Wedding Date Hell
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Sounds complicated, weddings are hassle enough without trying to please everyone. Just remember you're doing it for yourselves, not for the benefit of your family's. There has to be some sort of compromise, isn't that what married life is all about after all 
I got married on a Saturday, and if people wanted to come, they came. If someone I knew was getting married, i'd do what I had to to make it.
Hope you get sorted anyway, stressful sorting it all out so good luck. Cost me less then 3k btw, 18 grand yikes.
I got married on a Saturday, and if people wanted to come, they came. If someone I knew was getting married, i'd do what I had to to make it.
Hope you get sorted anyway, stressful sorting it all out so good luck. Cost me less then 3k btw, 18 grand yikes.
Compromise, with a woman?!
This is what you do.
You both get married abroad and don't tell anyone until you get back. Saves you having relatives that you only see at weddings and funerals, and saves people bickering about having to get a day off..
Plus the weather will be better
You both get married abroad and don't tell anyone until you get back. Saves you having relatives that you only see at weddings and funerals, and saves people bickering about having to get a day off..
Plus the weather will be better
Our wedding cost about 3k all in
That included getting married in the Caribbean and a big party when we got back
Please don't take this the wrong way, but isn't that awfully selfish on her families part. I mean it's going to be one day out of their business to see their daughter get married, surely their businesses aren't that struggling that much that missing one days takings will ruin them?
They seem to be happy to let greed dictate as to when the most important day of their daughters life takes place, which pretty much puts you in an impossible situation, I assume she won't want to get married unless they are there?
They seem to be happy to let greed dictate as to when the most important day of their daughters life takes place, which pretty much puts you in an impossible situation, I assume she won't want to get married unless they are there?
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As Raymond probably knows already, it's more a case of 18k out and then after the wedding around 6-8k returned through financial gifts from the other half's family. I still need the money as an initial outlay though.
I agree with all the sentiment that it's just one day etc..., but I also understand that she wants the event to be how her family and friends expect it.
It seems as if the auspicious date may have to be sacraficed, much to the disappointment of her mum. That leaves us witht he 28th of october as a possibility now.
I am stil undecided as to what is more selfish, buggering off to the middle of nowhere and robbing your family of the opportunity to celebrate your day with you, or expecting a family member to be so extravagant with their wedding in the first place.
The main difficulty for her is that a lot of people she knows have their wedding paid for by their parents. Because I come from a culture where it is the bride's parents who pay and in her's the grooms, we are paying for it all ourselves. Unfortunately, a lot of people seem to forget this and the expectation of a big party remains.
To put this into perspective, we are having over 200 people to the main meal, which is a Chinese banquet. This is usually £500 for a table of 10 people.
I agree with all the sentiment that it's just one day etc..., but I also understand that she wants the event to be how her family and friends expect it.
It seems as if the auspicious date may have to be sacraficed, much to the disappointment of her mum. That leaves us witht he 28th of october as a possibility now.
I am stil undecided as to what is more selfish, buggering off to the middle of nowhere and robbing your family of the opportunity to celebrate your day with you, or expecting a family member to be so extravagant with their wedding in the first place.
The main difficulty for her is that a lot of people she knows have their wedding paid for by their parents. Because I come from a culture where it is the bride's parents who pay and in her's the grooms, we are paying for it all ourselves. Unfortunately, a lot of people seem to forget this and the expectation of a big party remains.
To put this into perspective, we are having over 200 people to the main meal, which is a Chinese banquet. This is usually £500 for a table of 10 people.
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Please don't take this the wrong way, but isn't that awfully selfish on her families part. I mean it's going to be one day out of their business to see their daughter get married, surely their businesses aren't that struggling that much that missing one days takings will ruin them?
They seem to be happy to let greed dictate as to when the most important day of their daughters life takes place, which pretty much puts you in an impossible situation, I assume she won't want to get married unless they are there?
it's not her mum who has the business, she has retired. It's pretty much all of her uncles and aunts though, as well as loads of family friends.
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seems that way tbh, but we have been seeing each other for 5 1/2 years, own a flat together but are not living together until we get wed. There is no way I am waiting until 2009
Gotcha.
Seems even more reason to go with the date that suits you then as it's not her immediate family.
But if they don't want to give up a Saturday to go to the wedding, who is being selfish..
It is your day, enjoy it HOW you two want to..
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hey, I agree completely, but I'm just not allowed to say it lol
Why not?? you are one half of the "wedding" so to speak, I would be livid if other people were dictating what we had to do on our wedding day, we decided between ourselves, then told people "we are going to Cuba, and getting married!"
Is the wedding for the two of you or the 762 other people you are thinking of inviting?
Mohinder has the right idea. Me and the missus are sodding off to Vegas or somewhere equally as cheesy if we ever get hitched.