What male greetings/acknowledgements for young female acquaintances/random persons?

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Evening everyone,

I've realised recently that there's this lil area in socialising I'm not quite sure about. I've started sixth form this year, and as you’d have been meeting lots of new people, both on the way to and from, as well as at the place.

However, there's something I'm a bit hazy about that I never really noticed before. Basically, what noun do I use for girls my age in situations such as friendly greetings, functional talking and general chatter?

I don't think I'm making much sense here, so I think it's easier if I show the male equivalent, which seems more straight forward to me. The term I would use for guys more or less my age is usually 'mate', but sometimes 'dude', 'pal' and even 'man'; I switch to 'sir' if they appear somewhat older. This would fill all kinds of aforementioned situations, creating lines such as: "Hey mate." (passing someone you recognize in the street), "Cheers mate." (when someone holds a door open for you), "How's it going mate?/Excuse me mate, has the 44 gone already?" Etc. etc.

Hopefully now, you're getting more what I mean. There’re a number of words I could use, but none of them quite seem to fit. Examples:

"Miss" - Sounds like you're talking to a teacher.
"Love" - This always seems a little disrespectful and archaic to me.
"Hunni/Hun/Honey" - Well, as you can see, it's not the most palatable of terms, and perhaps best left in the world of girl interaction.
"Girl" - Again, disrespectful and perhaps chauvinistic.
"Babe" - A bit pretentious
"mate" - I guess some people probably use this, but not sure if it fits for girls.
"madam" - I use this solely for much older women.

I guess what most people would say is just leave out any such word, but I feel that seems a bit less friendly and more awkward. Maybe I am just strange, and that's what most people do anyway. When you get to know them better, it's a totally different business of course.

Your thoughts appreciated. :)
 
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Just smile more.

Why would you call someone mam who isn't your mum? :/

Love is fine if you've the right accent. It sounds wrong on any southerner other than a cockerknee wideboy.

Essex bwois would use darlin'.
 
Gilly said:
Just smile more.

Why would you call someone mam who isn't your mum? :/

Love is fine if you've the right accent. It sounds wrong on any southerner other than a cockerknee wideboy.

Essex bwois would use darlin'.
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Yeah, I guess accent has a lot to do with it.

And that was meant to be 'madam'. :)
 
If you really must,use the word hen. Women hate it :D .


"Cheers hen!" "am not a ******* hen!!!!!!!" etc etc.

Ive never found the need to call them anything. Shake hand,hi im X how you doing,she says her name,you then have a name to call her by :confused:
 
I suppose dudet would be fine but unless you use dude probably isn't your cup of tea!

Edit: 1.Dudet
a ingrown hair from a horse's butt

Apparently the correct term is dudess according to urban dictionary.
 
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peteruk said:
Yep, I agree that ideally that's best, but sometimes the pace of the situation doesn't always allow an introduction.
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Ah.....hold on. I think ive found where im stuck aswell. At work,you want a customer to come to the till or whatever but they are daydreaming. I would say "i'll just put it through over here sir" or something along those lines but today i was like um shout and hope she realises im talking to her.
 
Jonny ///M said:
Ah.....hold on. I think ive found where im stuck aswell. At work,you want a customer to come to the till or whatever but they are daydreaming. I would say "i'll just put it through over here sir" or something along those lines but today i was like um shout and hope she realises im talking to her.
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Excuse me is pretty standard when you want someone's attention.
 
Don't use anything? Greetings are largely superfluous anyway―do you really lose any meaning when saying “good morning, how may I help you?” as opposed to “good morning sir, how may I help you?” or “good morning ma'am, how may I help you?”?
 
Why do you have to use anything? I can't stand when people who don't know me call me "love/honey/mate" etc and I'd bet a lot of other women feel the same way.
 
Malt_Vinegar said:
Excuse me is pretty standard when you want someone's attention.
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:rolleyes: Silly me.


I actualyl totally forgot so slapped you with a rolleyes.

bet yeh,i hate the "EXXXXXXCUSE ME I WANT SERVED FIRST BEFORE EVERYONE ELSE" members of the public so i try not to use "excuse me" a lot. What happens if they say "your excused" :confused:
 
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errr lol

How about hello.

THen hello Sarah when you know her name for example

for blokes id use the:

Hello mate, dood, geeezer, me old china, guvnor, chap.

I prefer chap and chapess. :p
 
Efour2 said:
errr lol

How about hello.

THen hello Sarah when you know her name for example

for blokes id use the:

Hello mate, dood, geeezer, me old china, guvnor, chap.

I prefer chap and chapess. :p
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You cant say dood,ever.....never ever. Unless its DOOOOOOOOOOOOD and you go for a high five or something but dood is prohibited and should be kept in cheesy american 80's movies :(
 
Usually for me it's something like hello but with an 'ooo' on the end - specifically reserved for girls. So it's like helloooo (but not pronounced as a normal hello, it is as in Winnie the Pooh). Oh and don't forget the quick flick of the hand (upwards once from resting) in a mini-wave kind of thing. Wow, I didn't realise what I did before actually thinking it through just now.

I find that it's pretty effective as I usually say 'bud' or 'man' (not in a cheesy way mind) for guys.
 
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