Violent Ex-Girlfriend

Kanye · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:37

This is the problem guys.

I really dont think she will do it again, but i just dont know for sure do i?

I think i got what i deserved the first time around.. the wine bottle really hurt lol

But we have been split up 6 months now and i have not contacted her or been anywhere near her since.
I think its about time she let the relationship RIP, but she cant do it.
She told me last night she still loves me and wants to get back with me :|

4T5 · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:37

She is a girl you jessies just laugh in her face and walk away.
The worst X i have had was one we shall call Dodgey Rodgers ( she knows who she is

) Absolute looney and after some incidents there was just one pub in my manor that was safe for me to go without the glass throwing or drink in the face jobby. She was banned from that pub.

The solution was going with the local hard woman. I related with her for a few weeks and the nutter moved on to someone else. :cool:

You Cannot report her though dude as you ******* around so just take your punishment like a man and try to avoid her.

mutters · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:42

Shop her in to the cops, girls enjoy double standards when it suits them & their lack of self control. It sounds like the OP could do with a lesson in self-control but still, getting physically attacked is no way for a half-decent girl to behave.

come on guys - would you want your solicitor to be the type to hit someone over the head with a bottle???

Sleepy · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:43

So its acceptable for some one to stew over a failed relationship for 6 months physically attack their ex with an object luckily not doing too much harm. Then one month later again initiate an unprovoked attack on her ex. Just exactly why should she be forgiven, next time she glasses him and he ends up scared for life or dead will you be so smug in excusing her physically attacking him?

Kanye when you see her tonight do it in a public place, that way she wont be able to accuse you of anything. Plus if she does go pyscho you'll have witnesses.

jezsoup · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:46

Gilly said:
I don't think I'd report her. Not this time. She showed remorse and in my eyes from what you say you did deserve a bit of a kicking anyway.

She knows she did wrong, time to leave it. If it happens again then raise the issue again.

Thats what I'd do anyway.

Yup spot on tbh. She said sorry everyone makes mistakes and all.

Old Turkey · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:47

You dont deserve being physically hurt at all. I tell you what, we live in a perverse World when people think it ok to dish out 'justice' like this for 'cheating' yet to hang a man for killing another is abhorred. Utterly bizarre.

I think this is quite sad because clearly the girl has been traumatised by the breakup, and my intuition tells me that her harming you is her way of letting you know how much you hurt her. She needs help in my view.

I personally would take a very benevolent approach to all this.

callmeBadger · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:49

Don't report her, seems you screwed her mind up a bit, also think of the boys on blue when you go down the cop shop to report her AGAIN.

"So Mr Kanye, you got beaten up by a teeny weeny girl, TWICE!"

Shes throwing drinks and bottles and stuff at you, stay away from the lass. No great effort as girls can't through more then 10 feet, and even at shorter distances, its at best 1 in 10 that they will hit you.

She's probably been attacking you for months, just her aim is finally improving.

VIRII · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:50

If this was a bloke bottling and glassing a female over cheating on him would anyone suggest that after the second incident that she did not report it?

I would report it to the police, her actions are way out of control and potentially lethal.

The police can't press charges unless you agree to it so although it IS a waste of police time if you report her but drop it I think it might be the best option.

dirtydog · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:52

Definitely report it - it shouldn't even be a question mate seriously. And I would press charges all the way too.

FeFiDoh · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:54

yeah he says it aint unprovoked but *** do we know

Just laugh in her face, the ex g/f tried to attack me b4 and punched me when i was in one of my worse states. I just laughed in her face and she told my sis that is was the worse thing i could have done as it was her only time she could pysically hurt me and i laughed it off

Nix · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:57

Old Turkey said:
You dont deserve being physically hurt at all. I tell you what, we live in a perverse World when people think it ok to dish out 'justice' like this for 'cheating' yet to hang a man for killing another is abhorred. Utterly bizarre.

I think this is quite sad because clearly the girl has been traumatised by the breakup, and my intuition tells me that her harming you is her way of letting you know how much you hurt her. She needs help in my view.

I personally would take a very benevolent approach to all this.

Old Turk' speaks the truth.

I would personally agree with Gilly on this. Let it go this time because you obviously have hurt her. She is probably playing you in regards to keeping her job but this also shows she knows what she did was wrong and also the consequences if she follows suit again. Just be careful when you're out in future, if you know she or her friends are there: watch your back. If she does it or tries it again go straight to the police. If you're speaking to her beforehand it would be sensible to let this be known to her.

basmic · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:57

At the end of the day, she's the one breaking the law by assaulting you - physically and verbally, by the sounds of things.

You waved your tackle about while with another woman, which was wrong. But I'm sure you've had verbal beatings off people (including your ex) long before she physically attacked you.

I'd report her, otherwise she's going to carry on, knowing you'll do sweet Fanny Adams about it.

As a solicitor she should know better. If she goes around breaking the law, then her fitness to be a solicitor is questionable.

Gilly · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:58

VIRII said:
The police can't press charges unless you agree to it so although it IS a waste of police time if you report her but drop it I think it might be the best option.

This might be another way I'd think about.

nomad · 27 Mar 2006 at 12:59

callmeBadger said:
She's probably been attacking you for months, just her aim is finally improving.

lmfao, so likely to be true....

As said above I would meet up with her somewhere public and make it clear that this stops now otherwise you will be going to the old bill and reporting her good and proper. She has probably seen the error of her ways, and dear god don't be tempted into giving her one for the road, it will start it all over again.

afraser2k · 27 Mar 2006 at 13:00

dirtydog said:
Definitely report it - it shouldn't even be a question mate seriously. And I would press charges all the way too.

Agreed. If it was the other way round then everyone would be on at the bloke getting done, along with all the keyboard warriors adding their 2p.

AJUK · 27 Mar 2006 at 13:01

As she works for a solicitor, ask her advice about a restraining order.

Report her and follow through with it otherwise it won't stop. Alternatively, next time she attacks you, fight back and punch her out, you will be within your rights as she attacked you.

dirtydog · 27 Mar 2006 at 13:03

afraser2k said:
Agreed. If it was the other way round then everyone would be on at the bloke getting done, along with all the keyboard warriors adding their 2p.

Yep. I'm all for equality of the sexes personally...

Nix · 27 Mar 2006 at 13:04

Has anyone else on here had a violent girlfriend like the OP?

basmic · 27 Mar 2006 at 13:04

AJUK said:
Report her and follow through with it otherwise it won't stop. Alternatively, next time she attacks you, fight back and punch her out, you will be within your rights as she attacked you.

Two wrongs don't make a right - although I can't say I wouldn't be tempted to deck her.

If she misbehaves, then she should be prepared for the repercussions of her misbehaviour.

dirtydog · 27 Mar 2006 at 13:05

Nix said:
Has anyone else on here had a violent girlfriend like the OP?

I dated a girl once who became a bit violent when I told her I didn't want to see her any more, but nothing too serious. Her reaction only vindicated my decision.