Wedding gifts for evening do?
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I've been to around 10 evening weddings do's, there was only food at one of them. Most are overpriced bars at UK wedding venues (nice venues but as everyone knows as soon as 'wedding' is heard its x3 the price for everything)
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Got my brother in law's wedding in a few weeks me and the missus got bugger all off him at our wedding guess what we're getting him for his
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I've never been to any wedding where there wasn't food of some sort later in the evening, there must have been some real states by the end if some of them hadn't eaten since the afternoon!
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Money in a card. 20 quid 50quid?
They won't look at it or open it till next day anyway and you'll be long gone.
F them if they are ungreatful.
Unless it's an open bar or something good planned your gonna have to fork out a ton on drinks, taxis, hotel?
I had to blow off a few good mates weddings because I simply couldn't afford to travel, pay hotel, pay drinks etc. I wasn't particularly super financially good in my 20s... Shame but life is so.
They won't look at it or open it till next day anyway and you'll be long gone.
F them if they are ungreatful.
Unless it's an open bar or something good planned your gonna have to fork out a ton on drinks, taxis, hotel?
I had to blow off a few good mates weddings because I simply couldn't afford to travel, pay hotel, pay drinks etc. I wasn't particularly super financially good in my 20s... Shame but life is so.
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The evening receptions ive been to have started around 19:30, wedding day guest would eat I expect at around 13:00 and 18:00, then later on evening guests arrive.
That's not normal, usually, UK weddings have just one formal meal, the wedding breakfast with the speeches etc.. some trays of appetisers before the main meal and then food later in the evening is typically ad hoc rather than some formal sit-down thing.
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Seems about right for full day weddings - food in the evening but not a sit down meal.
I've certainly been to some evening receptions where there is no food served - I ate before I arrived, congratulated the couple, met a few people then went to the bar. Back home in the early hours.
The exception is Indian weddings i've been to - they REALLY go all out. Multiple meals, multiple days, different attire for certain events, open bars, fireworks etc.
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As Dowie covered, every wedding I've ever been to feeds evening arrivals (a member on this very forum fed me at his wedding when I came in the evening
) Sure it isn't formal, more of a buffet approach, hog roast etc.
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Not all weddings are not the same though.As Dowie covered, every wedding I've ever been to feeds evening arrivals (a member on this very forum fed me at his wedding when I came in the evening
Sure it isn't formal, more of a buffet approach, hog roast etc.
Some there's been no food in the evening, some there's been hog roasts, some buffet.
My mum and dad went to one recently where they arrived at 5pm and 2 trays of sandwishes ran out almost instantly. They had no food, just drinks which were highly overpriced
I'd assume that's what Guest2 means. As you say, typically a more formal sit-down meal for the main guests after the ceremony and photos have taken place. This could be right on lunchtime or early afternoon depending on timing of the ceremony, how far guests have to travel between ceremony and venue, and how long photos take.
I don't think it's 'that' much later after speeches and main meals have finished that evening guests start to turn up. The last few weddings I've been to have had some form of hot food served - Bacon/sausage butties, fish and chips, dirty fries - pretty much anything the bride/groom wanted. Seems to be more of an in-thing to have something more casual/informal for food.
Bring a bottle is what I would do. Bringing a bottle allows you to effectively bring the same in monetary value anyway as you can bring bottles of wine from a fiver up to whatever you want. Typical wedding of non family member I would probably grab a £30 ish bottle of bubbly.
At our wedding we never mentioned anything to do with gifts or money on the invite. If people want to they can, but mentioning it or linking to "your wedding list".... cringe.
At our wedding we never mentioned anything to do with gifts or money on the invite. If people want to they can, but mentioning it or linking to "your wedding list".... cringe.
Yup, what I mean to point out though is that because it's ad hoc and not a formal sit-down thing there perhaps isn't so much of a set time for it. Like if they have a BBQ and hog roast and start giving out that food before evening guests arrive you'll probably still find there are burgers, hot dogs and cuts from the hog roast available + snacks and whatever else has been put out - chocolate fountains etc..
An Ice cream van turning up and giving out 99 flakes to everyone was a fun addition at one wedding.
Ahh gotcha, yeah too early and the main guests are still full from the formal dinner, and too late and they're then starving. I think the last few I was at the evening food turned up I reckon about 7pm - at which point I reckon the majority of evening guests had arrived by then.
Besides there's normally more than enough to go around, so even late arrivals usually still have a chance for some grub.