txt stalker, can anything be done?

PardonTheWait · 24 Nov 2009 at 20:06

StewartMG said:
OP have you named yourself after James Morrison? Please God say no...

WTF?

Surely his username being James Morris is a little more likely to be due to his name being... James Morris, than being named after someone who's name IS NOT James Morris?

SexyGreyFox · 24 Nov 2009 at 20:52

goldilocks said:
Fear of 'what may happen' is irrational

And that's why we have Psychiatrists, Psychologists and Counsellors making lots of money because 1000s and 1000s of people have irrational fears.

goldilocks · 24 Nov 2009 at 21:29

dmpoole said:
And that's why we have Psychiatrists, Psychologists and Counsellors making lots of money because 1000s and 1000s of people have irrational fears.

That was some excellent selective quoting there...
My point was - with the protection of the police, and the the power / knowledge that that can give you, you may then be better armed to deal with the issue at hand!
If you have the sort of stalker who is likely to take things further than texts / phonecalls - then that is completely down to their and not your (as the victims) actions!
(otherwise you're going into the 'she made me do it' territory of beaten wives / revenge/honour killing etc etc)
As I said - I imagine it is a horrifically difficult decision with no right answer!

HAz · 24 Nov 2009 at 21:31

this troll has been over fed

MonkeySpy · 26 Nov 2009 at 18:02

Publish the stalkers phone number on here so we can all have some fun

SexyGreyFox · 26 Nov 2009 at 19:10

MonkeySpy said:
Publish the stalkers phone number on here so we can all have some fun

Now that is an excellent idea

Le_Petit_Lapin · 26 Nov 2009 at 19:12

What, all send him one text each every day?

Jamesdavid3 · 26 Nov 2009 at 19:16

Change her number..

How dumb can she be??

Wicksta · 26 Nov 2009 at 19:18

Jamesdavid3 said:
Change her number..

How dumb can she be??

Are you named after David James, the England goalkeeper?

K1LLSW1TCH · 26 Nov 2009 at 19:24

The OP's friend is an idiot. If something like this happens over and over then you change your number, it's an inconvenience at the worst. If he decides to keep showing up outside her house then she needs to get a restraining order in place. It's that simple.

To me it just sounds like she's one of these types who loves herself and loves the attention, and you've obviously fallen into her trap OP.

SexyGreyFox · 26 Nov 2009 at 19:44

Wicksta said:
Are you named after David James, the England goalkeeper?

Class

K1LLSW1TCH said:
The OP's friend is an idiot. If something like this happens over and over then you change your number, it's an inconvenience at the worst. If he decides to keep showing up outside her house then she needs to get a restraining order in place. It's that simple.

To me it just sounds like she's one of these types who loves herself and loves the attention, and you've obviously fallen into her trap OP.

Once again you have no idea how the human mind can work.
It may be that in this case the OP is trolling but I can assure you that women (and men) who are stalked, live in fear of their life and any change to the norm (they think) will make the stalker go further.
That means telling friends, telling the Police, changing numbers or whatever.

K1LLSW1TCH · 26 Nov 2009 at 19:59

No, I do understand that perhaps she is afraid of the repurcussions of making a change, for example informing the police. I can see how she would feel vulnerable and fear for her own safety thinking that any change in the current situation could result in her stalker becoming violent towards her etc. But then I think that the OP, instead of posting on the Internet should maybe be around her comforting her and if possible offering her a place to stay until the entire situation can be resolved, in legal terms or otherwise?