been. Some are bound to have moved-on and might now be in a position to help you out.
Anyway, keep on it regardless - you'll get there - and in the meantime make sure you enjoy yourself. We're only here once.
They wouldn't want me back. I was just a complication, a spanner in the works, paperwork and stress for the lovely HR lady who did her absolute best for me, and I am incredibly grateful for her.
Plus due to a medical condition linked to my anxiety I really do need a job where I can drive to work and park, rather than having to walk 30 minutes to catch a train, stand on a train for 30 minutes, then walk to the office. Getting to work was the main sticking point. I couldn't face the commute.
If they had just let me work from home I would have thrived and I would still work there now. But for some unknown reason they were against people working from home unless absolutely neccessary, despite me having VPN access to my office computer and an IP phone on my desk at home.
And now we are at the point where everyone has to work from home full time anyway because of the pandemic.
When in the office the micro managing was incredible as well. No praise for good work, and the managers were ON YOU for any reason. Why are you on make busy, when are you going to call that customer, when are you doing this, why haven't you done that, where are the case notes for this, why doesn't it say that, etc. Bearing in mind I was supposed to be on case escalations, but I was still on the inbound call queue because there weren't enough team members, so I was expected to do all the complicated *****, and get interrupted by the phone going constantly when I was half way through doing things... Don't get things done because you're answering calls, WRONG. Don't answer calls because you are trying to get things done, WRONG. It was impossible to do anything right.
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Sorry mate, when I suggested that some of your old colleagues might have moved on, I meant they might be working for different companies now. You never know, they might know of a role that's a good fit for you. Give them a ring, what have you got to lose?
Oh sorry, I totally misread. I guess I wanted to continue ranting about my old job.
Unfortunately most of them still work there. But there are other people I can talk to.
Oh sorry, I totally misread. I guess I wanted to continue ranting about my old job.
Unfortunately most of them still work there. But there are other people I can talk to.
If your mind is really made up about your old job then forget about it. **** it off completely.
Don't dismiss the contacts you made through it though. People move on and new opportunities arise - never discount your contacts!
Good luck, man. Keep at it.
If your mind is really made up about your old job then forget about it. **** it off completely.
Don't dismiss the contacts you made through it though. People move on and new opportunities arise - never discount your contacts!
Good luck, man. Keep at it.
They wouldn't have me back and I don't want to go back either so that door is closed.
I won't dismiss the contacts, I still consider people I worked with to be my friends, and intend on going for a drink with them when I am allowed to!
I actually got that job because a friend I've known since college works there and he referred me.
They wouldn't have me back and I don't want to go back either so that door is closed.
I won't dismiss the contacts, I still consider people I worked with to be my friends, and intend on going for a drink with them when I am allowed to!
I actually got that job because a friend I've known since college works there and he referred me.
Good stuff. Keep at it, like I said.
There are many good folk here on the forum who are still in the game and are far more experienced than me in the corporate ways. Don't be afraid to ask them for advice (if they aren't forthcoming - come on guys, where are you all?
).Fortune favours the brave. Even it you feel like a **** making the all the moves, do it!
We have a CAREERS subforum?
Apparently so. I tend to avoid it because it's full of young people who, like yourself, have such nauseating potential ability that it puts old ***** like me to shame.
Just buy me a pint when you get your foot in the door.
Apparently so. I tend to avoid it because it's full of young people who, like yourself, have such nauseating potential ability that it puts old ***** like me to shame.
Just buy me a pint when you get your foot in the door.
I have created a thread.
https://www.overclockers.co.uk/foru...-and-advice-requested-a-little-long.18898924/
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