Trust

Talbs13 · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:51

Need your help.

Long Distance Relationships are hard. I sometimes have hard times trusting her. I won't go into all details but just thought i would ask you guys.

How do you improve your trust?

:confused:

Silly Question :confused:

Thanks,
J

shifty_uk · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:52

Give me her number, I'll keep her in line.

Atrox Moris · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:54

Moses99p said:
Lock her in the basement.

/Thread.

Crazy Australians.

Nitefly · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:55

Long distance is very tough. Previously I couldn't do it, it a very brave thing to do.

If it is going to work, it will work.

Paul11 · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:56

i found that trust is something you build up over time and getting to know each other.

theNude · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:56

Dont try to improve your trust, can that even be done? improve your own self confidence.

doubting your partner is normally due to your own self confidence. my relationship started as a long distance one, we were young so i would work all saturday to afford to get the train down to see her (which cost as much as i earned!)

lasted for 7 years, ended today, i never once thought she was fooling around as our relationship was geniune and loving.

Kobrakai · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:57

You can't trust anyone!

Nitefly · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:58

Kobrakai said:
You can't trust anyone!

You can trust me. I'm nice.

OCdude · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:58

Trust in me... just in me.

Talbs13 · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:59

Its been 13 months and its getting tough. UK Visa Rejected. Was hoping to spend Christmas together and New Year. Everything seems to be going wrong.

Tonight she is with her friend and ignore my calls for nearly 6 hours. Then when she answered she said she was busy and hung up, turned her phone off etc. I'm just left thinking why? lol.

I have nobody to talk to about this.

Ben M · 21 Dec 2008 at 22:59

Nitefly said:
You can trust me. I'm nice.

lies!

Nitefly · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:00

Ben M said:
lies!

I didn't say you could trust me or that I would be nice to you.

*throws a pie*

MiNxYyY · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:00

When my current Gf first went away,i did find it hard to trust her from her previous reputation,but if your with mates you tend to forget about it and just enjoy the time while shes away

Sic · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:01

your lack of trust is a projection of your own infidelity

Atrox Moris · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:01

Trust in Jesus.

CliffyBiro · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:02

If you have little trust, try selling a few things in the MM.

Talbs13 · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:02

theDude said:
Dont try to improve your trust, can that even be done? improve your own self confidence.

This is my problem. I have ALWAYS lacked self-confidence. I've tried books, cd's etc. Sometimes i'm fine and sometimes i am just so down and always thinking something bad of her, that she is doing something wrong when in actual fact it's all my fault and i'm just being paranoid.

V4NT0M · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:03

I improve my thrust with plenty of protein and exercise.

Russinating · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:04

Talbs13 said:
I have nobody to talk to about this.

4real? And you think OcUK is?

semi-pro waster · 21 Dec 2008 at 23:04

Atrox Moris said:
Crazy Australians.

I don't think you can improve your trust in someone particularly, at least not in any short term sense, you've just got to evaluate their actions and see whether you find them to be worthy of your trust. Be careful that you aren't just allowing paranoia to cloud your judgement, there may be a perfectly innocent explanation as to why she didn't answer her phone for several hours (aside from anything else maybe she simply wanted to spend uninterrupted time with her friend) but equally try to assess it rationally.