Weird neighbour keeps moving our pram.
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The site management have a duty to ensure communal areas are kept clear, for legal and social reasons. So while it's easy to sympathise with the OP's situation, no resident has the right to leave anything whatsoever in a communal area. So once you leave something out there for more than the few minutes which are entirely reasonable (eg when moving in or out) you've lost the moral high ground.
The new neighbour may be a little strange, but welcome to living in flats... neighbours can be strange! However in this case the neighbour is probably just ensuring you know they're not happy with you leaving the pram there.
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Anyone who can't carry a few kg needs removing from the gene pool.
It's not just the weight, it's carrying a kid that's wriggling, crying, trying to get down, and that you preferably don't want to drop down two flights of stairs because you were carrying a pram, some of which can be very heavy, under the other arm. You are obviously an a-grade weapon.
Anyone who can't carry a few kg needs removing from the gene pool.
He never said his wife couldn't carry it, merely that he leaves it downstairs to make it easier for her. I dont think thats unreasonable.
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Seems obvious to me...it's a passive aggressive move to make the other residents sick of you leaving it strewn about so they complain and you stop leaving it there.
They'll be another forum somewhere with a question of "some **** keeps leaving the pram in the way of the door, what can I do about it?"
As others have said, it is a communal space and it's probably in the rules of the building (if you have one) that the spaces can't be blocked in any way in case there is a fire.
They'll be another forum somewhere with a question of "some **** keeps leaving the pram in the way of the door, what can I do about it?"
As others have said, it is a communal space and it's probably in the rules of the building (if you have one) that the spaces can't be blocked in any way in case there is a fire.
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I agree that seems so reasonable the OP should have no problem explaining this to the weird neighbour or leaving a note on the pram.
As the OP IS leaving it tucked to one side and not in the way and the neighbour is the one ppotentially breaking an agreement by moving it to a location that blocks access, maybe those of you who think he is leaving it in the way should bloody read the first post properly!
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OP, can't you use one of those baby carriers which are hand held? It does depend on how old the child is though.
Oh, and of course, thread needs pics of aforementioned wife
Oh, and of course, thread needs pics of aforementioned wife
Place kid in baby carrier then. Couple kg in either hand shouldn't be difficult even for a 50kg female.
I'd jump downstairs right now and ask him if it's a problem.
As for the action of taking it down and all these comments of don't leave it lying around, it's a pram not a car engine.
If you can't cut some slack to those with kids or those younger (or weaker than you, just for you Harry) then I can say your upbringing would have been different coz I'm sure there was a time in your infancy when your mum and dad did something similar for you. So if your small-minded-ness has a problem understanding that I guess they dropped you but not hard enough.
As for the action of taking it down and all these comments of don't leave it lying around, it's a pram not a car engine.
If you can't cut some slack to those with kids or those younger (or weaker than you, just for you Harry) then I can say your upbringing would have been different coz I'm sure there was a time in your infancy when your mum and dad did something similar for you. So if your small-minded-ness has a problem understanding that I guess they dropped you but not hard enough.
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Anyone who can't carry a few kg needs removing from the gene pool.
There is something seriously wrong with you. Going to ignore you now.
The pram isn't some foldable Mclaren, it's a heavy one with a proper wheels so she can walk with the little one to school and the shops. There is no way I would allow my wife to walk down stairs holding the baby and a pram, even a folded Mclaren, it's not worth the risk. Like I said the pram is completely out the way, this guy just pulls it in the way, perhaps to annoy other residents.
I already said in the OP that I was going to confront him, so no need for MTFU comments, I just wanted to hear some other people's thoughts, especially on the "should I bother filming" thing. Just wanted to cover my bases, I have no idea what he's like.
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Anyone who can't carry a few kg needs removing from the gene pool.
I can't carry anything of note due to being paralysed below the knees and needing carbon fibre splints to hold my feet/ankles in place just so I can stand up and walk. It's only modest to keep me in shape but I can bench 80kg just can't carry it anywhere. This is what's called context, you always need to look at the context of a situation before you pass rash judgement.
So 'Harry, do I remove myself from the gene pool or does context carry me through?
If it's not foldable then I think what you've described is perfectly fair.
Do you have a noticeboard in your block of flats? If so I'd put a note up on there explaining the situation to all residents. That way everyone will know you're being considerate and trying to keep the pram out the way, and the guy who's moving it might stop.
Do you have a noticeboard in your block of flats? If so I'd put a note up on there explaining the situation to all residents. That way everyone will know you're being considerate and trying to keep the pram out the way, and the guy who's moving it might stop.
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No, it's a small new build development of only 12 flats, so it's basically just a small area at the entrance where the postboxes are, and there's no lift. I know what you mean though, my bro lives in a high rise block of flats and they have a notice board and a facebook page for the building
If the guy has a problem with walking past a pram in the corner in the morning, he can walk directly up to my front door at the top of the stairs, it's directly opposite his fire door. I don't know his exact flat number since I saw him walk out of the fire door which leads to 3 front doors. This is why I have to wait in the morning to catch him doing it so he can't feign ignorance and we can just sort it out there.
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Op should move. Buy a house, problem solved.
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Maybe the fella is also keeping something in the communal area and needs to move your pram to get to it?
Just have a chat, and hopefully he won't turn out to be a nutter.
Just have a chat, and hopefully he won't turn out to be a nutter.