Wedding gifts for evening do?

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I received an image in a message from a friends soon to be wife basically asking for money for their honeymoon instead of a gift.

I’ve never brought a gift to an evening wedding reception, have you?

For me only day dos when there’s food and drinks - as that costs a lot of money.

Evening do you turn up, ask how the wedding was and go to the (usually) overpriced bar
 
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FBi7 said:
Username checks out :D

So, you're not invited to the wedding and she still wants something off you? I wouldn't be going in the evening either.
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Wedding was close family only
NoobCannon said:
For an evening. Id stick £20 in a card tbh, if you dont really care for the bride/groom then don't worry about it!
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Yeh, will do this. Think they are quite poor, the evening venue isnt exactly the Ritz!
 
Semple said:
I'd just buy a bottle of prosecco and a card for an evening invite.

It's very crass and tacky to be begging your guests for money towards a honeymoon.
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Depends on the level of " begging "

When we got married we didn't ask for gifts, we had been living together for 5 years before so the tradition wedding gifts of cupboard junk wasn't needed. Instead we setup a webpage where our guests could put money toward items / trips that we were going to do on our honeymoon in Malaysia.

We were by no means begging people, it was only if they wanted too and we made it clear it wasn't necessary either.
 
R3dRaven said:
Depends on the level of " begging "

When we got married we didn't ask for gifts, we had been living together for 5 years before so the tradition wedding gifts of cupboard junk wasn't needed. Instead we setup a webpage where our guests could put money toward items / trips that we were going to do on our honeymoon in Malaysia.

We were by no means begging people, it was only if they wanted too and we made it clear it wasn't necessary either.
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Yeah pretty much this. We included a little poem in our invites that said similar. We didn’t need cutlery sets etc as had been together for about 15 years already :D

Calling them “quite poor” sounds a bit snobbish. If that’s your attitude towards them then probably just don’t go.
 
If they need(ed) money they should have saved it and just eloped.

My mate (well, the parents paid for the bulk) spent an absolute fortune on his wedding because she wanted all the bells and whistles.

A few years back he said they could have had their mortgage cleared with the money.
 
Reuben klang said:
If they need(ed) money they should have saved it and just eloped.

My mate (well, the parents paid for the bulk) spent an absolute fortune on his wedding because she wanted all the bells and whistles.

A few years back he said they could have had their mortgage cleared with the money.
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I don’t think they “need” the money and the op has just taken it way out of context. I presume they have just asked instead of the usual useless gifts that are traditionally given as a wedding present, that if people would like to give a present, they would prefer money that they could use during their honeymoon.
 
Heisenberg said:
Yeah pretty much this. We included a little poem in our invites that said similar. We didn’t need cutlery sets etc as had been together for about 15 years already :D

Calling them “quite poor” sounds a bit snobbish. If that’s your attitude towards them then probably just don’t go.
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Ok, not poor, but ‘not much money’

Hence an image sent on social media asking for money for their honeymoon from guests going to an evening do.

When I get married, I wouldn’t expect gifts/money from guests going to the evening do only. Id just be glad they came - most evening guests travel quite far and make arrangements to come for whats usually 3 or 4 hours of drinks. Day guests by that point are quite drunk (having been at the venue for 8 odd hours already)

I’ll just stick £20 in a card and enjoy the evening :)
 
Guest2 said:
Ok, not poor, but ‘not much money’

Hence an image sent on social media asking for money for their honeymoon from guests going to an evening do.

When I get married, I wouldn’t expect gifts/money from guests going to the evening do only. Id just be glad they came - most evening guests travel quite far and make arrangements to come for whats usually 3 or 4 hours of drinks. Day guests by that point are quite drunk (having been at the venue for 8 odd hours already)

I’ll just stick £20 £10 in a card and enjoy the evening :)
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Fixed that for you.
 
Something like this came up last year with my cousin.

I've always been of a mind that wedding gifts were in large to help a new couple/family get a start in life. My cousin and his partner decided to have big expensive event (which they made sure everyone was aware of frequently), both are in their mid to late 30's, had kids together and had been living together for close to a decade.

When they asked for money instead of gifts I honestly thought they were taking the pee, they got a card wishing them all the best and that was it.
 
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