Uh-oh a girl thread...

GordyR said:
Okay just re-read back through some of this thread....

OMG to the above... Seriously... Dear god my boy you have no hope in hell with that attitude. :eek:

At risk of sounding egotistical (i'm genuinely not) i'm very successful with women and trust me, you are thinking about everything in completely the wrong way.

Here are my sure fire steps to success:

1. Grow a pair
2. Pick up the phone and say the following:- "Hey, it was nice hearing from you the other day and it got me to thinking... You're a nice girl and i'd really like to take you out for a drink"

And thats it!.... Stop there.... Say no more and no less....

It's short, to the point, doesn't smell of arrogance or desperation. That is the key to 'confidence' which is by far the most attractive quality to women. In one short sentence you've complimented her without sounding slushy or desperate, made her feel good about herself, laid your cards on the table without declaring your undying love for her and asked her out without begging. And actually asked her out in a, dare I say it, slightly "non-too-concerned about the outcome" manner.

In summary you've made her think you like her a bit. But she doesn't know how much.

Oh god now I feel as though I'm over analysing it myself. Just ring her, ask her out and get on with your life.
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agree :D

the next mornin you may find yourself waking up to a horror or a fine beauty, either way you will atleast know that you have attempted to move out of the friends zone.... taking a year knowing the girl before making a move has definately put you in the friends zone which can be hard getting out of. but if you go with confidence and leave her with some mystery to how much you like her then i'd have to say it's the safe bet.
 
ToxicTBag said:
You'll have a friend a lot longer than a lover, wouldn't you be happy with what you have now....its a mighty big risk to take :)
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Just wait til she finds a guy that you might even know and then know that he is having great fun going in and out of her ;) and you will certainly change your tune, not many worse feelings to have. :)
 
I did exactly what the op is proposign the other week. It was nerve recking and unfortunately didnt get the answer i wanted as it appears i have fallen into the freind zone but never the less it feels a lot better knowign where we stand than wondering.
 
Angst said:
I did exactly what the op is proposign the other week. It was nerve recking and unfortunately didnt get the answer i wanted as it appears i have fallen into the freind zone but never the less it feels a lot better knowign where we stand than wondering.
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too true, atleast you can try having your feelings let go if you meet someone else you like instead of hanging about in limbo.

what happens to you can only serve to be good whether it is good or bad at the time
 
Mate if you see her only 4-6 weeks, your not gonna loose out asking her and you have an 18 year old to smash if she says no to make you feel better?

Sounds pretty good to me tbh... GL
 
Drossla said:
Had enough of thinking about this girl without having a clue if she likes me. Going to call her tomorrow and ask her on a date, ill just say this might shock you because we've known each other for a while and I should have asked earlier but will you let me take you out on a date one night? Im ready for a no : )
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Thanks for this update, would read again next week.
 
Drossla said:
Had enough of thinking about this girl without having a clue if she likes me. Going to call her tomorrow and ask her on a date, ill just say this might shock you because we've known each other for a while and I should have asked earlier but will you let me take you out on a date one night? Im ready for a no : )
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One thing I would point out is that it's always better to use dominant language in these kind of contexts because it displays a bit more confidence/self-assurance. Replace 'will you let me' with 'I want to'. Don't ask. Tell. Women want you to lead. Say what you'd like to do and when, then see if that fits her schedule (if she accepts), rather than pleading 'will you go out with me/where would you like to eat/what day is best for you/can I kiss you?' That = cringe.
 
Drossla said:
Thanks mate ^^ todays the day but I really don't feel as if I have the courage to do it :(

I'm so pathetic!
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I hate to say it, but man the **** up pal.

Last girl I dated I hung out with for over a month before we established a relationship. In fact, up until I stuck my tongue down her gullet she was convinced I was gay because I didn't smash her pasty earlier (we'd been on nights out, she'd been way drunk, I'd walked her home and put her to bed and I'm an old-fashioned gent). Despite that, I was definitely not friend zoned. Best relationship of my life, even if it did crash and burn after 9 months. That's life, I'm glad I manned up. :)

He who asks is a fool for five minutes, he who doesn't is a fool forever.
 
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