Unmarried living together split after 18 years sorting finances

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first off my friend is seeking legal advice (already speaking to a solicitor)

I'd be interested to know if anyone knows the likely outcome or has any advice,

They each own a house outright (both are let)

They jointly own two houses (one of which they live in one is rented out)

She has not worked for 10 years - but he takes all the money from her rented house (and his) as well as the jointly owned house, she lives on £400 a month... she still has to pay for all the food and split additional bills from this £400.

So he gets the rent from all 3 houses + his salary + about half her £400 meaning he has managed to buy about 400k in stocks and shares over the years.

She put down the 200k deposit for the house they live in and jointly own (she was well paid before she quit work to look after her mother)

My feeling is all she will get is 50% of the two jointly owned houses and nothing else? (no children are involved)
 
I'd definitely be feeling aggrieved if I was her and not getting a portion of the "stocks and shares" that my rental income was invested into under his name.

Eh this is what the solicitor is paid for. I'm sure the first this they'll ask is, was anything put down in writing (and the first thing they'll hear is no).
 
I did lend her a laptop i7/8gb/256gb SSD 1080p screen which she will use to communicate with the solicitor and do any paperwork (i7 overkill for paperwork i know but its all i had) so there is a tiny IT angle on this to make it relevant to the forum
 
Pretty sure your friend is gonna he handing over at least 50%. Maybe more if the courts aren't convinced that he hasn't taken her for a ride the last 10 year's. (Which from your description alone sounds like shes been shafted hard)
 
tamzzy said:
this friend of yours...

...she looks like she been taken for a ride by her supposed "partner"...
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he has also messed her up in the head by constantly belittling her so she has gone from someone capable of earning 70k a year to someone too scared to apply for a job.. he keeps a diary on everything she does, when she goes out, who she went to see
 
edscdk said:
he has also messed her up in the head by constantly belittling her so she has gone from someone capable of earning 70k a year to someone too scared to apply for a job.. he keeps a diary on everything she does, when she goes out, who she went to see
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That's emotional abuse :(
 
edscdk said:
he has also messed her up in the head by constantly belittling her so she has gone from someone capable of earning 70k a year to someone too scared to apply for a job.. he keeps a diary on everything she does, when she goes out, who she went to see
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Wow, that's utterly messed up. What a freak.

Good luck to her and hopefully she takes him to the cleaners.
 
She might be able to claim the 200k is a beneficiary interest but probably not if she agreed to a joint tenancy agreement. She may have a claim to 'occupational rent' on the money he received from the other house.

I know about this as I'm in a similar situation. Ex decided she wanted to break up 7 months after I put my house in both our names and as we have kids living in the house I'm not entitled to anything until they're 16 or 18, I forget.
 
Sounds like you fancy the friend :D

It will be messy, common law isn’t the same anymore. I doubt she’ll get access to anything that’s not jointly owned.
 
You will have to research yourself but there is a rule that if your partner does not work and you split after 10 years of marriage then the working partner is has to keep the non working partner until they either remarry or a certain numbers of years pass.
My brother had this problem when he got divorced.
 
She's an idiot tbh...

Hopefully a solicitor can sort it out but why the **** would someone get into this situation in the first place? I don't mean just living together with a partner but actually diverting an entire income stream to them over several years so they can hold a bunch of investments in their name. Get married or have a civil partnership if you're going to do that, ditto to giving up work etc.. like that is part of the reason for it being useful int he first place.

If she paid a substantial deposit for the house they jointly owned then she ought to have a bigger chunk of it than 50/50.

Ideally they should sort it out amicably with him recognising the portion of the investment portfolio that was funded by the income from her property and share of the jointly owned rental property. And recognising that she probably owns most of the jointly owned house.
 
Usel said:
You will have to research yourself but there is a rule that if your partner does not work and you split after 10 years of marriage then the working partner is has to keep the non working partner until they either remarry or a certain numbers of years pass.
My brother had this problem when he got divorced.
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They're unmarried according to the thread title.
 
Your friend should speak to a domestic abuse charity, who will be able to advise her on reporting the partner to the police for controlling or coercive behaviour.
 
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