Violent Ex-Girlfriend

Kanye · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:25

OK, so im having real problems with my ex girlfriend :|

About a month ago she attacked me, for no real reason, in town while i was out drinking with some friends. She hit me over the head with a wine bottle and punched me etc. I reported it to the police and she got let off with a caution, which i pritty much knew would happen with it being the first offence etc. Now, i went out saturday night and again things kicked off... i was walking past her in a bar and the next thing i know she throws vodka and coke in my face and hits me over the head with the glass, to which she gets thrown out of the bar by the doormen. I did nothing to provoke her, i didnt even look at her. :-|

Now, the thing is, i saw her later that night and she said sorry, broke down in tears saying she still loved me and asked me to not report her to the police as she might lose her job (Works in a solicitors) but i cant help thinking that if i dont report her it will just keep on happening and maybe next time she will cause some serious damage towards me. I wont go into the details as to why she is so full of anger towards me because its a long story, but i wasnt a nice boyfriend because i was seeing other women, but surely thats no excuse for physical violence, we have been split up well over 6 months... isnt it time she moves on?

I still have feelings for her which makes it more difficult to goto the police because i know that this time round she will be in serious trouble... and last time i knew she would only get a caution.

What should i do? She assures me it wont happen again... but can i trust her? She didnt listen to the police caution? :|

Raymond Lin · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:27

She still hates you for cheating on her then, but i would report her, working in her profession she should know there are consequences to her actions.

geeza · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:27

report her again and make a full statement. If you smashed her over the head with a bottle im sure she would report you

james.miller · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:28

report her. cheating on her is no excuse for smashing you over the head with a glass bottle.

FeFiDoh · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:28

So ure saying she **** move on but u still have feelings for her and wont report her?

She probs broke down as she doesnt want to get fired so playing for sympathy, but in all honesty its what u get for cheating on a women so u dug ya self a hole u deal with it.

Sleepy · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:29

Report it, next time you might not get away so lightly, and honestly from what you've said she deserves everything that happens to her.

Gilly · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:29

I don't think I'd report her. Not this time. She showed remorse and in my eyes from what you say you did deserve a bit of a kicking anyway.

She knows she did wrong, time to leave it. If it happens again then raise the issue again.

Thats what I'd do anyway.

UKDTweak · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:30

Sounds like you were a real **** to her, to provoke such responces, however, no matter what you did, if you let her away with it, it may happen again, she may be saying things now, to try and save her skin....

james.miller · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:30

im sorry gilly i dont agree. she attacked him twice there's no excuse for that.

Kanye · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:32

Gilly said:
I don't think I'd report her. Not this time. She showed remorse and in my eyes from what you say you did deserve a bit of a kicking anyway.

She knows she did wrong, time to leave it. If it happens again then raise the issue again.

Thats what I'd do anyway.

I think your right Gilly.

Im going to see her later tonight and see how she acts, i think we have a lot to discuss and get things laid to rest because its getting out of hand.... if it seems she doesnt give a damn and shows no sympathy ill report her.

Yas786 · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:32

Gilly said:
I don't think I'd report her. Not this time. She showed remorse and in my eyes from what you say you did deserve a bit of a kicking anyway.

She knows she did wrong, time to leave it. If it happens again then raise the issue again.

Thats what I'd do anyway.

Yep id agree with this, let it go but warn her next time she does anything like that, you will make a full report etc.

KaHn · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:32

I would wait, I wouldn't ruin the girls life over something so small, if she does it again a swift kick to the ovaries

D), but in all seriousness you will get a lot of people here saying "report the cow" without knowing the situation, if you feel the need to have her arrested/locked up because of this then so be it, but next time when you think its going to happen just don't turn your back on the girl, or learn to duck quicker.

KaHn

Gilly · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:32

james.miller said:
im sorry gilly i dont agree. she attacked him twice there's no excuse for that.

He's screwed her over and she's already had an official warning.

Should she get hurt with no comeback yet lose her entire career she'll have worked years for just because this guy couldn't keep his **** in his pants?

He deserved some comeback at least. He got some. If it happens again I'd report it, I think reporting it now is overkill.

Kanye · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:33

UKDTweak said:
Sounds like you were a real **** to her, to provoke such responces, however, no matter what you did, if you let her away with it, it may happen again, she may be saying things now, to try and save her skin....

agreeing with Gilly, but i also agree with you! LOL

I really dont know what to do. Im so confused and there are so many feeling flying around inside me. Ive never felt like this before :-(

FeFiDoh · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:33

i agree with gilly his own fault got no1 else to blame so its not as if she was in the wrong in the first place

paul@ · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:33

Guilty of cheating with her, and she uses physical violence against you and she is guilty.

Fair play, now she starts again I would report her.

james.miller · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:34

oh he should be kicked in the balls for sure, not attacked in the street twice. IF she'd have seriously hurt him, would it still be ok?

Dup · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:34

If anyone thinks their going to get away with something, they will do it again. If she threw a drink on you, fair enough. But smashing you with glasses and bottles?! What if it was your face next time?

You might have done the dirty on her, but that dosen't call for facial disfigurement. Most girls just get in bed with your best mate instead, just becasue she's a girl dosen't mean she can get away with it after a few easy tears. Like her or not, if she casues permanent damage to you and you want to take things further, a second report in the meantime will go in your favour.

Kanye · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:35

james.miller said:
oh he should be kicked in the balls for sure, not attacked in the street twice. IF she'd have seriously hurt him, would it still be ok?

Exactly, i mean, if that glass hit me in the eye or something and smashed it could have done some damage. Luckily i didnt turn around while i had the vodka in my eyes, so she only hit the back of my head. got a nice lump though lol

Matblack · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:35

Gilly said:
He's screwed her over and she's already had an official warning.

Should she get hurt with no comeback yet lose her entire career she'll have worked years for just because this guy couldn't keep his **** in his pants?

He deserved some comeback at least. He got some. If it happens again I'd report it, I think reporting it now is overkill.

Kudos to the Gillbot, this would be my reaction too. Looks like you've had one pop at screwing up her life and managed to emotionally damage her. Maybe you need to cut her some slack. But if it happens again I'd report it

MB